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Nice dodge. You made some very uncharitible claims, You have been challenged to back them up. You have failed do so with rational support.
I’ve posted several links directly in response to back up several of my claims to support church malpractice in history and today, the ability of the Church to err in its decisions and it’s power to acknowledge when a practice formerly accepted/rejected can be given a new status in society,

Evidence and logical thinking is rational, wildly crying out in dismay and denying reality is not.

I’m actually being rather charitable, since I could pull out far more unglamerous moments in Church history, but I’m only going as deep as required to illustrate my points (hence my several references to the role of women and slavery in church history).

Telling the truth, even when it is not what we want to hear is not uncharitable, it’s called the truth.
 
My daughter and I were talking about gay “marriage” but I cut the convo short because she’s liberal about that. She’s not a Christian and I couldn’t come up with a good reason from non- Christian perspective. Any ideas for the next time this topic comes up?

Her point of view is that gay marriage has nothing to do with me. :rolleyes:
I have 3 nephews that are gay. I have talked to one of them about this subject. I understand completely why they want marriage legalized for them. I do not agree that the Church should be pressured into marrying them, “Marriage” in a biblical form is between and man and a woman. However I do think that they’re union should be recognized and made legal. I will attend their union but I do no think I could attend it if it were in a Church. But who am I to judge them that is the Lords work not mine. I accept them the way they are I may not agree with it but I accept it and love them no matter what.
 
I’ve posted several links directly in response to back up several of my claims to support church malpractice in history and today, the ability of the Church to err in its decisions and it’s power to acknowledge when a practice formerly accepted/rejected can be given a new status in society,
None these “facts” diminish the Church teaching on marriage. A “red herring”.
Evidence and logical thinking is rational, wildly crying out in dismay and denying reality is not.
Fallacious arguments are illogical and irrational.
I’m actually being rather charitable, since I could pull out far more unglamerous moments in Church history, but I’m only going as deep as required to illustrate my points (hence my several references to the role of women and slavery in church history).
Another red herring.
Telling the truth, even when it is not what we want to hear is not uncharitable, it’s called the truth.
Please begin.
 
None these “facts” diminish the Church teaching on marriage. A “red herring”.
Yes they do, it proves the church can abolish and create new sins and standards for us to adhere to depending on the societal conditions and morality of the age.

Which is entirely relevant on the subject of Gay Marriages.
Fallacious arguments are illogical and irrational.
Truth is never illogical or irrational
Please begin.
You never even managed to start :D, you caved in and resorted to cheap pot shots after my first response to you rather than providing evidence to disapprove my assertions and my own evidence.
 
I have 3 nephews that are gay. I have talked to one of them about this subject. I understand completely why they want marriage legalized for them. I do not agree that the Church should be pressured into marrying them, “Marriage” in a biblical form is between and man and a woman. However I do think that they’re union should be recognized and made legal. I will attend their union but I do no think I could attend it if it were in a Church. But who am I to judge them that is the Lords work not mine. I accept them the way they are I may not agree with it but I accept it and love them no matter what.
Now if only all aunts were as awesome and compassionate as you 👍
 
Yes they do, it proves the church can abolish and create new sins and standards for us to adhere to.
Please demonstrate this is true, logically. As it stands it is a baseless claim.
Which is entirely relevant on the subject of Gay Marriages.

Truth is never illogical or irrational

You never even managed to start :D, you caved in and resorted to cheap pot shots after my first response to you rather than providing evidence to disapprove my assertions and my own evidence.
:confused:
 
And here’s another one who can’t disprove my points.

You’re damn right, I don’t want homosexuals to be ashamed or guilty about forming a romantic relationship with one of their own gender. Because that is not wrong, or sinful as much as we might want to cling vehemently to the clearly subjective standards of a bygone age.

Man is not God, but neither is the Vatican. It is a great authority, but it is not God. It can err, and it has many times.

When it errs, we have to try and set things straight.
All Catholics are called to defend what the Church teaches, and to understand what it says and convey that to others. The “calendar fallacy” automatically assumes things are getting better because we live in modern times - as opposed to two weeks ago. And Catholics are to defend against false statements in general.

The Church still opposes everything the ‘sex without love revolution’ supported and some still support.

Peace,
Ed
 
Please demonstrate this is true, logically. As it stands it is a baseless claim.

:confused:
Please read through my post on the development of doctrine regarding slavery, post number 275 which can be found here forums.catholic-questions.org/showpost.php?p=11951400&postcount=275

According to the Synod of Gangra, we are to support slave masters in their en devours, for abolition is anathema to the Church. Now we are taught that Slavery is a sin against human dignity.

Which of these is heresy? Either the ancient church was heretical in supporting slavery or Vatican II was in denouncing it. Which one of them is in error if the truth and sin is always absolute?
 
Please read through my post on the development of doctrine regarding slavery, post number 275 which can be found here forums.catholic-questions.org/showpost.php?p=11951400&postcount=275

According to the Synod of Gangra, we are to support slave masters in their en devours, for abolition is anathema to the Church. Now we are taught that Slavery is a sin against human dignity.

Which of these is heresy? Either the ancient church was heretical in supporting slavery or Vatican II was in denouncing it. Which one of them is in error if the truth and sin is always absolute?
Read it. It doesn’t even begin to show that the Church arbitrarily defines what sin is. Nor does it do so in relation to marriage.
 
All Catholics are called to defend what the Church teaches, and to understand what it says and convey that to others.
Which to me reads as “I’m in denial”. If the Church is right about something (like abortion say) I’ll be one of the first to pounce to defend the issue.

When it’s clearly in the wrong and has been for some time? Nope, I’d rather try and make it right.
The “calendar fallacy” automatically assumes things are getting better because we live in modern times - as opposed to two weeks ago. And Catholics are to defend against false statements in general.
Fourth time I’ve said it today on this thread, prove my evidence and assertions wrong.
The Church still opposes everything the ‘sex without love revolution’ supported and some still support
Right, like marrying off girls at 14 in this day and age ( en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriage_%28Catholic_Church%29#Impediments ) along with the countless loveless marriages that have had to be suffered are promoting love.

Golly, how do they manage it in non christian countries like India? I wonder what spouses feel for one another over there. Your idea is flawed from the outset.
 
Read it. It doesn’t even begin to show that the Church arbitrarily defines what sin is. Nor does it do so in relation to marriage.
The post serves as a demonstration of a situation where the Church, having formerlly defined slavery as not sinful but a natural practice of humanity has later decided 1700 years later that it is in fact a great evil, a sin no less.

Since the church has so clearly demonstrated it is empowered to decide what is and isn’t moral or sinful in a given era, I pose the question as to why if it can redefine slavery as bad rather than worthy of excommunication in opposing it, why it does not use the same power to permit homosexual marriages? Which in fact opposition to Gay marriage has an even weaker foundation of authority than the pro-slave trade stance once held.
Read it. It doesn’t even begin to show that the Church ***arbitrarily ***defines what sin is. Nor does it do so in relation to marriage.
I also quite like how you mentioned it “arbitrarily” defines what sin is, that suggests that even you (albit reluctantly) aknowledge it has moved the goalposts as to what a sin and good Catholic practices are.
 
The post serves as a demonstration of a situation where the Church, having formerlly defined slavery as not sinful but a natural practice of humanity has later decided 1700 years later that it is in fact a great evil, a sin no less.

Since the church has so clearly demonstrated it is empowered to decide what is and isn’t moral or sinful in a given era, I pose the question as to why if it can redefine slavery as bad rather than worthy of excommunication in opposing it, why it does not use the same power to permit homosexual marriages? Which in fact opposition to Gay marriage has an even weaker foundation of authority than the pro-slave trade stance once held.

I also quite like how you mentioned it “arbitrarily” defines what sin is, that suggests that even you (albit reluctantly) aknowledge it has moved the goalposts as to what a sin and good Catholic practices are.
Regarding the topic, no goalposts will be moved.

Peace,
Ed
 
NekoNecro,

I don’t have that much of a problem with saying that the Church has changed teachings before, even teachings on moral issues (though I don’t think any of these were central moral issues). But even if we establish that, you yourself have admitted that the Church has an authority despite some level of historical change. And then, I wonder, what is your argument? From “the Church has changed”, it does not follow that “the Church should change in some particular way”.

You have mentioned ways that ministers and congregations in the Church have harmed gay people. I agree that this has happened, and I am very grieved by it. Since I myself grew up attracted to other men, I have experienced some of these harms first hand. But I don’t see how any doctrine has harmed me.

So I guess I wonder what you think the advantages of gay marriage are, and how you think gay marriages embody the life of Christ in the world. 🤷
 
Which to me reads as “I’m in denial”. If the Church is right about something (like abortion say) I’ll be one of the first to pounce to defend the issue.

When it’s clearly in the wrong and has been for some time? Nope, I’d rather try and make it right.

Fourth time I’ve said it today on this thread, prove my evidence and assertions wrong.

Right, like marrying off girls at 14 in this day and age ( en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriage_%28Catholic_Church%29#Impediments ) along with the countless loveless marriages that have had to be suffered are promoting love.

Golly, how do they manage it in non christian countries like India? I wonder what spouses feel for one another over there. Your idea is flawed from the outset.
When the Church teaches clearly that there is something wrong with the topic, and others think the Church is wrong, then that’s up to them. Meanwhile, all Catholics are obligated to pass on the truth as taught by the Church.

Have you gone to any forums in India or in the US that focuses on what Indian people do? Otherwise, you’re using the old magician’s trick of distracting the audience with non-relevant to the topic information.

Peace,
Ed
 
Regarding the topic, no goalposts will be moved.
Give it another ten-twenty years and we’ll see. I’m not a prophet, but it seems absolutely everyone but the Catholic Church’s leadership and it’s more orthodox followers can see where it is headed.
 
When the Church teaches clearly that there is something wrong with the topic, and others think the Church is wrong, then that’s up to them. Meanwhile, all Catholics are obligated to pass on the truth as taught by the Church.
Which is why they’re leaving and parishes are shutting down left and right in Europe.
Have you gone to any forums in India or in the US that focuses on what Indian people do? Otherwise, you’re using the old magician’s trick of distracting the audience with non-relevant to the topic information.
It’s very relevant, you’re suggesting that only couples married within the Roman Catholic Church knows what love is.Do Athiests not love one another? What is it they experience for their spouses, are they aliens who feel mild amusement in place of love or something?

And I have actually, as someone who is studying both Religious Studies and Theology I have many questions I ask Hindus in India online upon forums and skype about what they believe as well as Americans (usually about fundamentalism).
 
NekoNecro,

I don’t have that much of a problem with saying that the Church has changed teachings before, even teachings on moral issues (though I don’t think any of these were central moral issues). But even if we establish that, you yourself have admitted that the Church has an authority despite some level of historical change. And then, I wonder, what is your argument? From “the Church has changed”, it does not follow that “the Church should change in some particular way”.
I admit the Church has an Authority by virtue of it’s age and experience on the matter, it was first (I’m not going into the Orthodox debate here) so has had the most time to develop a doctrine from ancient church practices.

My argument is that the Church does have to change, and has done several times in the past to accommodate advances in morality and ethics. We now realise it is immoral to enslave africans (The Church’s disapproval came far more slowly than secular disapproval on the matter, but it did get there in the end) as most of society has today come to accept that consensual homosexual relationships are not equivalent to the pederast/male rape as a sign of dominance ones that were very common in the ancient world.

In light of those conditions I think once upon a time the Church had very valid reason to preach against homosexual sex, but the conditions and world that motivated such a call no longer exist, just as the need for women to not speak in church and remain silent before men no longer exists.

I think the Church should change to accommodate what is moral and right, after all does it not claim to be holy and good?
You have mentioned ways that ministers and congregations in the Church have harmed gay people. I agree that this has happened, and I am very grieved by it. Since I myself grew up attracted to other men, I have experienced some of these harms first hand. But I don’t see how any doctrine has harmed me.
I am so terribly sorry you have suffered this Prodical_Son :(, but since I do not know you or what this harm entailed I couldn’t possibly make an assessment as to why you remain unharmed. Perhaps you are more stronger willed to endure the blows, perhaps you are in a more tolerant environment. There could be a whole myriad of factors.
So I guess I wonder what you think the advantages of gay marriage are, and how you think gay marriages embody the life of Christ in the world. 🤷
I don’t think marriage essentially does embody the life of Christ in the world, that falls down to our individual everyday actions trying to imitate his perfect example.

I think Gay Marriages posses all the benefits and drawbacks of a heterosexual marriage in that…
  • Two men or Two women can provide a loving home for orphans who otherwise would have no family. They are no more or less capable of providing a loving home and care than any single parent or heterosexual married couple can.
  • As has been observed in Denmark where State Church-Sponsored Gay marriage is fully endorsed married homosexual men (women have yet to be observed) now live longer, the suicide rate has nosedived to an all time low. How is this not a good thing? (cbsnews.com/news/married-gay-men-are-living-longer-according-to-danish-study/)
  • They provide mutual support and comfort for one another in ways that only a spouse can provide. Not always sexual, but a warmth and tender affection only seen between lovers.
-There are also the legal benefits of inheritance and medical support. I know it is said frequently on here “they can write a living will” for what they want for their partners…Well, actually no they can’t. In France for instance a blood relative has the right to challenge any will, and in most cases their claims will trump any contracts made by the deceased in life. The only thing that could prevent a homosexual from losing their home bought between them and their lover is a marrige3 certificate, for that is the only thing that trumps a blood claim.
  • There are also the philosophical and ethical arguments too; to be a truly universal and accepting society we have to accept as great a variety of people as possible, provided they do no harm to others. I don’t think homosexual relationships are as harmful as some of the more exotic practices of several religions we allow to operate.
  • There is no compelling evidence to suggest homosexual relationships are harmful to society at all. I certainly can’t see any problems between the gay couples I know, I can’t actually think of a single difference between what they get up to and a straight couple, other than the fact they’re both the same gender
I can write more if need be, but I think this works for a starting base 🙂
 
Truth matters. Opinions don’t.
“Truth” is clearly subjective. If it wasn’t you’d have taken up my challenge, both countered my evidence and chain of logic and proven me wrong.

I ask again for the fifth time, Prove me wrong. If you can’t, at least accept the facts, how else do any of us learn?
 
My argument is that the Church does have to change, and has done several times in the past to accommodate advances in morality and ethics.
For every “advance” in ethics, there is at least one regression. And you have a very strange revisionist view on history, if you think that Christians were *followers *in the fight against African slavery, or if you think that Christians were a force *against *women’s liberation. Christians led the charge against slavery, which was motivated by passages in Scripture and teachings about the dignity of the human person. And before Christianity came on the scene, there was no notion of a female having the ability to determine her own destiny – that was a result of the Christian notion of consecrated virginity as a real option in the Roman church, as opposed to be chewed up and spit out by the Roman attitude toward women.
…most of society has today come to accept that consensual homosexual relationships are not equivalent to the pederast/male rape as a sign of dominance ones that were very common in the ancient world.
Again, your history is off, here. I study the ancient world for a living, and the ancient world was full of consensual homosexual relationships – even the pederastic relationships were hardly barbaric, in many cases. In both Greece and Rome, it was a viable option for men to live out long-term sexual relationships with other men. Though neither Greece or Rome called these partnerships marriages.
I think the Church should change to accommodate what is moral and right, after all does it not claim to be holy and good?
Of course it should change, if it doesn’t teach what’s moral and right. But we first need to be very clear that we know what’s moral and right, and the Church doesn’t. And that’s what I’m questioning you about.
I am so terribly sorry you have suffered this Prodical_Son :(, but since I do not know you or what this harm entailed I couldn’t possibly make an assessment as to why you remain unharmed. Perhaps you are more stronger willed to endure the blows, perhaps you are in a more tolerant environment. There could be a whole myriad of factors.
But won’t you admit that the harms come from *people *being cruel and insensitive? I don’t see what doctrine has to do with it.
I don’t think marriage essentially does embody the life of Christ in the world, that falls down to our individual everyday actions trying to imitate his perfect example.
Well then, you have a very large difference of agreement with the Church. The Church teaches that the life-giving, self-sacrificial love of husband and wife are real and concrete sacramental manifestations of Jesus Christ’s love for humankind. We do not imitate Christ as lone rangers, but in relationships like “husband and wife”, “mother and daughter”, “friend and friend”.

I think that friendships can also be a place where we live for one another incarnationally, dying to ourselves and loving one another. But friendship is not the same as marriage.
  • Two men or Two women can provide a loving home for orphans who otherwise would have no family. They are no more or less capable of providing a loving home and care than any single parent or heterosexual married couple can.
I essentially lost my dad, when I was six. Another mom would not have replaced him. Children deserve a mom and a dad.
Legalizing/normalizing activities always leads to an improvement in the quality of life of those who practice those activities. If we legalized theft, that would make thieves live less destructive lives.
  • They provide mutual support and comfort for one another in ways that only a spouse can provide. Not always sexual, but a warmth and tender affection only seen between lovers.
I don’t think there is any kind of support (except sexual) that only a spouse can provide. Very close friends can be quite intimate, and there’s no reason why two close friends can’t live together. I think there is a lot of value in many gay relationships, just like as in any other close friendship.
-There are also the legal benefits of inheritance and medical support. I know it is said frequently on here “they can write a living will” for what they want for their partners…
Obviously, we can change all sorts of laws to make this possible. We don’t have to legalize gay marriage to effect this change.
  • There are also the philosophical and ethical arguments too; to be a truly universal and accepting society we have to accept as great a variety of people as possible, provided they do no harm to others. I don’t think homosexual relationships are as harmful as some of the more exotic practices of several religions we allow to operate.
And how exactly are we not allowing homosexual relationships to operate? :confused:

In essence, you are jumping from the premise that “homosexual relationships provide certain benefits, and don’t harm anyone” to the conclusion that “homosexual relationships should be called marriages”. And when I ask you for a positive social advantage to this change in the law, you just tell me more about how gay people aren’t harming anybody else, and how gay relationships can be beneficial.

I agree with all that. Now tell me why they should be marriages.

You might want to start by explaining what your understanding of a marriage is.
 
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