Germs and being a Eucharistic Minister

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@Bananas:

As I read your OP, I can just hear your tone becoming more and more hysterical.

At first you try to go for the concerned angle: we love you and we want you to be safe.

Then when she goes against what you want you backtrack and take control away from her: we decide together

Then you shift to dismissal: it doesn’t matter because this life is temporary

And when that fails you move onto blatant guilt tripping and threats: why can’t you see it’s for your own good?

All of this is manipulation. You need to get help, now.
 
Do you not let your kids play outside in nature because ticks with Lyme disease exist?

Do you let your kids get into a car? Because it’s more likely they’d get into a car accident than get a serious disease from a silver chalice that contains alcohol and is wiped between sips.

OP, I really hope you are trolling, because you seem hell-bent on taking away everything your daughters enjoy.
 
Bananas said:
Please tell me how this is blackmail when I am not using it to get her to change her mind?
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Of course you are! You say the only reason you told her you wanted her to quit was because if you didn’t and she got ill, you would feel like physically harming yourselves. That is shutting down the conversation via guilt-tripping and blackmail because what can she say to that? That she doesn’t care? Then you would say she was ungrateful and unfeeling. If she said she wouldn’t want you to feel that way? Then you would say the only thing for her to do would be to quit.
 
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Bananas said:
Please tell me how this is blackmail when I am not using it to get her to change her mind?
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Then what was your objective?

You need therapy. Your daughter needs therapy to start dealing with the harm you are causing with your nonsense. If your husband is condoning or participating in this, he needs to get help for his enabling.

By the way, I’ve been an EMHC for almost a year. I do not get sick any more frequently now than I did before.
 
redbetta said:
Do you not let your kids play outside in nature because ticks with Lyme disease exist?
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Funny thing is that I’ve worked outside for years and never had a tick on me! Long pants, 8” boots, and crew socks. :man_shrugging:t2:
 
redbetta said:
OP, I really hope you are trolling, because you seem hell-bent on taking away everything your daughters enjoy.
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I do, too. But I’m scared to death that she’s for real. The damage she’s doing to those children! 😭
 
I’ve had class in a botanic garden and came home with three this year despite long clothes and spray.

That still won’t keep me indoors, though.
 
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Well, in the case of the family I knew, it wasn’t irreparable damage. The kids retaliated appropriately and they butted heads. Out of the three kids, one finished college, one drives truck, and one details trucks.
 
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Lou2U said:
You say the only reason you told her you wanted her to quit was because if you didn’t and she got ill, you would feel like physically harming yourselves.
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No! When she said she was angry with her father and me for telling her there was a health risk, I told her that we struggled with saying anything at all because we know she loves it but would be heartbroken to the point of wanting to harm ourselves if she got ill and we knew we didn’t say anything.

In other words, if she got ill when she carried on after we warned her, at least we would not have it on our consciences that we did not warn her.
 
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Cruciferi said:
Well, in the case of the family I knew, it wasn’t irreparable damage. The kids retaliated appropriately and they butted heads. Out of the three kids, one finished college, one drives truck, and one details trucks.
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That’s wonderful that they were strong enough to deal with it. If bananas is for real, I pray her children are strong, too.
 
So long as you remove them quickly, you’re fine. If you get a bullseye rash, they treat you with antibiotics. The problem is when people don’t find them or recognize symptoms!
 
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casslean said:
Then what was your objective?
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To illustrate that we are concerned about her and want her to be safe. Once again, I said this in response to her being angry with her father and me for merely warning her there was a risk (not for forbidding her).
 
Bananas said:
In other words, if she got ill when she carried on after we warned her, at least we would not have it on our consciences that we did not warn her
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No, because your insinuation would have been firmly on hers.

So if you didn’t tell her and she got ill you would feel like killing yourself. Now you’ve told her and she wants to carry on, what will you do if she does get ill? That is what will sit with her.
 
You are not responding to your daughter’s anger appropriately. At all.
 
Bananas said:
To illustrate that we are concerned about her and want her to be safe. Once again, I said this in response to her being angry with her father and me for merely warning her there was a risk (not for forbidding her).
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Your purpose in “warning” her (of a completely exaggerated risk) was to try to coerce her into stopping her service as an EMHC. Then when she got angry at your attempts to coerce and manipulate her, you decided this was how you would justify your action.

She enjoys this ministry and is being fulfilled by it. You are being selfish and narcissistic in trying to manipulate her into quitting.
 
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