Give me your best argument AGAINST becoming Catholic.

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When I was becoming Catholic there were no young people there, except for some kids (11-17ish) with their parents. I didn’t see the pews packed with young adults.

I then asked the Priest and looked online for some young adult groups. Bible studies, worship groups, anything really to meet young adult Catholics. I was very unlucky in my search.
This is exactly why we need people like you! If you see a need, it is likely you are being called to answer it.

Where are all the young adult, devout Catholics? Maybe it’s a Canada problem.

I am sure there were some Canadians present at World Youth Week.

Oh here, I found some!
 
I thought about swimming the Tiber, when I became disgusted with the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America ( ELCA ). The biggest reason was that I found a parish in the Lutheran Church- Missouri Synod ( LC-MS ) that satisfied everything.
But after studying the Lutheran Confessions I became convinced that I made the right decision.
I have a problem with papal infallibility; asking Saints for help instead of Christ, after all we all are saints and sinners at the same time; those Catholics that are pushing to have the Virgin Mary to be declared Co-Redemptrix. These are some of the reasons.
The other thing is the current Pope and the possible relaxation of gay unions. They say error comes into the Church in three stages, in the final stage error tells Truth that it has to leave because Truth is a disturber of the peace of the Church. This also applies to the ELCA, first it admitted women to the clergy, then after time it admitted celebrate gays as pastors, now gays can be married or non-celebrate. Those that object are told to be quiet.
The LC-MS has men only clergy and gays living in sin or non-celebrate would not be allowed to commune, the same would apply to straight men and women.
 
And these Saints have been shown to win against the Pope. Plus, I list one such Council that contradicts the Pope on more than one count.

Do you call excommunicating numerous churches “peaceful”? A lot of people following a non-Quartodecimian dating method gave Rome a lot of flak for it. People within the Roman Church itself vehemently opposed the Pope in this regard, including by no less than St. Irenaeus.
you are twisting things. St. Irenaeus did plead for the tradition given to them from the Apostle John, but his main effort was to pursuade St Victor to reverse his excommunication. And St Victor did so, neither because he was wrong to instruct those churches to practice one Universal date or that he did not have authority to do so. The question for you would be, why did any of them even think Pope Victor had any such authority to do so? 🤷 Why did St Victor even think he was able to excommunicate any bishop from the “common unity” and from Eucharistic ministry!?! No one said he didnt have the authority to do that. No one just ignored his excommunication. Rather they pleaded for him to reverse. Yet, they would have been better to just accept the peacefull request of two popes to unify the celebration of Pascha into one date.

Here is my posts on the subject:

forums.catholic-questions.org/showpost.php?p=12426651&postcount=178.

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Up until 1 Nicaea in 325, there were multiple different ways of calculating Pascha. Rome had one system, Alexandria had another, and the Quartodecimian method was just one among others in the mix.
It was not so much a system as a Tradition. There was the tradition from St Peter which Rome handed down, and there was the Tradition those from the Asian churches held from St John the Evangelist. These were two Sacred Traditions and one needed to be upheld while the other dissolved in the Catholic Church. Which one does your church observe?
Actually, St. Victor is supporting my case. He excommunicated the Quartodecimians. Many churches were vehemently against this. Pope Victor caved to pressure and rescinded the excommunication without the Quartodecimians adopting another method of calculating Pascha.
He reversed his excommunication, yes. Your claim is that he didnt even have the authority to make such an attempt. He saw the importance of celebrating one date within the Church Catholic. Yet he was pursuaded to also see that it was not worth excommunicating whole churches to achieve. Nothing wrong with that. Eventually a Council changed the stubborness of those unwilling to respect his decree. So it was because of the hardness of their hearts that he allowed two Pascha celebrations to persist, until all would eventually see.
But if you want another example, then you need look no further than Pope Vigilius being forced to reverse his earlier decision regarding the Three Chapters (at first he supported them, but later condemned them) under pressure from the Emperor. And then Vigilius has to rubber-stamp the Second Council of Constantinople, even though he didn’t even want the Council to happen, and even though that Council rejected his (name removed by moderator)ut:
Then an agreement was patched up and Vigilius agreed to a general council but soon withdrew his assent. Nevertheless, the council was held, and, after refusing to accept the “Constitutum” of Vigilius (see VIGILIUS, POPE), it then condemned the Three Chapters. Finally Vigilius succumbed, confirmed the council, and was set free.
I need to look into this more. Its pretty complicated, and requires quite a bit more research. 👍 Maybe someone else can address this, and the case of St Meletius.
 
These are some of the reasons.
The other thing is the current Pope and the possible relaxation of gay unions. They say error comes into the Church in three stages, in the final stage error tells Truth that it has to leave because Truth is a disturber of the peace of the Church.
Who is they? And there is no way (I don’t know who has convinced you) the Church will be accepting Gay unions. Pope Francis NEVER inclined this possibly at ALL. :knight2:

MJ
 
If the authority of the successor of Peter were not recognized, then Irenaeus and so many others would not have contacted him about his point of view!
Not only that, but if the infallibility of the first vicar of Christ is not recognized by HH, he ought not be quoting from his first 2 encyclicals as the inerrant Word of God.
 
you are twisting things. St. Irenaeus did plead for the tradition given to them from the Apostle John, but his main effort was to pursuade St Victor to reverse his excommunication. And St Victor did so, neither because he was wrong to instruct those churches to practice one Universal date or that he did not have authority to do so. The question for you would be, why did any of them even think Pope Victor had any such authority to do so? 🤷 Why did St Victor even think he was able to excommunicate any bishop from the “common unity” and from Eucharistic ministry!?! No one said he didn’t have the authority to do that. No one just ignored his excommunication. Rather they pleaded for him to reverse.
I’m not saying that Pope Victor had no right to excommunicate the Quartodecimians. Churches during the first millennium practically excommunicated each other left and right. It wasn’t some terrible “I’m going to cut you off from everyone else” thing. Rather, it was a way of saying, “Yo, I really disagree with what you’ve been doing/teaching lately, so I don’t want to be in communion with you right now.”

Plus, just because Rome excommunicated someone doesn’t mean that they were out of communion with EVERYBODY else. That’s wrong. For example, when Rome was out of communion with St. Meletius, Constantinople was still in communion with St. Meletius. St. John Chrysostom was not in communion with Rome most if not all of his life until he was enthroned as Archbishop of Constantinople, as he was previously under St. Meletius.

So no, nobody argued against his ability to excommunicate people. His ability to excommunicate wasn’t the issue, it was his very act to try and cut off everyone who held to the Quartodecimian way of calculating Pascha. Many people thought it was unjust and that the Pope should not do it, and they made him back down and lift the excommunication.

What I’m getting at is this: Pope excommunicates some group for whatever reason. Various people stand up and tell him that what he did is wrong and that he should lift the excommunication. Pope lifts the excommunication under pressure. Since the Pope yielded to the demands of others, his authority can be challenged. If his authority can be challenged, then Vatican 1 is wrong for saying that a ruling of the Pope cannot be challenged.

Tell me, if Pope Francis were to excommunicate, say, Latin America from the rest of the Catholic Church, would the rest of the bishops and Patriarchs around the world stand up, oppose him, rebuke him and make him reverse the excommunication?
Yet, they would have been better to just accept the peacefull request of two popes to unify the celebration of Pascha into one date.
Even still, we didn’t have one unified way of calculating the day of Pascha until I Nicaea, more than a hundred years after Pope Victor tried to pull his move.
He reversed his excommunication, yes. Your claim is that he didnt even have the authority to make such an attempt. He saw the importance of celebrating one date within the Church Catholic. Yet he was pursuaded to also see that it was not worth excommunicating whole churches to achieve. Nothing wrong with that. Eventually a Council changed the stubborness of those unwilling to respect his decree. So it was because of the hardness of their hearts that he allowed two Pascha celebrations to persist, until all would eventually see.
I think it’s more that Victor didn’t have the authority to change the traditions of entire churches. Maybe he can do that in his own Roman church, but he can by no means tell Constantinople or Alexandria how to celebrate their Liturgy or which Saints to commemorate or what feast days to observe on which days. Even today, Rome can’t change the practices of the Eastern Catholics. He can call for things and encourage things, but on his own power, he can’t touch the liturgical traditions of the Eastern Churches.

Pope Victor didn’t have the authority to change the practices of the Asian Churches, but the Council of Nicaea, made up of all the bishops from all around the world, did have that authority.
Here is my posts on the subject:
Read 'em.
It was not so much a system as a Tradition. There was the tradition from St Peter which Rome handed down, and there was the Tradition those from the Asian churches held from St John the Evangelist. These were two Sacred Traditions and one needed to be upheld while the other dissolved in the Catholic Church. Which one does your church observe?
We observe the tradition that was agreed upon at 1 Nicaea–we celebrate Pascha on Sunday after Passover, and after the first full moon after the vernal equinox.

And to my knowledge, Rome never adopted Nicaea I’s criterion that Pascha be celebrated after Passover, but simply hold Pascha on the Sunday after the first full moon after the vernal equinox. Which has collided with Passover at least once before, I believe. So, I Nicaea’s method of calculating the date is essentially a harmonization of Rome’s and Alexandria’s, to my knowledge. I’ll check that for sure later, I have class soon.
 
Indeed Paul opposed Peter. Paul must not have heard that Peter was actually the infallible universal bishop who had universal authority over the care of souls.

That’s because that doctrine didn’t exist yet.

Thankfully Irenaeus didn’t know of that doctrine either.
For some reason it seems to meet a personal need of yours to cling to the misperception that infallibilty = impeccability. If that is the case, then no amount of facts and reason will be effective.

One has to wonder what would have to change for you, were you to relinquish clinging to this untruth?
 
Give me your best argument AGAINST becoming Catholic.

Thanks.
Easy answer: Everything’s geared towards families (particularly those with small kids) and seniors. The single adults are second-class citizens who get treated like we have leprosy, Case in point: When will we see a synod about “welcoming” singles to church? And before anyone says, “It’s not the purpose of church to entertain you or match-make for you,” that’s a total non sequitur that always gets mentioned whenever it’s pointed single adults really aren’t appreciated at most Catholic parishes. And yes, I have scheduled Catholic-oriented events on social media sites like Meetup - however, to point out the obvious (for those who don’t realize this), the single male adult risks looking like he’s hitting on women (and what single male wants to be that creepy guy?) and single female adults…well, that’s basically advertising she’s vulnerable. Again, not many single women want to deal with that.

When will the Vatican acknowledge that single adults need to be welcomed home to Rome, too? Homosexuals and divorcees get preferential “welcome” VIP treatment before single Catholics? Really? When will singles get mentioned in a synod?

So, good luck disproving any of what I just said. 🍿
 
Easy answer: Everything’s geared towards families (particularly those with small kids) and seniors.
Could everything be geared towards families and seniors, yet the Catholic Church still be the One True Church? The one Christ established? The one that proclaims the fullness of truth?
 
Easy answer: Everything’s geared towards families (particularly those with small kids) and seniors. The single adults are second-class citizens who get treated like we have leprosy, Case in point: When will we see a synod about “welcoming” singles to church? And before anyone says, “It’s not the purpose of church to entertain you or match-make for you,” that’s a total non sequitur that always gets mentioned whenever it’s pointed single adults really aren’t appreciated at most Catholic parishes. And yes, I have scheduled Catholic-oriented events on social media sites like Meetup - however, to point out the obvious (for those who don’t realize this), the single male adult risks looking like he’s hitting on women (and what single male wants to be that creepy guy?) and single female adults…well, that’s basically advertising she’s vulnerable. Again, not many single women want to deal with that.

When will the Vatican acknowledge that single adults need to be welcomed home to Rome, too? Homosexuals and divorcees get preferential “welcome” VIP treatment before single Catholics? Really? When will singles get mentioned in a synod?

So, good luck disproving any of what I just said. 🍿
Hi. I’m not going to disprove anything you have just said because it doesn’t need disproving. This is not a reason to not be a part of the R.C Church. The Sacraments provide you with the grace and nourishment you need to lead a good Christian life for the interests of others which isn’t the same as joining a single’s club.

But to pick up on what you described. I agree. But the Church welcomes people to voice these concerns. Bishops receive letters, and groups within Churches can be started, and there are plenty of evangelical meetings in which Catholics can meet other Christians. There is room for ideas, change and growth within the Church. The problems which you describe are not obstacles placed in your way but challenges to overcome, the main one being that the Church has more old people than middle-aged, or any other age group. The young, below twenty-four, seem to be well catered for in the city areas, and the old have their conventions etc…but the middle-aged tend to be a bit side-lined. But why don’t we be there for the old and the young and that way we get a look in - a bit more of a rounded view is sometimes needed. And if you have issues to bring up such as the ones you rightly mentioned then all the more reason to raise this topic at a Catholic Church get-together. No one is going to laugh you out of the room but probably listen and come up with helpful suggestions to steer you on your way.

I myself like the gentler approach to relationships because I think that people outside of Christianity tend to overly ‘need’ to be with a partner which doesn’t make for great discernment. Within Church circles people meet in a gentler way, simply to be acquainted, and to be honest I for one prefer it that way. But it would be nice to have more middle-aged prayer groups, for example.
 
Easy answer: Everything’s geared towards families (particularly those with small kids) and seniors. The single adults are second-class citizens who get treated like we have leprosy, Case in point: When will we see a synod about “welcoming” singles to church? And before anyone says, “It’s not the purpose of church to entertain you or match-make for you,” that’s a total non sequitur that always gets mentioned whenever it’s pointed single adults really aren’t appreciated at most Catholic parishes. And yes, I have scheduled Catholic-oriented events on social media sites like Meetup - however, to point out the obvious (for those who don’t realize this), the single male adult risks looking like he’s hitting on women (and what single male wants to be that creepy guy?) and single female adults…well, that’s basically advertising she’s vulnerable. Again, not many single women want to deal with that.

When will the Vatican acknowledge that single adults need to be welcomed home to Rome, too? Homosexuals and divorcees get preferential “welcome” VIP treatment before single Catholics? Really? When will singles get mentioned in a synod?

So, good luck disproving any of what I just said. 🍿
The faith welcomes everyone.
However, you make a good observation. Parish culture and the culture in general, frequently does not make a place for single people. We do a poor job of that.
I don’t have a solution for you, other than to get involved. If you invest yourself in the parish, the alienation and awkwardness tend to melt away. I know this from first hand experience.
 
I’m not saying that Pope Victor had no right to excommunicate the Quartodecimians. Churches during the first millennium practically excommunicated each other left and right. It wasn’t some terrible “I’m going to cut you off from everyone else” thing. Rather, it was a way of saying, “Yo, I really disagree with what you’ve been doing/teaching lately, so I don’t want to be in communion with you right now.”

Plus, just because Rome excommunicated someone doesn’t mean that they were out of communion with EVERYBODY else. That’s wrong. For example, when Rome was out of communion with St. Meletius, Constantinople was still in communion with St. Meletius. St. John Chrysostom was not in communion with Rome most if not all of his life until he was enthroned as Archbishop of Constantinople, as he was previously under St. Meletius.

So no, nobody argued against his ability to excommunicate people. His ability to excommunicate wasn’t the issue, it was his very act to try and cut off everyone who held to the Quartodecimian way of calculating Pascha. Many people thought it was unjust and that the Pope should not do it, and they made him back down and lift the excommunication.

What I’m getting at is this: Pope excommunicates some group for whatever reason. Various people stand up and tell him that what he did is wrong and that he should lift the excommunication. Pope lifts the excommunication under pressure. Since the Pope yielded to the demands of others, his authority can be challenged. If his authority can be challenged, then Vatican 1 is wrong for saying that a ruling of the Pope cannot be challenged.

Tell me, if Pope Francis were to excommunicate, say, Latin America from the rest of the Catholic Church, would the rest of the bishops and Patriarchs around the world stand up, oppose him, rebuke him and make him reverse the excommunication?

Even still, we didn’t have one unified way of calculating the day of Pascha until I Nicaea, more than a hundred years after Pope Victor tried to pull his move.

I think it’s more that Victor didn’t have the authority to change the traditions of entire churches. Maybe he can do that in his own Roman church, but he can by no means tell Constantinople or Alexandria how to celebrate their Liturgy or which Saints to commemorate or what feast days to observe on which days. Even today, Rome can’t change the practices of the Eastern Catholics. He can call for things and encourage things, but on his own power, he can’t touch the liturgical traditions of the Eastern Churches.

Pope Victor didn’t have the authority to change the practices of the Asian Churches, but the Council of Nicaea, made up of all the bishops from all around the world, did have that authority.
Well, I do have a different observation of the texts. And its certainly not a mere, “Yo, I really disagree with what you’ve been doing/teaching lately, so I don’t want to be in communion with you right now.”

"Anicetus conceded the administration of the eucharist in the church to Polycarp, manifestly as a mark of respect. And they parted from each other in peace, both those who observed, and those who did not, maintaining the peace of the whole church."
Here we see the Pope allowing Eucharist administration in the Church of Polycarp, out of respect.

“Synods and conferences of bishops were convened, and without a dissenting voice, drew up a decree of the Church, in the form of letters addressed to Christians everywhere, that never on any day other than the Lord’s Day should the mystery of the Lord’s resurrection from the dead be celebrated, and on that day alone we should observe the end of the Paschal fast.”

“These synods were held in Palestine, Pontus and Osrhoene in the east, and in Rome and Gaul in the west.[4] The council in Rome, presided over by its bishop Victor, took place in 193 and sent a letter about the matter to Polycrates of Ephesus and the churches of the Roman province of Asia.[8] Within the same year, Polycrates presided over a council at Ephesus attended by several bishops throughout that province, which rejected Victor’s authority and kept the province’s paschal tradition.”

Here we see synods under the Bishop of Rome sending their decision to “Christians everywhere”. And Bishops rejecting Victor’s authority in favor of a lesser authority, namely the Tradition of St John the Evangelist.

On receiving the negative response of Polycrates, Victor attempted to cut off Polycrates and the others who took this stance from the common unity, **but reversed his decision **after bishops that included Saint Irenaeus, Bishop of Lugdunum in Gaul, interceded, recommending that Victor follow the more peaceful attitude of his predecessors.

Here we see the attempt of Pope Victor to cut off "from the common unity" those who were rejecting his authority. It was never rejected that he was unable to do this, but that it was strongly recommended that he did not resort to such extremes over the issue. And he reversed his decision.

You are basically saying, “You cant make me do that, so your authority is invalid.”

Authority must be submitted to in order to be beneficial. Just because it is rejected does not mean that it doesn’t have power behind it. The Churches of Asia should have listened to God’s authority hundreds of years before the First Ecumenical Council of Nicaea. But nevertheless they finally were brought into a unity. 👍
 
[7] ](http://bookofconcord.org/treatise.php)In the first place, therefore, let us show from the [holy] Gospel that the Roman bishop is not by divine right above other bishops and pastors.
Guanophone, the big distinction between the our confessions and Catholic dogma, as I understand it, is that we Lutherans are allowed to have private reservations for those things that are adiaphora.

For example - Lutherans can reject the Immaculate Conception without fear (though they should study more), while a Catholic with the same doubts would have a quite a bit more to worry about.
 
What I’m getting at is this: Pope excommunicates some group for whatever reason. Various people stand up and tell him that what he did is wrong and that he should lift the excommunication. Pope lifts the excommunication under pressure. Since the Pope yielded to the demands of others, his authority can be challenged. If his authority can be challenged, then Vatican 1 is wrong for saying that a ruling of the Pope cannot be challenged.
Vatican I did not say that. That is absurd.
Tell me, if Pope Francis were to excommunicate, say, Latin America from the rest of the Catholic Church, would the rest of the bishops and Patriarchs around the world stand up, oppose him, rebuke him and make him reverse the excommunication?
I certainly hope so! Unless there were some sort of drastic apostasy in Latin America that could warrant such a thing, and even if there were, it would come in the same form it did at Trent, where those who embraced heresy would self ex-communicate. Excommunication applies to persons, not countries!
I think it’s more that Victor didn’t have the authority to change the traditions of entire churches. Maybe he can do that in his own Roman church, but he can by no means tell Constantinople or Alexandria how to celebrate their Liturgy or which Saints to commemorate or what feast days to observe on which days. Even today, Rome can’t change the practices of the Eastern Catholics. He can call for things and encourage things, but on his own power, he can’t touch the liturgical traditions of the Eastern Churches.
Exactly! Each has a responsibility to preserve what has been handed down by the Apostles without blemish.
Pope Victor didn’t have the authority to change the practices of the Asian Churches, but the Council of Nicaea, made up of all the bishops from all around the world, did have that authority.[/xquote]

I think this is more a matter of method. The Apostles made these decisions collegially, rather than imperiously. Even when Peter was in the right about Cornelius, he was not imperious with the others about it.

I think that hubris in Patriarchs, both East and West, has been the biggest impediment to unity. Next to that a lack of understanding and tolerance for differences of culture, language, etc.
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We observe the tradition that was agreed upon at 1 Nicaea–we celebrate Pascha on Sunday after Passover, and after the first full moon after the vernal equinox.

And to my knowledge, Rome never adopted Nicaea I’s criterion that Pascha be celebrated after Passover, but simply hold Pascha on the Sunday after the first full moon after the vernal equinox. Which has collided with Passover at least once before, I believe. So, I Nicaea’s method of calculating the date is essentially a harmonization of Rome’s and Alexandria’s, to my knowledge. I’ll check that for sure later, I have class soon.
Personally I like the Eastern method better!
 
Easy answer: Everything’s geared towards families (particularly those with small kids) and seniors. The single adults are second-class citizens who get treated like we have leprosy, Case in point: When will we see a synod about “welcoming” singles to church? And before anyone says, “It’s not the purpose of church to entertain you or match-make for you,” that’s a total non sequitur that always gets mentioned whenever it’s pointed single adults really aren’t appreciated at most Catholic parishes. And yes, I have scheduled Catholic-oriented events on social media sites like Meetup - however, to point out the obvious (for those who don’t realize this), the single male adult risks looking like he’s hitting on women (and what single male wants to be that creepy guy?) and single female adults…well, that’s basically advertising she’s vulnerable. Again, not many single women want to deal with that.

When will the Vatican acknowledge that single adults need to be welcomed home to Rome, too? Homosexuals and divorcees get preferential “welcome” VIP treatment before single Catholics? Really? When will singles get mentioned in a synod?

So, good luck disproving any of what I just said. 🍿
Certainly this cannot be disproved, because it is your personal experience. You are not getting your social needs met.

I recently read some research, too that supports your points. Most American Catholics are active when their children are small, and again when they are seniors, but otherwise not.

Your experience of dissatisfaction is probably an indication of your calling and ministry. If you are provoked by a need that is not met, it is likely you are being drawn to address it. You have already made some efforts (though sounds unsuccessful) to address it. It is a cross to bear, but that is what we are all called to do. We are human beings, and we all have needs, and it is hard to go without them getting met.

I am glad to see that your issues are social, rather than doctrinal.
 
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