God told my bf to end the relationship to progress forward

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So my bf ended the relationship because god told him to step away so he can progress forward. What does that mean? We were all fine and we had no arguments and one day he ended it and we’re both confused because we both love each other and want to be in the relationship but he also wants to trust god. Will he come back?
 
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What does that mean?
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That he has some odd notions.
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Will he come back?
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Do you want him to? Someone who makes a drastic life decision based on a vague “God told me to” with no explanation or discussion with the other person it impacts greatly, well sounds like you dodged a bullet by him ending it.

Find someone a little less… odd.
 
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I’m inclined to agree with 1ke. There may be something else underlying your boufriend’s assertion.

A prayer for you to recover from your loss, and that you will find your way to a blessed future.
Take good care of yourself Rose
 
Well, assuming he’s rational, he might have felt the relationship (nothing personal to you), was conflicting with certain life goals, and so he prayed on it and eventually come to the conclusion that he needs to be single right now… or something along those lines.

If he’s hearing voices or being bullied from someone he sees as being in authority, that’s another matter. We won’t know because he apparently didn’t discuss it with you.

I empathize with the hurt of an ended relationship. I will pray for you.
 
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So my bf ended the relationship because god told him to step away so he can progress forward. What does that mean?
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I think you need to ask him what that means. It could mean anything from “he thinks he heard voices” (weird), to “he prayed on it and he thinks he understands what God wants him to do” (not weird, but definitely not “we want to be in the relationship”), to “he doesn’t want to tell you he’s no longer interested, so he’s blaming it on God” (not weird, but definitely not cool).
we’re both confused because we both love each other and want to be in the relationship
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Maybe, and maybe not. Are you certain that this is what he wants, too?
Will he come back?
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It all depends on what he wants, at this point, since he’s the one who ended it. It might be best to just deal with it as a relationship that’s ended, at this point.
 
He doesn’t know himself, he said he wants to trust god and follow him so I don’t know
 
He didn’t want to leave me but he’s just trusting his life with god so whatever god tells him to, he will do it
 
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He didn’t want to leave me but he’s just trusting his life with god so whatever god tells him to, he will do it
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Quite frankly it sounds like you dodged a bullet.
 
God will never harm one for the sake of another. Either this man is hearing a message that isn’t true or you are missing a message from God about this relationship.

In working together towards a marital relationship God is going to guide a couple as a couple. When something’s occurring unilaterally for no “reason” it’s a bad sign.
 
He got through a message from a holy event, so he ended it but still don’t know what’s happening
 
So after do you think god will tell him to come back or? Because there are so many reasons and even he doesn’t know it yet
 
Everything he’s said is really vague, rose. And all his vagueness sounds rather odd. He may have valid reasons he’s not sharing. I don’t wish to call him crazy, but for you, I would recommend moving on. If things work out later, they will, but do not plan for that or wait on that chance. That is my advice, anyway.
 
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have you considered the possibility he wanted to end it and thought this would be an easy way without it getting “messy”… i mean, who could get mad at somebody for doing what God told them?
 
It’s true that it sounds very fishy, and what Xystus says is a logical explanation.
 
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So after do you think god will tell him to come back or? Because there are so many reasons and even he doesn’t know it yet
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This type of confusion is dangerous. I do think you need to step back with no hope of him “returning” God doesn’t just tell people to split up and give no reason. That’s not God’s MO.

Perhaps your boyfriend received more and is not telling you something. God, however, doesn’t just tell people to break up with their practicing girlfriend for funsies. The fact your former boyfriend doesn’t have a single reason is alarming. God sounds like an excuse.

Also “nothing” was wrong? C’mon now every deep relationship has one or two things that need to be worked on, else wise it’s superficial.

God can call one to work on oneself, God can call one to deeper prayer, God can call one to spend less time…but God is fair. He doesn’t harm one and keep one in the dark and in pain to benefit the other. God would never tell your boyfriend something that would simply benefit him and harm you. Your boyfriend’s somewhat caviler response to you…that he doesn’t know why…is disturbing to me. This is, I’m guessing, somewhat serious and important to both of you and you both deserve better than a unilateral decision to cut things off for no other reason than “God said.”
 
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Nothing was wrong, we were both fine
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from your point of view this could very well be true. however if he was not into the relationship any longer and wanted an out without hurting you, this could be what he decided was easiest.
 
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