Booklover and Hasikelee,
I’m hoping that maybe I can offer some (name removed by moderator)ut into this discussion that may help. I am a devout Catholic man who believes in the teachings of the Church. I am also homosexual (ssa, whatever term you prefer). I believe God is calling me, as He calls everyone, to live a chaste life. In my case this would also be a single life, as I believe marriage was meant to be between a man and a woman. I see some terrible misconceptions in a few of your posts that I hope I can help to shed some light on.
If those children do become neurotic, they will have plenty of company with the children of many heterosexual marriages. I feel that children are by far best off with one father and one mother. What we can’t ignore, however, is that some kids are in fact being raised by same sex couples (whether we like it or not). I believe the best thing we can do is to be supportive of those children. We can do that by acting charitably towards them AND their parents. By assuming those children will become neurotic are we helping the situation at all?
You really cannot make this statement unless you are a homosexual who is incapable of friendship without erotic connotations. This is a blanket statement that is usually not true at all. Those are the kind of blanket statements that do much more damage than good.
Again, how do you know that homosexuality is focused on sexual intercourse? Is heterosexuality focused on intercourse? More often than not, it seems that those who believe homosexuality is only about sex are heterosexuals. As someone who had dealt with a homosexual orientation my entire life, I can tell you for a FACT that it encompasses much, much more than a desire for sex. Probably without even realizing it, a statment like yours above accuses even those who live by the Church’s teachings of being incapable of having healthy friendships with those of the same sex and of being completely focused on sexual intercourse. Both statements are untrue. Many on the board get frustrated when non-Catholics come in and say, “The Church teaches this or that…” when we know it isn’t true. This is the same kind of thing. You make a declaration I know not to be true about something you CAN’T know is true unless you are experiencing it yourself. Does that make sense?
You are right, some people wear their sexuality like a costume. I came to realize how much of a problem this is for people on a different thread. I was asked numerous times why I would identify myself as homosexual if I wansn’t living the lifestyle. People assume that someone who says, “I am homosexual” is practicing the lifestyle. This isn’t always true, so we should be careful. I say this out of respect especially for the very young people who are coming to terms with themselves and who are identifying themselves as gay when they haven’t even come close to living the “gay lifestyle”. When speaking about sexuality, the only way I can answer the question truthfully is to say that I am homosexual. That is my orientation, it is not who I am but I can’t pretend it isn’t there. When I identify myself as homosexual I am NOT identifying myself by my own sin. Being gay is not the sin, we have to remember that. Even someone who leaves the “homosexual lifestyle” more often than not STILL has a homosexual orientation. As much as you are confused by why people identify themselves by their sin, I am confused why people assume sinfulness when someone identifies their sexuality truthfully.
For the young teenager dealing with it, it is frighteningly true. I know this from personal experience!
Anyways, I just hope that people can come to a clearer understanding, myself included. I hope you all have a wonderful week!
Have a great week!
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Are you trying to tell me that there are homosexual animals??? Where have you seen that!!!