These “gifts” can be dangerous. If one’s mind is “open” to communication with spiritual beings that means that anyone can come through. It could be any kind of spirit, benign or malicious, true or false, light or dark.
One thing I do is ask the spirit whether it submits itself to Jesus Christ as its Lord. If it doesn’t say anything or refuses to do so, then you can surmise that it’s not from God. Any spirit that is of God will gladly tell you, “I submit to the authority of Jesus Christ”. No spirit of the Devil can say this name.
Don’t get me wrong. I definitely believe in the gifts that God can give, including telepathy, clairaudience, clairsentience, clairvoyance and telekinesis. But, the reality is that these “things” can come from fallen angels who oppress or possess humans. Things can move, lights can go off and on, etc.
I agree with you wholeheartedly on the two conditions you mentioned.
Although my understanding of these gifts and abilities differs greatly from Catholicism, we can agree that being open to spirits does have some problems that need to be dealt with. When I encountered similar things as postwriter has, I consulted a person that I knew understood these things and he’s been guiding me ever since. Without his aid I would be lost as to what to do or not do, believe or not believe.
Peace and blessings to you.
Fa Chan