Getting married in 2 weeks

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Hello. I am getting married in exactly 2 weeks and I have feeling of excitement, nervousness, anxiousness, and I am also feeling a little scared. Are all these feelings normal? You would think that I would be so pumped and not nervous at all. I am a 25 year old male and I am just thinking about how different it will be living in the same place with another person. I am so used to living by myself and have my certain ways and all that kind of stuff. I love the girl and wouldn’t want to lose her. I just hope I can make the transition well so the marriage starts off great. How was the transition for any of you? Thanks for reading.
 
Congratulations. I got married 6 months ago. It is an adjustment in living with another person, but all good.
Give your new spouse some personal space (time for reading or a hobby, etc), respect and love. All will be great.

Enjoy your wedding day - and God Bless.
 
spend time every day doing some loving action for you spouse that she does not see and does not thank you for.
 
puzzleannie said:
spend time every day doing some loving action for you spouse that she does not see and does not thank you for.
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Ohhh on that note - make sure you DO thank your new spouse often for the little things they do. It’s part of respect and appreciation.
 
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Lots of good advice already in this thread. I’d add to make sure you pray for each other and together. Marriage takes three. 😉
 
Don’t worry, those feelings are normal. I’ve been married almost 5 months, and I felt the same way. Things are a big adjustment. Now that winter is here, we are having difficulties with blankets, lol. Still, God gives you the grace that you need. It is part of the great adventure of life, and like all things, it takes patience, hard work and perseverance. Learn to laugh together at the things you would fight about, learn to compromise, and keep God as #1!!! God bless you and the best of luck! (The priest who married us warned us, “The first year of marriage is to be endured!”
 
Two bits of advice that my mother gave me were great and I’ll pass it on.
  1. Don’t be afraid to call off the wedding if you feel you need to. Don’t worry about the money and what people will think, make sure you are getting married for the right reasons. (she told me this the day before my wedding)
  2. When you are married, “start out as you mean to go on.” By this my mother said, if you intend to do breakfast in bed EVERY morning, then do so every morning. BUT if you don’t intend to do this for ever, don’t start a custom that is going to become burdensome, and then leave your spouse wondering “what happened?” Don’t act differently than who you are. Of coarse you treat your spouse with love and respect, but don’t go overboard. My mother was really giving a new wife great advice. If I started out picking up his laundry, bagging his lunches and making huge breakfasts every morning, I ought to be able to carry it through to the end and not wake up one mornig resentful for being taken advantage of.
HTH

Congratualations on your wedding! May you have a blessed marriage 😃
 
Thank you all for the responses. Very much appreciated. I figured those feelings were normal but I like to read other people’s thoughts since I figured you have been through it. Thanks again and have a great day.
 
JMJ01 said:
Hello. I am getting married in exactly 2 weeks and I have feeling of excitement, nervousness, anxiousness, and I am also feeling a little scared. Are all these feelings normal? You would think that I would be so pumped and not nervous at all. I am a 25 year old male and I am just thinking about how different it will be living in the same place with another person. I am so used to living by myself and have my certain ways and all that kind of stuff. I love the girl and wouldn’t want to lose her. I just hope I can make the transition well so the marriage starts off great. How was the transition for any of you? Thanks for reading.
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It is perfectly normal to be excited and nervous! You are making the biggest change in your life. A happy change.

I was very calm preparing for my wedding - until the day before! That day I was busy, getting my hair done and a manicure, picking up the bouquets, and stuff like that. In the middle of it all, I treated myself to my favorite Chinese meal. As I was about to eat the first fork-full it hit me. I’m getting married tomorrow! What am I doing!!!???

Well, I got married the following day. I don’t remember what the first year was really like - there were no big problems. Last month my husband and I celebrated our 39th Wedding Anniversary.

Nervousness is to be expected and it is ok. Just don’t let it overwhelm you. 👍
 
Congratulations!

I got married just over 3 months ago, and I am just a year [probably not even] younger than you.

Here are some tips that helped us adjust to living together:
  1. Discuss responsibilities ahead of time. We took the time about two weeks before our wedding to discuss who would handle what. From taking out the trash to cleaning the cat litter box [my pets!]. Remember you have to be flexible, but there are some things she’ll never want to do or you’ll never want to do. For instance, you would have to threaten to stab me with a dull spoon before I would ever take out the trash.
  2. Respect space. Nathan moved into my apartment. I had already lived there for two years when he joined me. However, I went through beforehand and made space for him so he didn’t feel like he was just “merging” into my life. I took anything too girly off of the walls, put away some not all of the pictures of my girlfriends + I, and just generally made it look less like a bachelorette pad. We also replaced the bedding. He wasn’t so keen on my pink + green bedset.
  3. Understand you are not attached at the hip. I think a lot of couples assume that once you live together you have to do everything together. Not the case. We have standing date nights, and the rest of the week is up for grabs [of course there are always exceptions: guys’ or girls’ weekends away, parties, etc]. We do dates on Saturdays and Wednesdays typically. Everything else is free for scheduling stuff with friends or alone. This doesn’t mean that we book up every day or don’t ever do other stuff together.
  4. Adjust to the other person’s schedule. I am an early riser. I get up at 5:00 AM to get the gym before work. Nathan sleeps in until 8:00 AM. I try my best to keep quiet and stay out of the house until 7:00 AM or so. I usually go to the gym and do the grocery shopping in the morning to give him his rest. He stays at home, so he gets some extra sleep time. 😉
  5. Communicate. If you stalk my posts, you’ll see that my husband and I have made the choice that he will stay at home and freelance write part time. He keeps house while I work [which requires a lot of travel]. We have very open lines of communication about everything from how he is adjusting to staying home to what tv show to watch to dinner plans. You have to talk or else you’ll be living in fear of living together.
Those are my big pieces of advice. We’re still adjusting a little bit. * It is such a fun process. Don’t let it overwhelm you!

Just remember to be thankful for everything she does and thank God for providing her in your life.*
 
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Congratulations!

I got married just over 3 months ago, and I am just a year [probably not even] younger than you.

Here are some tips that helped us adjust to living together:
  1. Discuss responsibilities ahead of time. We took the time about two weeks before our wedding to discuss who would handle what. From taking out the trash to cleaning the cat litter box [my pets!]. Remember you have to be flexible, but there are some things she’ll never want to do or you’ll never want to do. For instance, you would have to threaten to stab me with a dull spoon before I would ever take out the trash.
  2. Respect space. Nathan moved into my apartment. I had already lived there for two years when he joined me. However, I went through beforehand and made space for him so he didn’t feel like he was just “merging” into my life. I took anything too girly off of the walls, put away some not all of the pictures of my girlfriends + I, and just generally made it look less like a bachelorette pad. We also replaced the bedding. He wasn’t so keen on my pink + green bedset.
  3. Understand you are not attached at the hip. I think a lot of couples assume that once you live together you have to do everything together. Not the case. We have standing date nights, and the rest of the week is up for grabs [of course there are always exceptions: guys’ or girls’ weekends away, parties, etc]. We do dates on Saturdays and Wednesdays typically. Everything else is free for scheduling stuff with friends or alone. This doesn’t mean that we book up every day or don’t ever do other stuff together.
  4. Adjust to the other person’s schedule. I am an early riser. I get up at 5:00 AM to get the gym before work. Nathan sleeps in until 8:00 AM. I try my best to keep quiet and stay out of the house until 7:00 AM or so. I usually go to the gym and do the grocery shopping in the morning to give him his rest. He stays at home, so he gets some extra sleep time. 😉
  5. Communicate. If you stalk my posts, you’ll see that my husband and I have made the choice that he will stay at home and freelance write part time. He keeps house while I work [which requires a lot of travel]. We have very open lines of communication about everything from how he is adjusting to staying home to what tv show to watch to dinner plans. You have to talk or else you’ll be living in fear of living together.
Those are my big pieces of advice. We’re still adjusting a little bit. * It is such a fun process. Don’t let it overwhelm you!

Just remember to be thankful for everything she does and thank God for providing her in your life.*

Thank you for that great advice. I think we will definitely try to do those 5 things. Sounds like you two are doing well. Thanks again.
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What you are describing is normal, normal oh, and NORMAL!

My DH felt the same way before our wedding, he doesn’t know that I know that. I saw it in an email he wrote to someone. :o

Love is a decision. Every morning when you wake up, tell yourself that today, you decide to love your wife. That mentality really helps when your marriage hits its low points, and they will come, be prepared for that. But just knowing that you made the decision (and commitment) to love your wife, that will bring you a great source of comfort.
 
I agree with all the good advice here. My DH and I have been married almost a year, and we’ve made it through a miscarriage, me graduating from college, moving, a birth, and so on. We’ve found that communication and praying together has reallllly helped us through the rough patches and grow closer together and make our marriage stronger. We do our best to make sure Christ is in our marriage … we’ve noticed when we start slipping on that (ie, forego prayer) that we start to bicker more and the like.

Congratulations on your upcoming marriage! 😃
 
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