Getting to know women

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So I’m a 24 year old single male and I would really like to get close to a woman but I’m scared of being tempted to sin. Sometimes this fear of sin makes me worry and want to leave when I’m talking to a girl. I kinda wish a woman could help me get close while simultaneously helping me not sin and avoid it. What are your thoughts? Feel free to talk to me if you want to give it a shot. Thank you for reading this and God bless you all!
 
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DONT MEET WOMEN

I’m teasing. It’s late I’ll chat tomorrow
In Christs love
Tweedlealice
 
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Meeting the opposite sex should not be an occasion for sin. Unfortunately, in our culture that can be the case. Mainly through the media’s fault.

But an easy way to get around this is to meet women in groups with other people. Like a youth group or something. That way you can’t be tempted to do certain stuff.
 
There are two pieces to this equation, i.e. two people. A solid Catholic woman will keep you accountable. Trust me. 😎 They’re not always easy to meet. Pray. And start attending young adult-oriented events like Theology on Tap. But stay the course even if you don’t meet anyone to date.
 
good grief’ shipmatee; meeting, talking to & dating a female is VERY far from sinful

behave yourself; it’'ll’ve all worked OK in the end
 
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Blessings
What is your vision for a relationship? Our Catholic goal should be for a HolyCatholic family.
If a goal is meeting a girl to date, and kiss, etc, you’re setting yourself up to sin. This is a tricky thought…look for a mother for your children. Now, they are not to be ugly. But, someone dressed sexy, can have a selfish nature. I’m going to catch flack for this. Sometimes glitter is not gold.
Donate time to charity work. That shows a person is caring and can be selfless. Help at Salvation Army soup kitchen. Help w functions in your church. Join the choir. A hospital has a need in the NICU to feed healthier babies, we call FEED & GROWS. Some donate time to feed babies at feeding times.
My thoughts were to have a goal for a mother of your children and your partner to make a family. Donate your time in charities to find selfless women. This angle can take sex out of the equation.
You know, in dating, we are to avoid the occasion of sin. Stay in public. No heavy kissing, etc. Don’t ignight a fire. Find a young lady from your church. Finding compatible partners helps.
You aren’t to put the cart before the horse. Just saying…
May God guide you where He wishes you to go. May you have the courage to follow it.
Jeremiah 29:11.

Heavenly Father, I come before You today, requesting that You cleanse me of anything that breaks Your heart. Purify my mind, body, and soul. Help me to seek righteousness above all else and not stray into the temptations of the world. Push me forward to be a leader and to set an example for the generations to come.

Psalm 51:10 Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.

Matthew 5:8 Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.

Tweedlealice
 
Do you have a particular woman in mind who you have a crush on and want to get to know better?
Or just in general
 
Your welcome. Did it give you something to think about?? Can you see the validity?
God bless you
 
Your half joke is sort of on target. I don’t think we should fear or avoid any opportunity in life on the basis that it might lead us to sin.
 
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   IDK BLACK FOREST. We are to avoid the occasion to sin. If we find we are pulled to something sinful. We have to retrain our feeling about that which is sinful. 
 So, I can’t go near ice cream.SIGH! 
  So, OP can date. But, his attitude about women and what dating is, has to change. DESENSITIZE!!
Humbly
Moi
 
I wish I had met a guy who thought like you when I was 24. 😉

The most important thing is to make sure you select your girl wisely. Ensure she shares the same values as you, or who at the very least, will respect your decision/wish not to “sin” so she can help you avoid it.

Remember, you’re the man and you take the lead.

Feel free to message me directly if you have any particular questions! I love talking about dating and stuff. 🙂

Good luck!
 
Make friends with women. Women, even just friends, are a stabilizing influence in a man’s life and have much to teach him which he cannot learn from just hanging out with the guys. Indeed, having female friends is an important part of becoming a gentleman. Don’t worry about falling into sin. Most women won’t allow that to happen.
 
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Yeah. I know I need to get out and meet more women. I can be shy though haha
 
I am a woman shy person. However, I am married now and have many children.

Being shy is my disadvantage but I make up for that, I thought (haha), for my honesty and sincerity.

There are women who value that kind of character, so our kinds are not entirely losers.

As for not going into sin, the best guide is the Lord himself. Putting God first in thought, word and action - one can never go wrong.

God bless.
 
Hi PERMATHEUS

When you wrote your thoughts you have displayed the emotions and fear of your heart.

Your friends may have influenced your thoughts.

Read Genesis 2:18-23.
Women are so beautiful!
They would not make you sin?

Talk to your Mom or Dad frankly.

Read the Bible and you will find a good partner.
Praise the Lord!
Edwin
 
I never got into dating, besides the basic relationships in highschool. I need to have the Lord in my life and it revolves around Jesus Christ, Son of God. He will always be there for us and may we always recognise that. I’m almost twenty and I finally want to start dating again, faith is important to me, may we love our God. We have the responsibility to be close to God always throughout our life. We all fall and suffer, but God with his divine mercy and love gives strength to those who truly listen to him. Jesus Christ told us what we have to do in order to have eternal life.

Its hard to look for friendships or relationships for me personally, I don’t know how to talk so I have been just focusing on work and studying scripture. God has a plan for me, maybe I will meet a woman or maybe I will be a priest haha, it has to be one of the two I can’t count them out.
 
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Rather than seeing a girlfriend as a goal, why don’t you get involved in your church and if you meet somebody you like, then approach her?
But without pressuring your self with the idea that you “have” to date anybody.
 
I don’t think there’s very many girls around my age at my church unfortunately
 
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