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What is the proper procedure for someone who was born and baptized as a Catholic, but did not practice or ever go to Mass? She was given the Anointing of the Sick, but did not want a Funeral Mass as she was agnostic at best. So I guess the question is, can someone like that receive a Catholic burial, and should they receive one even if they do not wish it? Its a moot point now, as the arrangements for the family member have already been made (memorial service at Funeral Home, no Mass), but it raised the question in my mind, especially in preparation for having to deal with my parents eventual passing as well.

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God bless,
Paul
 
Paul,

To answer your question, I would say that a funeral Mass would be inappropriate, especially if that’s what she wanted. I question why the Priest would give last rights if he knew of the situation.

Sympathies to your family on their loss during this happy time of year.
 
garn9173 said:
Paul,

I question why the Priest would give last rights if he knew of the situation.
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Why not; even the priest does not know the state of her soul? God knows. Was it done under duress? I only read she wanted no Mass.

Grieving is for the living. I see no reason that she cannot be buried in a Catholic cemetary; the priest would know better than I would.

My mother, who is R.C. is giving me a plot in an Episcopal cemetary. Devote Catholic, and she has a plot for her and now one for me in an Episcopal cemetary? Go figure. She did this years ago, before she got dementia. Now, she’s giving me her extra plot.

I don’t want it, but if the time comes my sister is going to plant me in that Episcopal cemetary whether I want it or not. I’ll be lucky if my sister doesn’t cremate me (she’d rather do that) and stick my ashes in a closet, so I guess I’m going with the Episcopals. Once I’m dead I won’t be able to stop her.
 
Leegal said:
Why not; even the priest does not know the state of her soul? God knows. Was it done under duress? I only read she wanted no Mass.

Grieving is for the living. I see no reason that she cannot be buried in a Catholic cemetary; the priest would know better than I would.

My mother, who is R.C. is giving me a plot in an Episcopal cemetary. Devote Catholic, and she has a plot for her and now one for me in an Episcopal cemetary? Go figure. She did this years ago, before she got dementia. Now, she’s giving me her extra plot.

I don’t want it, but if the time comes my sister is going to plant me in that Episcopal cemetary whether I want it or not. I’ll be lucky if my sister doesn’t cremate me (she’d rather do that) and stick my ashes in a closet, so I guess I’m going with the Episcopals. Once I’m dead I won’t be able to stop her.
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You could sell the plot and use the money toward buying a plot in a Catholic cemetary. Done the same here.
 
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Hopefully. I’m not sure of the market on cemetary plots and would not know where to begin.
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Maybe you could ask the cemetary director.

Of course, you could always have the priest come and bless the plot, then it would be Catholic ground. We’ve had to do that in our family, also.
 
If you are buried in a Catholic cemetery the plot is already blessed. Elsewhere the priest will bless the plot at the time of your interment.

The advantage of being buried in a Catholic cemetery is that a mass is said there each year on All Souls Day for all those buried there. [To paraphrase Charlie Brown I need all the blessings I can get. ;)]
 
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