Funeral Customs in Islam

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The gracious invitation to a mosque has led me to this question:

What are current funeral customs in Islam? Burial vs. Cremation? Funeral services - do they happen? If so, at a funeral home or at a mosque? Do Muslims believe in embalming along with visitation/wake?

(For those who may think this is a strange leap in thought :D, I am frequently in other churches (mainly Christian, both Catholic and Protestant) as part of my work. I have not, however, ever been to a mosque. Perhaps their funeral customs would explain why not.)
 
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What are current funeral customs in Islam?
I posted few photographs about the related topic in Ask about Islam thread . InshaAllah will try to find that .
 
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I posted few photographs about the related topic in Ask about Islam thread . InshaAllah will try to find that .
OK, thank you, Muslim Woman. I suppose I should have tried the search thread option first. :o I usually don’t have a whole lot of luck with that though, I end up with a whole bunch of threads that I have to spend hours going through to find what may or may not be what I’m looking for. 🤷 Probably operator error. 😃
 
Muslim burial services are relatively simple.

The body is washed (ideally by relatives) and then wrapped in white cloth, and buried. There is no embalming, no fancy coffin, etc. There is a prayer service held at the mosque and then the body is taken to be buried.

It is very simple, and from what I’m told is very similar to a traditional Jewish burial.
 
The Messenger of Allah (s.a.w) said: “I forbade you from visiting graves, but now you may visit them, for in visiting them there is a reminder of the hereafter.”

Did God change his mind again here? Or did muhammad play God again?
 
At the beginning of Islam, visiting graves was not allowed for men and women alike, because the Muslims were new in Islam and came from a background where grave-worship and attachment to the dead were widespread. So they were forbidden to visit graves as a preventative measure, to avoid evil and prevent shirk. But once Islam was well-established and they understood Islam, Allah prescribed visiting the graves because of the lessons and reminders of death and the Hereafter involved in that.
 


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Islamic Funeral Rites

…Upon death, those with the deceased are encouraged to remain calm, pray for the departed, and begin preparations for burial.

The eyes of the deceased should be closed, and the body covered temporarily with a clean sheet. It is forbidden for those in mourning to excessively wail, scream, or thrash about. Grief is normal when one has lost a loved one, and it is natural and permitted to cry.

When the Prophet Muhammad’s (p) own son died, he said: “The eyes shed tears and the heart is grieved, but we will not say anything except which pleases our Lord.” One should strive to be patient, and remember that Allah is the One who gives life and takes it away, at a time appointed by Him. It is not for us to question His wisdom.

Muslims strive to bury the deceased as soon as possible after death, avoiding the need for embalming or otherwise disturbing the body of the deceased.

An autopsy may be performed, if necessary, but should be done with the utmost respect for the dead.

Washing and Shrouding

In preparation for burial, the family or other members of the community will wash and shroud the body. (If the deceased was killed as a martyr, this step is not performed; martyrs are buried in the clothes they died in.)

The deceased will be washed respectfully, with clean and scented water, in a manner similar to how Muslims make ablutions for prayer. The body will then be wrapped in sheets of clean, white cloth (called the kafan).

Funeral Prayers

The deceased is then transported to the site of the funeral prayers (salat-l-janazah). These prayers are commonly held outdoors, in a courtyard or public square, not inside the mosque.

The community gathers, and the imam (prayer leader) stands in front of the deceased, facing away from the worshippers. The funeral prayer is similar in structure to the five daily prayers, with a few variations. (For example, there is no bowing or prostration, and the entire prayer is said silently but for a few words.)

Burial

The deceased is then taken to the cemetery for burial (al-dafin). While all members of the community attend the funeral prayers, only the men of the community accompany the body to the gravesite.

It is preferred for a Muslim to be buried where he or she died, and not be transported to another location or country (which may cause delays or require embalming the body). If available, a cemetery (or section of one) set aside for Muslims is preferred.

The deceased is laid in the grave (without a coffin if permitted by local law) on his or her right side, facing Mecca. At the gravesite, it is discouraged for people to erect tombstones, elaborate markers, or put flowers or other momentos. Rather, one should humbly remember Allah and His mercy, and pray for the deceased.

Mourning

Loved ones and relatives are to observe a 3-day mourning period. Mourning is observed in Islam by increased devotion, receiving visitors and condolences, and avoiding decorative clothing and jewelry. Widows observe an extended mourning period (iddah), 4 months and 10 days long, in accordance with the Qur’an 2:234.

During this time, she is not to remarry, move from her home, or wear decorative clothing or jewelry.

When one dies, everything in this earthly life is left behind, and there are no more opportunities to perform acts of righteousness and faith.

The Prophet Muhammad (p) once said that there are three things, however, which may continue to benefit a person after death: charity given during life which continues to help others, knowledge from which people continue to benefit, and a righteous child who prays for him or her.

islam.about.com/cs/elderly/a/funerals.htm
 
Thank you, Muslim Woman. That was very informative! There seem to be a few similarities with Jewish custom, i.e. no embalming/bury ASAP. All in all, very interesting. A don’t recall ever seeing any death notices/obituaries in the newspaper here either, so I’m assuming Muslims do not do that either. I honestly have no idea which funeral home in our area helps Muslim families when they have a death. ??? Are there “funeral directors” in Muslim countries, or does the deceased’s own family just take care of the arrangements (i.e. contacting the cemetery to open the grave, arranging for transportation etc.)?
 
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Thank you, Muslim Woman. That was very informative!
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A don’t recall ever seeing any death notices/obituaries in the newspaper here either
In my country ( Bangladesh) , sometimes family members give the obituary news in the daily newspaper. Here family members also arrange Dua Mahfil ( recite Quran , offer prayer/supplication , feed the poor people on the 3rd or 4th day and 40th days —these are not a must , some even say that it’s better not to arrange such programmes on any fixed days ) --but it’s very common here & news are published in the dailies.
Are there “funeral directors” in Muslim countries,
there are some free services for poor and unidentified dead bodies. Otherwise, family members with the help of local mosque arrange the rituals.
 
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Remember The Grave

Did you ever stop for a while and asked yourself…

What is going to happen to me the first night in my grave

…How often do I remember death?
Think about the moment your body is being washed and prepared to enter your grave…

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Think about the day people will be carrying you to your grave

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ALONE… it’s too DARK… you cry for help, but there is no answer… Nobody can help you… it’s too NARROW… your bones are squashed

You regret all the bad things you’ve done during your life
…THERE IS NO ESCAPE… YOU WILL FACE YOUR PUNISHMENT FOR EVERY LITTLE THING YOU’VE DONE…
You are ALONE in your grave only with your DEEDS…no money, no jewlries, nothing… ONLY YOUR DEEDS…

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AND WHEN IT IS SHUT,

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YOU FEEL LIKE SCREEMING AND TELLING EVERYONE NOT TO GO

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BUT, YOU CAN’T BE HEARD… THEY LEAVE YOU AND GO …

EVERY TIME YOU ARE ABOUT TO COMMIT A SIN, REMEMBER THE DESTROYER OF PLEASURES:
**DEATH **
 
The Messenger of Allah (s.a.w) said: “I forbade you from visiting graves, but now you may visit them, for in visiting them there is a reminder of the hereafter.”

Did God change his mind again here? Or did muhammad play God again?
that is a fabrication. He never forbade muslims from visiting the graves but the narrator lied.
 
Thank you, Muslim Woman. That was very informative! There seem to be a few similarities with Jewish custom, i.e. no embalming/bury ASAP. All in all, very interesting. A don’t recall ever seeing any death notices/obituaries in the newspaper here either, so I’m assuming Muslims do not do that either. I honestly have no idea which funeral home in our area helps Muslim families when they have a death. ??? Are there “funeral directors” in Muslim countries, or does the deceased’s own family just take care of the arrangements (i.e. contacting the cemetery to open the grave, arranging for transportation etc.)?
What typically happens in my community is that an announcement is made at the mosque to the congregation right away (remember that people gather for prayers 5x a day) and then the funeral ceremonies are held very soon after–there are a few people appointed to take care of washing and wrapping the body along with the family (men or women as appropriate) and then the funeral prayer is held soon after. The mosque has standing arrangements with the cemetery I think so they can take care of the bodies as needed.
 
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