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Robert_in_SD
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Thank you for saying in this post what I have been stumbling to convey in my series of posts over the past two or three days.I note that wherever in the homosexuality spectrum one is, indulging in homosexual sex or not, the “gay” category is conveniently embraced. Said word, it appears, affords detachment to and deniability of behavior that classifies a homosexual, a man who has sex with another man, and a woman with another woman, an unnatural sexual act based on simple biology and lack of complementarity.
“Gay” has proven to be the best packaging and marketing for homosexuality by Kirk and Madsen, whether self-identified gays of this day are witting or unwitting, willing or unwilling, movers of the homosexual agenda. It succeeded to a great extent in sanitizing homosexuality in the minds of the conflicted, effectively throwing confusion in discussion and leading to questionable consensus.
There is much effort by some members in this forum to peel away homosexual behavior from what is alleged as the homosexual state of mind and essence, as if there is a vast ocean separating the two and they are in opposition to each other. They are close to each other.
When one has reached the point of self-identifying as gay and “comes out,” it may or may not mean that the person is ready to engage or is already engaging in homosexual behavior. It may or may not mean that one is entertaining the thought of finding a same sex partner to “marry” and with whom he or she can have a “family.”
But all the above associated with being gay are not incongruous or disconnected with coming out as gay. They are all in the purview of the alternative lifestyle of homosexuals who did or do not stop at just interest in a member of the same sex.
Although much debated in these threads already, there is wisdom in using a self descriptor of same sex attracted instead of gay. To self-identify as gay at the least is the first step, an initial surrender to the idea that there is nothing wrong with actualized homosexuality, with giving oneself the permission to act on the homosexual urge.
In no way do I minimize the suffering of homosexuals. Having a close family member who lived through the heartaches of life as one, I have empathy for those with this struggle.
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Peace,
Robert