I was raised by nuns and Xaverian Brothers in grammar and Prep school respectively.
We were taught that masturbation, referred to as “self-abuse,” was a mortal sin. This meant that the individual would be sent to hell to be punished for all eternity.
I am now 60. It seems to me that the loving Christ as seen in scripture could not sanction such a punishment for an act which is today thought of by most professionals and thoughtful people as perfectly natural.
I have been away from the church for years after an adolescence full of guilt and endless confessions for this transgression.
Does the church still teach this? If it does not, I have another reason to return to the practice of my faith.
I agree with the church on abortion. But I do not understand why birth control, which might prevent the unwanted pregnancy, is regarded as such a serious transgression. To allow the latter would help reduce the former.
I hope I don’t get chewed out for asking these questions but I do so in good faith in an attempt to return to my faith.
Thanks for reading this.
Peter 3120
I will attempt to offer the position of the Church in good faith as well. In the first place, millions of Catholics have been taught quite wrongly that “doing X is a mortal sin”, when in fact what they should have been taught is that “doing X is grave matter”. That is to say, while e.g. murder (unlawful taking of human life) is objectively a grave act, it is not
automatically a mortal sin. For a sin to be mortal, it must involve (a) grave matter, (b) full knowledge of the grave nature of the act, and (c) full consent to the act. B and C must also be present for a sin to be mortal, and an outsider cannot possibly know for certain that they are present each and every time any person does X. So no, masturbation is not
automatically a mortal sin. In fact, it is probably not a mortal sin very often (based on remembering back to my own youth), but it is grave matter and is something to be avoided for our own spiritual health, just like we should avoid drinking bleach for our own physical health.
But why is masturbation grave matter? I do see this much more clearly now that I’m older. The problem is that it separates sex from the two objects of sex, which are as an expression of love in marriage, and as the path to bringing new human beings (that is, new immortal souls) into the world. Again, judging by my own past, masturbation certainly does make sexual pleasure a goal in and of itself, and it leads quite “naturally” to using women for sexual pleasure, and I am ashamed to say that in the past I have feigned affection for women when what I was really interested in was using them as sexual objects. As I said, this is a natural next step after first “using” imagined women in the act of masturbation (and let’s not forget how pornography feeds all of this as well). Using people (including ourselves) for our own ends and pleasures, that is the real grave matter. It was only later in life that I realized how “modern” sexual attitudes (of which I was all in favor) truly make all of us, but women in particular, into nothing more than useful warm pieces of meat. What a far, far cry is this view of people from the beloved children of God that they all are! Thank God my eyes were finally opened.
Artificial birth control is another aspect of the same tendency. It is about God-designed sex without the God-designed consequences. When one uses ABC, it is only natural to consider a “failure” of ABC (that is, a conception) as a problem, a mistake, something to be corrected. It is certainly no coincidence that abortion became a “right” and exploded in numbers within a few years of the availability of easy and convenient ABC, because they are both about sex without consequences.