"Girls should wear modest clothing"

[chevalier]

Having previously believed that there was nothing immoral in nudity itself (which I still believe, though I’m more mindful of the context), I have changed my mind. Seeing a beach in Southern Europe was a big trauma to me.

I understand that individuals are so indoctrinated nowadays that they see nothing wrong in this and that they do it naturally. Still, this doesn’t strike me as a civilised attitude compatible with our culture (in the good sense of “our culture”). It is more like the savage nudity which has always been an exception to immodesty charges.

I tend to associate it with the kind of naturalness which makes women naturally take pills and have sexual relations with boyfriends without practically any thought of transgressing, “liberating” themselves, etc, generally without any consciousness of violating any custom or rule.

The beach toplessness I generally associate with sexual liberation. It somehow doesn’t strike me as functional nudity. It generally continues to have the vibe of striking down a taboo, as far as I am concerned.

However I refuse to make any judgements or assess concrete situations, I stand by the above.

 

[ghaybyers1]

I looked up these sites and I thought a lot of the clothes were very nice. But, also VERY expensive for my budget. I feel I am over spending if I pay more than $20- $25 for a shirt. Most of the time I can get them for $12-$15.

I can definitely see where you’re coming from! I’m on a student’s budget, so I often buy the cheap stuff for day-to-day, and then invest in the good church clothes and workwear.
What is unfortunate is that so much of the cheap clothing is a little… scanty. Less fabric! This is why I absolutely LOVE hanes undershirts for covering up the chest, and modestee’s for every day wear. There are options! I wear the living daylights out of my undershirts and modestee’s but I don’t mind- because I have the happy and comforting knowledge that I am covered, I am modest! (and the best part is that undershirts are pretty darn cheap)

 

[SeekerJen]

Speaking of cheap, modest clothing:

I just placed an order on Forever 21’s website. Normally I avoid the store like the plague in the mall, but my teeny tiny friend dragged me in there a few months ago and I found a couple of things that I really liked. It’s junior sizing, but I wear a 4/6 in misses and size medium seems to work in juniors (except for pants, because those aren’t cut for women’s hips). It’s easier to shop on their website because it’s not cluttered like the stores, and they’ve got things like really cute knee-length A-line and swing skirts for under $25 each, short-sleeved blazers, tees and tanks for layering for under $5 each…

I saved up and bought three skirts, a short-sleeved blazer, and a bunch of tees.

Then I found this skirt on the Down East Basics site (which has a lot of cheap, modest tops as well). Maybe I’ll send back one of the Forever 21 skirts and buy this one instead. I guess it’s a good thing to have too many choices for cute, modest skirts, right?

 

[peary]

Originally Posted by **GraceDK **

MarieVeronica;

I remember my dear Dad (now deceased) telling me, when I was a young teenage girl… that a real man doesn’t respect a woman who dresses immodestly. I never forgot my father’s words of wisdom.

Huh? A ‘real’ man does not respect a woman who dresses immodestly. That is very true!

Your dad was a sinner with wrong judgement in this case. Should he himself be treated with respect? was he worthy ? No one is good but God, says Scripture.
Your dad’s “words of wisdom” as you call them are as far from Christlike behaviour as it gets. If Jesus had said like your dad we would have known He was not the true messiah. Our Lord gave us the utmost honour and respect even though we all deserved hell for our actions and he saw the dirt each one of us carry around with us in our heart… And if we dont have God-given love but indeed follow the “wisdom” of your dad we could all go around disrespecting each other - how is that thought for you?

**What am I missing in this answer? This makes no sense to me. **

 

[mark_a]

I agree that girls should wear modest clothing at all times, but somtimes I am confused, because alot of guys I know say that, and then gape at models in magazines. A girl in a mini-skirt walks by and they stare and say “wow she’s hott!”
Girls want attention from guys. Not really this kind of attention, but it is hard to remember that, and we wind up settling for the bad attention.
I wish instead of just saying that girls should wear modest clothes, when guys are around “real girls” they would try to complement them on their God-given inner qualities instead of staring open mouthed at air-brushed pictures of models, which makes girls feel like they will never be good enough.

What do you think?

I think you are right. You may quote me if you wish.

Teens boys behave this way to fit in with “the boys”.

An older male that hasn’t outgrown this behavior is the same one staring at or commenting about other women while at dinner with his wife.

Your high standards (demonstrated by your modest clothing, among other things) will attract males with higher standards. Be warned though, they will still require careful molding and guidance from you.

 

[Jolly_Joe]

I don’t know if anyone would find this helpful, but I warned my children that they shouldn’t wear anything they didn’t want their mom and dad to show up in front of their friends wearing. It seemed to work pretty well. Just the thought of their dad showing up in a thong seemed to keep things pretty reasonable. Of course, they knew I would do it because I don’t make empty threats.

JJ

 

[mark_a]

I don’t know if anyone would find this helpful, but I warned my children that they shouldn’t wear anything they didn’t want their mom and dad to show up in front of their friends wearing. It seemed to work pretty well. Just the thought of their dad showing up in a thong seemed to keep things pretty reasonable. Of course, they knew I would do it because I don’t make empty threats.

JJ

Brilliant!!!