I play piano for several parishes. I play well. Even though I’m almost 50 (and look it), I get compliments about the music even from teenagers.
Maybe I play Here I Am Lord so that it doesn’t sound like the Brady Bunch. ??
It’s just personal preference, I think.
The problem, though, is that if the music truly makes you “gag” or gives you some other strong emotional reaction, I think that this negativity will be evident during the mass. Perhaps you have the fortitude to just stand there with a blank expression on your face (which is a poor witness to any Protestants who happen to be visiting, as they place great stock in the expressions on people’s faces; see the song, “Sweet Sweet Spirit” , specifically the line, “There are sweet expressions on each face…”).
But I find that if I don’t like the music, I communicate that dislike to those around me, even if I try not to.
In our old Protestant church, my husband had been on call, and after no sleep for over 48 hours, we went to church. The Praise Band started singing an old hymn in the old style, and it was very pretty and comforting. Then there was a drum lick and BOOM, the hymn switched to AMPLIFIED VERSION!!
My tired husband was so upset at the “jarring” change that he sat down and buried his head in his arms. I sat down with him. We were the only ones sitting in the middle of a group of hand-waving, hand-clapping, foot-stompin’, screeching AC DC wannabes.
I think it was obvious that we didn’t like the music.
I realize that was an extreme reaction.
Perhaps because I play, I have learned, over the years, to sense when music isn’t “going over.”
Also, I know that there are several families in my church who literally hate any music except Latin chant. I know because I have talked to them. They are very nice in most respects, but they are extremely closed when it comes to music.
So when we sing music in our church and I see them, I know what they are thinking.
And this bothers me. I try not to be bothered, but my attention wavers from the Lord and I start thinking about them and their hatred of the music.
So here is my point–what are the rest of the people supposed to do about it when it is obvious that the music “makes you gag?”
The answer, of course, is be charitable to weaker brothers. I think that answer applies on both sides of the issue.