Girl Problems

[unworthy]

Jordanbank,
listen sweetheart, this is not the time for you to date. I’m only about six years older than you so not that far off. I know how difficult it was for me at your age because it wasn’t that long ago. The honest truth is that when I was 14, I have no business dating and now that I’m 20, it’s different. I know much more as to what dating is. It’s more than the “I like her, she likes me” kind of thing. Are you ready for marriage? Dating is sort of an auditioning process to find your future spouse. And, are you able to provide a stable family home for future children? Right now Jordan you have so much to be thinking about, school, family life, you’re too young to be thinking to date. There will be plenty of time to date. I know that this is not what you want to hear, but if we only told you what you wanted to hear, we would not be getting anywhere near the truth.

That’s my two dollars for what it’s worth.

(P.S I think two dollars is worth alot )

 

[sanctamaria17]

I didn’t start dating till I was seventeen and I was glad I waited. Why?

I know at fourteen I wasn’t mature enough. At the time, I thought I was but everyone does. I was still very young and only starting to have guy friends. I now realize that God gave me the time to grow in Him and develop my gifts. I know I needed to grow up.

Now, at seventeen, a good guy friend and I realized we were attracted to each other and wanted to pursue that. Our relationship ended after a year due to starting college, religious difference, and distance. However, I don’t regret it and I’m glad I learned a little about the mysterious world of romance from a good friend.

I’m not with anyone now and I’d like to keep it that way for awhile. There is someone I have my eye on but I’d rather be just friends unless or until God shows me the right time. Feelings fade, friendship doesn’t have to.

 

[LittleRose]

I was never wanting to date for marriage, do to it because I have feelings for these girls, and to experience dating. But I believe I am going to wait at least another year.

Just because you like someone doesn’t mean you have to go out with her. It’s possible you’ll get way more out of maintaining a good solid friendship.

People often think that it is necessary to “experience dating”, or that if they have feelings for someone they need to go out with them, even if there is no intention for marriage.

This is completely untrue. You’ll get more out of friendship with these girls than you will out of a dating relationship that is literally going to go nowhere. All that means is an inevitable breakup at the end of that relationship, unnecessary heartache, and most likely the ruin of whatever friendship was there beforehand.

Take some advice from someone who used to think the same way when she was your age: save yourself some trouble and don’t take on a girlfriend unless you are trying to find out if she is potential marriage material.

And I can practically gaurantee you that nobody is marriage material at the age of 14 or even 15 or 16. Not even people who are nicer or more mature than most other people that age.

My parents tried to explain this to me, when they began to allow me to date, but naturally I didn’t listen. I could have saved myself some trouble and some emotional baggage, though if I had.

The dating relationships I had in high school ultimately served only to teach me what I don’t want in a marriage. However, the positive experiences I had with my male friends throughout my life are what helped me to recognize my husband as someone I could spend the rest of my life with.