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I am entering my 4th month of pregnancy and I know that we need to pick godparents. My dilemia is that my dh wants to select his brother to be the godfather and I refuse because of some step-children issues with dh’s sons his brother doesn’t particularly care for me. Why should I ask someone who doesn’ t like me to be such an important person in my child’s life. There is really no one else on his side of the family that he can think of to be godfather. I have a young male 1st cousin who is also my godchild that I could ask or even my own brother. The problem with asking my brother is that I don’t think he goes to mass on a regular basis. My godson does. Dh doesn’t have anyone on his side who could be godmother either. I am thinking about having my 13 yr old dd be godmother or a 3rd cousin of mine who sometimes goes to mass. Other than that I don’t have anyone else to ask either. Any suggestions?
 
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I am entering my 4th month of pregnancy and I know that we need to pick godparents. My dilemia is that my dh wants to select his brother to be the godfather and I refuse because of some step-children issues with dh’s sons his brother doesn’t particularly care for me. Why should I ask someone who doesn’ t like me to be such an important person in my child’s life. There is really no one else on his side of the family that he can think of to be godfather. I have a young male 1st cousin who is also my godchild that I could ask or even my own brother. The problem with asking my brother is that I don’t think he goes to mass on a regular basis. My godson does. Dh doesn’t have anyone on his side who could be godmother either. I am thinking about having my 13 yr old dd be godmother or a 3rd cousin of mine who sometimes goes to mass. Other than that I don’t have anyone else to ask either. Any suggestions?
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You need not choose a blood relative to be godparents…

Maybe there is someone in your circle of friends, or friends in your parish who you can choose.

In my situation, I have my brother as the godfather, and a lady who has been a friend of my family for years to be godmother.

Good Luck
 
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I am entering my 4th month of pregnancy and I know that we need to pick godparents. My dilemia is that my dh wants to select his brother to be the godfather and I refuse because of some step-children issues with dh’s sons his brother doesn’t particularly care for me. Why should I ask someone who doesn’ t like me to be such an important person in my child’s life. There is really no one else on his side of the family that he can think of to be godfather. I have a young male 1st cousin who is also my godchild that I could ask or even my own brother. The problem with asking my brother is that I don’t think he goes to mass on a regular basis. My godson does. Dh doesn’t have anyone on his side who could be godmother either. I am thinking about having my 13 yr old dd be godmother or a 3rd cousin of mine who sometimes goes to mass. Other than that I don’t have anyone else to ask either. Any suggestions?
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Also remember that you need only have one Godparent, male or female.
 
it is also the duty of the parish to provide a sponsor for one who has no family or friends to stand up for him.
 
Talk to a priest now, he will help you evaulate the situation. I think he will be pleased how much thought you are putting into this.
 
When my best friend asked me to be godmother to her second child, their home parish was very strict about the responsibilities and choice. I’d been a member of this parish when I lived there (now live 250 miles away), my son had 1st communion there. Anyway, because I was not a member of that parish, I had to provide a letter from my new parish stating that I was Catholic and a member in good standing before I could be the godmother.

Check with your parish, they will most likely have requirements as well.

Neither of my son’s godparents are blood relatives. Just good Catholic friends.
 
just find the “most holy” person in your church and ask them, even if they don’t know you. They would be so flattered…and who would say NO!!! if nothing else, you get someone to pray for your kid for the rest of their life…which is better than what most Godparents do!
 
I can so understand your problem here. When my daughter annouced her second pregnancy her mother-in-law demanded that her sister be the Godmother (a divorced woman, now married to a Jewish man) The problem is my daughter lives in an apartment that belongs to her in-laws and they hold that over their heads anytime they want something from them. The way she got around it was to ask her brother to be Godfather and the other woman would be a witness. They were not aware of this because their Religious training is minimal to say the least. You only needed one Godparent in good standing. Besides her in-laws never go to Mass and most of them never went beyond Baptism themselves. She still thinks she a full flegde Godmother. I know its pulling the wool over peoples eyes but really what else could she have done without hurting them and possibly causing family friction. :confused:
 
Thanks Kaymart for the advice. I had been contemplating having my 13 yr old dd being an official witness, as she cannot be the godmother since she has not made her confirmation and is not 16 yrs old. They make their confirmation here when they are in 11th grade and she is only in 8th. I am having more of a problem with who to choose as the Godfather. Thanks anyway… Its nice to know people here can relate to my issues.
 
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