Getting terribly discouraged and frustrated

[fin]

Well the title says it all. I am job hunting, doing things to fulfill the call to marriage like being open to meeting new people and wanting to go on various types of dating, etc. , dealing eith problems at home, improving myself…

With most things, there needs to be mutual consent. The employer should deem the applicant qualified and the latter should accept the offer before the employment begins. the same goes with romantic relationships or any relationship for that matter. Both parties should agree. I have tried to be open and say yes to many things and opportunities even if they’re not easy. I am doing my part, but there is the other party. I am left being in limbo. I have met a guy who is interested in knowing me, but It is not a good idea to proceed based from my own realization as well as outside advice. Then I was told that a guy is also asking to be set up on a blind date and I was asked if I am interested; and I agreed; they gave my contact detail to him but I didn’t receive any message so far. Sometimes I wonder if certain people say they want to meet someone and be married, but do not go out of their comfort zones to do something about it.

I do not know what I am supposed to do next. It is not as if I am just sitting and doing nothing. I continue to be serious in my spiritua life and frequenting the Sacraments. I am very discouraged. I have asked God for resignation in all things, to desire the path He wants for me, whatever it is. But I really need a job right now… I cannot go on being in limbo

 

[244Rocket]

Praying hard for you.

 

[ClearWater]

Sounds discouraging to want to work and have love and just not have anything come through.

Insofar as work is concerned, try to work in something you LOVE. I actually started in my interpreting work as a volunteer, and later, VERY gradually, over a long period of time, I became a professional interpreter…did that for 4 years. I worked for a company for 3 of those. When the company closed, they only recommended 3 of the Spanish interpreters. I was one of the three.

I interpreted for free, gave many interpretations away, especially in the beginning, also to get experience. However, I didn´t do that so much for experience as for the love of it.

Also, I began tutoring for many years, first with Literacy Volunteers. Then, I later worked, as a professional teacher in Mexico for a time at 2 private schools years ago and then did years as an ESL tutor. It all started, with my giving classes away for free.

So, volunteering is one way to gain experience and get one’s feet wet, get one’s “foot in the door”. I also got some knock-out recommendations. My recommendations from volunteering were, in fact, SO good that my supervisor where I interpreted never even met me! In the 3 years I worked there, she basically hired me exclusively due to my references!

With relationships, one can feel one needs a partner, a man, in order to be happy. The thinking can be something like this, “IF I have a man in my life, I will be happy” and, “If I have a man in my life, I won’t feel…lonely, bored, sad”.

Well, I have been married, and divorced, twice. What I can tell you is that many a married person has felt lonely, sad, and bored.

So, what I would say is to try to work on feeling happy, whether you are in a relationship or not. Strive for friendships, in the meantime, both genders.

Sometimes, we wait for others in order to live. So, I used to not want to go places unless someone went with me. Now, I can go…to a restaurant, the fair, events…by myself. It took me much longer to learn how to be alone and not feel lonely.

Sometimes, I still need to relearn that lesson, though.

I honestly believe, at times, what we miss from a relationship might not even be the relationship, itself, but the activities…going out to the movies…to the fair, to a restaurant. One can do some of these things with a friend and work on the friendship.

Now, when one feels sad, it is easy to reflect it through body language. So, how are you dressing? When I feel “down”, I dress in black a lot, brown, gray, dark colors. When I feel happy, I dress in lighter colors. It’s to a point even my boyfriend noticed, said he noticed when I dress in black, I’m not as happy as when I dress in lighter colors.

I had a friend of mine see I was depressed, at times, said she used to be like me. Well, when I was down, I stopped wearing makeup, jewelry, wore old clothes from the thrift store that made me look fat, older.

So, of late, I did a makeover. I went out, got my hair cut, took the gray out of my hair, got new clothes, light and bright colors, happy clothes. I got my nails done, eyebrows. I got my ears pierced, nice, beautiful earrings.

I stood, or sat up, straight, smiled more. People…couldn’t even recognize me. I’ve gotten a ton of compliments, and what’s most surprising of all, to me, is how differently people treat me, now.

People who, before, never would have even given me the time of day notice, and talk to me. Oh, and I used to have trouble making friends, getting into a relationship, etc.

Now, I am in a relationship and have others interested, (despite the fact I’m 50 y.o. and use a WHEELCHAIR!)

My boyfriend compliments me upside down and sideways, and people come up to him, now, and asked him how he managed to have such a beautiful girlfriend, what he secret was. Some say they are envious of him/us, our relationship.

 

[ClearWater]

(continued)

I have seen the power of changing others through changing myself, first hand.

With my house, previously, I had pretty much almost no artwork at all. When I did have any, it was a crucifix…Our Lady of the Sorrows…and a picture of Christ’s face, bloodied and with him having a crown of thorns.

Now, there is nothing wrong with any of these, but I had NO happy pictures.

So, at the fair, I got a huge picture of artwork. I began with ceramics, and made my own sun. I found I actually LOVED ceramics. So, I am putting color and beauty also around my house, organizing it, because it was/is a MESS, disorganized.

I had neglected my health in a ton of ways, put everyone else first. So, I am tending to my own health, mental, emotional, and spiritual needs. I’ve found that way, I am even STRONGER.

I have tried not to overextend myself, overwork or abuse my health.

My underwear was very old, didn’t fit, was falling apart. I figured nobody saw it, so who cares? So, of late, I have begun getting new underwear, with colors, not only all white, that FITS!

I am painting a ceramic angel, and I think it’s the most beautiful thing I’ve made in my entire life! I make stuff, keep some, give the rest away, something very special I made with my own two hands.

I’m trying to eat more nutritiously, exercise some.

I try to hit all the needs. My boyfriend and I alternate giving eachother massages. I used to, at one point, pay for them. Well, my back and neck used to be SO bad.

I have trouble sleeping, have begun working on the sleep issue, taking herbs and am now looking into ordering a mask. I feel better…sleeping once in a while!

I am taking an antidepressant, looking into counseling. I’ve gone several times to try to make an appointment, but this is Mexico. I need to continue to go back, be persistant.

I would go to an Overeater’s Anonymous support group were there one local, but there’s not.

I am trying to reach out to friends. Now, I have quite a few friends who invite me all the time! It is sort of ironic, because, for much of my life, I was friendless. Now, I can’t keep up with invitations, have to turn some down.

My life still isn’t perfect, but I have changed others…by changing myself.

 

[zamyrabyrd]

(continued)

I have seen the power of changing others through changing myself, first hand.

With my house, previously, I had pretty much almost no artwork at all. When I did have any, it was a crucifix…Our Lady of the Sorrows…and a picture of Christ’s face, bloodied and with him having a crown of thorns.

Now, there is nothing wrong with any of these, but I had NO happy pictures.

So, at the fair, I got a huge picture of artwork. I began with ceramics, and made my own sun. I found I actually LOVED ceramics. So, I am putting color and beauty also around my house, organizing it, because it was/is a MESS, disorganized.

I had neglected my health in a ton of ways, put everyone else first. So, I am tending to my own health, mental, emotional, and spiritual needs. I’ve found that way, I am even STRONGER.

I have tried not to overextend myself, overwork or abuse my health.

My underwear was very old, didn’t fit, was falling apart. I figured nobody saw it, so who cares? So, of late, I have begun getting new underwear, with colors, not only all white, that FITS!

I am painting a ceramic angel, and I think it’s the most beautiful thing I’ve made in my entire life! I make stuff, keep some, give the rest away, something very special I made with my own two hands.

I’m trying to eat more nutritiously, exercise some.

I try to hit all the needs. My boyfriend and I alternate giving eachother massages. I used to, at one point, pay for them. Well, my back and neck used to be SO bad.

I have trouble sleeping, have begun working on the sleep issue, taking herbs and am now looking into ordering a mask. I feel better…sleeping once in a while!

I am taking an antidepressant, looking into counseling. I’ve gone several times to try to make an appointment, but this is Mexico. I need to continue to go back, be persistent.

I would go to an Overeater’s Anonymous support group were there one local, but there’s not.

I am trying to reach out to friends. Now, I have quite a few friends who invite me all the time! It is sort of ironic, because, for much of my life, I was friendless. Now, I can’t keep up with invitations, have to turn some down.

My life still isn’t perfect, but I have changed others…by changing myself.

That’s great what you are doing to improve your life. Hopefully others will be inspired.
My son was working for an organization that had in its manual having to do with customer relations, to turn an obstacle into an advantage. It might sound overly optimistic, but most of the time with a little creativity, a turnabout can be accomplished.
On the surface, I have had a ton of difficulties recently but I realize that keeping a good outlook is what will carry me to the next level.
With all due respect, I don’t think in my religious education enough emphasis was made on how much you need to jump start yourself. Or to put it simpler, the balance between what we need to do and how much we should trust. I might have erred by thinking I could do everything by myself when I was younger and had more energy of course. I still am not sure about this and feel fairly worn out by the amount of self-cheerleading I need to do to just get through the day.
You might have heard the story of the guy who was shipwrecked on an island. A boat passed and then a helicopter. He didn’t reach out to them because he was waiting for God to rescue him. Meanwhile, God said, “I wonder what is wrong with him. I sent a boat and helicopter and he didn’t respond!”

 

[Vim71]

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.

Glory Be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit.
As it was in the beginning is now ever shall be world without end
Amen.

Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help, or sought thy intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto thee, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To thee do I come, before thee I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in thy mercy, hear and answer me. Amen

 

[tawny]

Praying for your intentions.

 

[mountee]

fin, you know I care and I am continuing to pray for all of your needs. Don’t let discouragement take away your focus, I am praying for the right job to come your way. God bless you my friend.

 

[Paul1990]

Our Father, who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on Earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread,
and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.

Glory Be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit.
As it was in the beginning, is now, and ever shall be, world without end.
Amen.

 

[DoGodsBidding]

Gracious and merciful Father, please come to their assistance.

Our Father, who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on Earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread,
and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed are thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.

Glory Be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit.
As it was in the beginning, is now, and ever shall be, world without end.
Amen.

 

[Pier]

†

Our Father, Who art in heaven,
Hallowed be Thy Name.
Thy Kingdom come.
Thy Will be done, on earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the Fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.

Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death.

Amen. †

Saint Michael, the archangel, defend us in battle,
be our defense against the wickedness and snares
of the devil, may God rebuke him, we humbly pray.
And do you, O’ Prince of the Heavenly host, by the
power of God thrust into Hell Satan and all the other
evil spirits who prowl about the world for the ruin of souls.

Amen. †

 

[njlisa]

An Act of Hope

O my God, relying on Your almighty power and infinite mercy and promises, I hope to obtain pardon of my sins, the help of Your grace, and life everlasting, through the merits of Jesus Christ, my Lord and Redeemer.



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[petra22]

Dear Lord, send blessings galore, blessings of strength, faith, peace, hope and love. Replace the discouragement with courage and the frustration with joy… Amen.

 

[UpUpAndAway]

Persevering in my daily prayers for you, fin, and hoping most especially that your unemployment ends soon. God bless!

 

[Vim71]

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.

Glory Be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit.
As it was in the beginning is now ever shall be world without end
Amen.

Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help, or sought thy intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto thee, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To thee do I come, before thee I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in thy mercy, hear and answer me. Amen

 

[ProVobis]

PATER NOSTER, qui es in caelis, sanctificetur nomen tuum. Adveniat regnum tuum. Fiat voluntas tua, sicut in caelo et in terra. Panem nostrum quotidianum da nobis hodie, et dimitte nobis debita nostra sicut et nos dimittimus debitoribus nostris. Et ne nos inducas in tentationem, sed libera nos a malo. Amen.

 

[Vim71]

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.

Glory Be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit.
As it was in the beginning is now ever shall be world without end
Amen.

Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help, or sought thy intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto thee, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To thee do I come, before thee I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in thy mercy, hear and answer me. Amen

 

[chero23]

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

 

[oldgraymare2]

Hi fin,

Prayers said for you.

May God bless you during this stressful time for you.

 

[Vim71]

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.

Glory Be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit.
As it was in the beginning is now ever shall be world without end
Amen.

Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help, or sought thy intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto thee, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To thee do I come, before thee I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in thy mercy, hear and answer me. Amen