Giving up (going my own way)

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For all those who have had the misfortune of reading my previous threads about my pathetic romantic situation, I offer this final update.

I’m tired of the whole idea of marriage/male-female relationship whatever you want to call it, let’s just call it love. I have seen and met seemingly perfect young women (Polish) who always turned out to have pretty significant flaws. These flaws go beyond merely having a past or being less than perfect physically (I too am flawed in these ways), or having some trivial differences in personality. I won’t elaborate more for privacy’s sake. Simply put, young women (even the dewotki) are not what they seem. I’m always very friendly and admittedly a charmant who always learns much simply through talking. After talking with countless such young women, finding someone worth my time is truly impossible. I don’t care if someone ‘special’ (whatever that means) shows up in the next five minutes, I have cast my heart into iron and refuse to ever accept a young woman into my life. Love is tiresome and pointless.

I am going my own way. I refuse to ever marry, date, court, flirt, whatever. That nonsense tires me and leaves me weary. This does not mean that I am now turning to immoral substitutes (pornography, prostitution, fornication, etc.). Nor am I going to blame women/harbour ill feelings toward the female sex. Basically, I have no anger toward anyone, except me (obvious) and my situation (not people). I have simply given up on meeting that young woman for whom I would weaken myself and let my guard down.

I apologise for any discomfort brought by this rant (thank you czysta Wyborowa), and wish you a good night.
 
Klemens_Hadwig said:
For all those who have had the misfortune of reading my previous threads about my pathetic romantic situation, I offer this final update.

I’m tired of the whole idea of marriage/male-female relationship whatever you want to call it, let’s just call it love. I have seen and met seemingly perfect young women (Polish) who always turned out to have pretty significant flaws. These flaws go beyond merely having a past or being less than perfect physically (I too am flawed in these ways), or having some trivial differences in personality. I won’t elaborate more for privacy’s sake. Simply put, young women (even the dewotki) are not what they seem. I’m always very friendly and admittedly a charmant who always learns much simply through talking. After talking with countless such young women, finding someone worth my time is truly impossible. I don’t care if someone ‘special’ (whatever that means) shows up in the next five minutes, I have cast my heart into iron and refuse to ever accept a young woman into my life. Love is tiresome and pointless.

I am going my own way. I refuse to ever marry, date, court, flirt, whatever. That nonsense tires me and leaves me weary. This does not mean that I am now turning to immoral substitutes (pornography, prostitution, fornication, etc.). Nor am I going to blame women/harbour ill feelings toward the female sex. Basically, I have no anger toward anyone, except me (obvious) and my situation (not people). I have simply given up on meeting that young woman for whom I would weaken myself and let my guard down.

I apologise for any discomfort brought by this rant (thank you czysta Wyborowa), and wish you a good night.
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Sounds good. I wish you well in your endeavor and I agree it’s probably the way for you to go.
 
Klemens_Hadwig said:
For all those who have had the misfortune of reading my previous threads about my pathetic romantic situation, I offer this final update.

I’m tired of the whole idea of marriage/male-female relationship whatever you want to call it, let’s just call it love. I have seen and met seemingly perfect young women (Polish) who always turned out to have pretty significant flaws. These flaws go beyond merely having a past or being less than perfect physically (I too am flawed in these ways), or having some trivial differences in personality. I won’t elaborate more for privacy’s sake. Simply put, young women (even the dewotki) are not what they seem. I’m always very friendly and admittedly a charmant who always learns much simply through talking. After talking with countless such young women, finding someone worth my time is truly impossible. I don’t care if someone ‘special’ (whatever that means) shows up in the next five minutes, I have cast my heart into iron and refuse to ever accept a young woman into my life. Love is tiresome and pointless.

I am going my own way. I refuse to ever marry, date, court, flirt, whatever. That nonsense tires me and leaves me weary. This does not mean that I am now turning to immoral substitutes (pornography, prostitution, fornication, etc.). Nor am I going to blame women/harbour ill feelings toward the female sex. Basically, I have no anger toward anyone, except me (obvious) and my situation (not people). I have simply given up on meeting that young woman for whom I would weaken myself and let my guard down.

I apologise for any discomfort brought by this rant (thank you czysta Wyborowa), and wish you a good night.
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Well, like Mother Teresa once said, “if you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans.”
Who knows…???

Good luck, Shalom.
 
My Father would always say ," For every Pot in the Pantry ,there is a lid "

There is someone for everyone, you just got to look outside the Square
 
phil_at_dayboro said:
My Father would always say ," For every Pot in the Pantry ,there is a lid "

There is someone for everyone, you just got to look outside the Square
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Not really.

Anyway I wish the OP well.

No one is under any obligation to seek a spouse.
 
Klemens_Hadwig said:
For all those who have had the misfortune of reading my previous threads about my pathetic romantic situation, I offer this final update.

I’m tired of the whole idea of marriage/male-female relationship whatever you want to call it, let’s just call it love. I have seen and met seemingly perfect young women (Polish) who always turned out to have pretty significant flaws. These flaws go beyond merely having a past or being less than perfect physically (I too am flawed in these ways), or having some trivial differences in personality. I won’t elaborate more for privacy’s sake. Simply put, young women (even the dewotki) are not what they seem. I’m always very friendly and admittedly a charmant who always learns much simply through talking. After talking with countless such young women, finding someone worth my time is truly impossible. I don’t care if someone ‘special’ (whatever that means) shows up in the next five minutes, I have cast my heart into iron and refuse to ever accept a young woman into my life. Love is tiresome and pointless.

I am going my own way. I refuse to ever marry, date, court, flirt, whatever. That nonsense tires me and leaves me weary. This does not mean that I am now turning to immoral substitutes (pornography, prostitution, fornication, etc.). Nor am I going to blame women/harbour ill feelings toward the female sex. Basically, I have no anger toward anyone, except me (obvious) and my situation (not people). I have simply given up on meeting that young woman for whom I would weaken myself and let my guard down.

I apologise for any discomfort brought by this rant (thank you czysta Wyborowa), and wish you a good night.
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I appreciate your honesty. I highlighted the above from your post. The problem is this works both ways. Maybe some have thought you are not worth their time as well. Might be good to take some time away from the dating scene and focus on your relationship with Christ.

Someday, if your vocation is called to dating and marriage someone will come your way and perhaps you will wonder more then “I am worth THEIR time” and not focus so much one directional.

Mary.
 
Some 35 years ago I felt the same about the men I knew. And, like you, I gave up. Best thing I ever did.

I no longer gave off that desperate “I’m single” vibe. I had fun. I went places, did things, and made friends. Which is how I met my husband. At the time I was a little pissed - I was finally enjoying myself. 🙂

But it has pretty much worked out. Marriage isn’t what I thought it would be. Sometimes it’s been wonderful, sometimes it’s been the pits, but on the whole, it’s OK.
 
You may not find love, but be open to it finding you someday! A prayer for your bright future, however it turns out!
 
Get yourself a pet. They will never disappoint you if you train them right. And then if you change your mind, you could always give it away. Just consider it.
 
Sigh.
I wish you all the best.
Be open to whatever happens.
And if you get a pet, your new friend will let you keep it.
😉
 
Klemens_Hadwig said:
For all those who have had the misfortune of reading my previous threads about my pathetic romantic situation, I offer this final update.

I’m tired of the whole idea of marriage/male-female relationship whatever you want to call it, let’s just call it love. I have seen and met seemingly perfect young women (Polish) who always turned out to have pretty significant flaws. These flaws go beyond merely having a past or being less than perfect physically (I too am flawed in these ways), or having some trivial differences in personality. I won’t elaborate more for privacy’s sake. Simply put, young women (even the dewotki) are not what they seem. I’m always very friendly and admittedly a charmant who always learns much simply through talking. After talking with countless such young women, finding someone worth my time is truly impossible. I don’t care if someone ‘special’ (whatever that means) shows up in the next five minutes, I have cast my heart into iron and refuse to ever accept a young woman into my life. Love is tiresome and pointless.

I am going my own way. I refuse to ever marry, date, court, flirt, whatever. That nonsense tires me and leaves me weary. This does not mean that I am now turning to immoral substitutes (pornography, prostitution, fornication, etc.). Nor am I going to blame women/harbour ill feelings toward the female sex. Basically, I have no anger toward anyone, except me (obvious) and my situation (not people). I have simply given up on meeting that young woman for whom I would weaken myself and let my guard down.

I apologise for any discomfort brought by this rant (thank you czysta Wyborowa), and wish you a good night.
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most young people today are quite immature, so I get where you are coming from.

don’t worry about it. Just focus on you and God, your life will follow his will and that’s all that matters. maybe you are not even called to marriage in the first place, it’s perfectly fine. or maybe things will change in the future, who knows.
 
phil_at_dayboro said:
My Father would always say ," For every Pot in the Pantry ,there is a lid "
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There is someone for everyone**, you just got to look outside the Square
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Not necessarily. Marriage is not obligatory by any means. I never worried and never married and know many the same and we are fine that way.
 
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