Girlfriend Sleeping Over

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JimG said:
Yes, and if he does not intend to marry the mother of his son, perhaps he ought to stop dating and concentrate on raising his son.
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I think this suggests that his son ISN’T his first priority… and we just don’t know that. He may be the world’s best father.

We are asking him to live up to our standards, as Catholics… and we have no idea if he shares our faith or any faith. So maybe he’s doing the very best that he knows how… and by his insistance that he and the girlfriend would sleep in seperate rooms suggests he is a moral person trying to do the right thing.

By the world’s standards, he is doing nothing wrong. We gave him good reasons why he shouldn’t allow his girlfriend to spend the night - son will get too attached, temptation will be too great, Mom has asked him not to etc. etc. Hopefully he will read those and see that many of us are speaking with concern for his son. I think several of the responses have been judgemental & insulting, which is no way to treat a new poster who simply asked a question. Certainly not one whom we’d hope would stick around to learn more about our faith…
 
yellowbird said:
I think this suggests that his son ISN’T his first priority… and we just don’t know that. He may be the world’s best father.

We are asking him to live up to our standards, as Catholics… and we have no idea if he shares our faith or any faith. So maybe he’s doing the very best that he knows how… and by his insistance that he and the girlfriend would sleep in seperate rooms suggests he is a moral person trying to do the right thing.

By the world’s standards, he is doing nothing wrong. We gave him good reasons why he shouldn’t allow his girlfriend to spend the night - son will get too attached, temptation will be too great, Mom has asked him not to etc. etc. Hopefully he will read those and see that many of us are speaking with concern for his son. I think several of the responses have been judgemental & insulting, which is no way to treat a new poster who simply asked a question. Certainly not one whom we’d hope would stick around to learn more about our faith…
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Yes, you are right, and I pretty much agree with the advice that has been given. And we know nothing about the poster personally, so cannot really make a judgement as to his particular circumstances. Still it seems to me that the general rule for single moms or single dads should be not to bring another boyfriend or girlfriend into the child’s life unless marriage is a good probability. The child already has to deal with having one absent parent, without becoming attached to a potential or quasi parent.
 
JimG said:
Yes, you are right, and I pretty much agree with the advice that has been given. And we know nothing about the poster personally, so cannot really make a judgement as to his particular circumstances. Still it seems to me that the general rule for single moms or single dads should be not to bring another boyfriend or girlfriend into the child’s life unless marriage is a good probability. The child already has to deal with having one absent parent, without becoming attached to a potential or quasi parent.
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Very true. As a child of divorced parents, I cannot agree with you more.
 
yellowbird said:
I think this suggests that his son ISN’T his first priority… and we just don’t know that. He may be the world’s best father.

We are asking him to live up to our standards, as Catholics… and we have no idea if he shares our faith or any faith. So maybe he’s doing the very best that he knows how… and by his insistance that he and the girlfriend would sleep in seperate rooms suggests he is a moral person trying to do the right thing.

By the world’s standards, he is doing nothing wrong. We gave him good reasons why he shouldn’t allow his girlfriend to spend the night - son will get too attached, temptation will be too great, Mom has asked him not to etc. etc. Hopefully he will read those and see that many of us are speaking with concern for his son. I think several of the responses have been judgemental & insulting, which is no way to treat a new poster who simply asked a question. Certainly not one whom we’d hope would stick around to learn more about our faith…
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You know, you are right and I need to make amends for my first post. The OP wrote as his very first sentence,

“Ok, so my situation is a little bit dicey.”

So he does have a conscience about what he’s doing. OP, I think you know the difference between right and wrong. I pray that you will do what you know is right and resist what you know is wrong.
 
Hi All,

This is a bit nuts. For one, if you are really concerned about your son, but want her to stay over, do it when your son isn’t there. It does state that the living accomidations are 50/50. Second, why is it immoral?
 
All of my words for you are negative. So I’ll keep it short.

Don’t do it.
 
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