Hi Theo2, It’s really not “too bad” to follow my conscience. It’s a good thing. If you hope for greater participation, you just are not going to get it with these tired wimpy folk songs. You will get better participation with better songs. We really go to Mass because we love and seek the Lord, and our deepest desire - because it’s how we were designed - it to praise and glorify God. So when we have songs that do that, the people will sing, because it will meet that deepest need we all have.
When we sang in my Evangelical Protestant churches it was about worshiping and praising God - not ourselves. And when I converted, I still worshipped and praised the same God! And i was not about to lessen my praise to God, and sing, instead, at Mass before God Himself, about myself, or about we the people, or pretending myself to be the voice of God.
I followed my conscience and the truth, in order to be Catholic. To sing these silly folky songs at Mass is to violate both my conscience and the truth. It’s not all about “everybody jump on the bandwagon”. If the wagon has a broken axle, better not get on it. I think I help our Church more by keeping quiet, because the silence can help usher in some improvement. Like, why not Gregorian chant? It’s not hard to learn and master. Unlike the complicated irish ditty melodies that so many songs are.
So I think your dream of everyone singing at Mass is unlikely, due to the songs, and due to other unsuccessful recent traditions, like the soloist who sings into a microphone so that you have to pretend you are singing a duet with them, as it’s the sole voice you hear. They sing the awful windy, long, sing-songy melodies well (mostly), but they are not designed for congregational singing, which is obvious every Sunday.
I felt sadness and emptiness at the “hymns” sung at Catholic Mass from the start. The discomfort never went away. At first I took it as a challenge to master the meandering folk melodies. But I felt empty doing so, and I stopped.
When stumbled on a used book, “Why Catholics Can’t Sing”, I was eager to read it. Wow, was that revealing. Yes, it made sense. It was that book that explained why the new tradition of having a lead singer with a microphone leading the songs was a key ingredient to a non-singing congregation. It’s a heady thing for a (usually) amateur solist, but it doesn’t help the parish worship. (I have also heard very good singers belting it out, microphoned. It’s horrible because of the maxed-volume. If they have the ability to belt out their voices, they certainly should not have microphones!