Getting over?

[Montie_Claunch]

Hey guys.

I could really need some help. Like a long time ago, last november, my girl who did the whole “I love you” bit which I bought into tottally burned me for a high schooler. Which was a total burn right. Anyway I have been stuggleing to get over this. I am finding that I am having a hard time forgiving her. I have scince then seemingly lost my ussual placed nature. I used to be able to take a emotional hit or something and just keep going. Now everythings a struggle. To forgive. To want to do things right (and by that I mean I want to the right things but it seems now by a more dubious {Sp?} way). I have been more irritable. And I know this isn’t how God wants me to be. You know, he didn’t die on the cross for me to be a donkey. How do I exactly fit myself into something God would be pleased with? Thanks and God bless.

 

[katy]

Less than a year is not all that long ago for a major emotional hit. Give yourself some time, take extra good care of yourself, look forward toward something, anything you can see good in the future-going to a movie if nothing else. Of course include leaning on God and the saints, who are constant even tho sometimes it’s difficult to feel. It takes more time than you might think, and is a form of grieving.

 

[Della]

Right now, I know so well, it seems like nothing will ever be the same nor will you ever be able to trust another girlfriend again. But, that’s not the case. Life is just beginning for you and time will heal this wound. One day you will meet a young woman who is just right for you and you just right for her. When that happens you will feel like a hand in glove, and your love will grow throughout your lives. So, hang in there, pray, and prepare yourself to be the kind of Catholic young gentleman a good Catholic young lady would want to know and love. God bless you.

 

[FightingFat]

It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all…

 

[AlanFromWichita]

It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all…

That reminds me of the lyrics to an old Harry Chapin song “If You Want to Feel.” Here’s an excerpt:

Oh God they got you gun shy

You know your skin’s as cold as ice
Your eyes are double filtered babe
You’re so afraid to be nice
There’s no way you’re ready
To let your defenses down
Though I won’t come on heavy
There is a lesson that I’ve found

(chorus)
If you try to look
But you don’t touch
Then you won’t touch
But you’ll never feel
And if you don’t feel
You’ll never cry
And if you don’t cry
Then you’ll never heal

There are lessons to life
That the lovers got to learn
There are corners out there
You know they’re waitin’ somewhere
And you’ve got to be prepared to turn
There are callouses that come
That the lovers got to earn
In the years of your youth
You can’t be fire proof
You know you’ve got to get burned

Alan

 

[Twitterpated]

You do need time to grieve the loss of what you had. But also, realize that holding a grudge only hurts YOU. Let go. You are very young. This was a learning experience for you and I’m sure you are stronger and smarter for it. Take what you’ve learned and move forward in life.