God's Will And Mine

[_isuru]

I have so many questions and doubts about my life and others. I was browsing this catholic forum to choose right category, but I post my questions here. Please forgive me if, I’m being childish.

1. Why doesn’t God reply to my prayers? Or why I don’t get reply for my questions?

Does anyone know how to converse with God, at least with a messenger of God. I think conversation is exchanging ideas or thoughts, if I am the only one telling things, I don’t think there is a real conversation, but if my thoughts or ideas or wrong God must interrupt me, right? He must not keep silent, isn’t it?

Seven years ago I loved a girl, and wanted to be a doctor, but now I’m nowhere, two years ago, she left me, and I was financially poor to enter to the medical college entry program. I’ve grown long beard to cover my face, so my friends won’t recognize me. I set my face downwards, so I do not make eye contacts with anyone, so I do not answer their questions on my work or life. People see me as a failure, the only phone calls I get is from my mobile service provider.

And the crazy thing is I haven’t talk with a girl for 2 years. Please don’t judge me, but help me find the right path.

Is it possible to ask God of her(girl I loved so much) hand? I really love this girl. The only obstacle is I am poor and third-class, she is rich and first class. Can God make me rich and by some way make me powerful? So far, I didn’t get any reply from God.

I know in this forum, there are so many saint like god’s children. Yes, I am talking about you. Please can you take a minute and ask God what should I do? Please direct me to right path. Can you ask God, am I left behind, don’t you look after me any more? Why God do not answer me? Why he is so angry with me? I tried confessing, praying, reading the Holy Bible, listened to preaches and sermons, Holy mass. But am I poor to you too, my Lord???

Please Help Me!
May God Bless You!

 

[JimR-OCDS]

Keep in mind that we all have free-will and God will not violate that, even for a girl you pray to have love you.

God answers prayers, but often our prayers are self-centered and not seeking his will, but our own, and we have lot’s of agendas.

It’s difficult to discern God’s will in our life, but often we just have to let go and let God.

In my experience, when it’s God’s will, the doors fly open, when it’s not, there are dead ends all along the way, even when I try to manipulate the events.

It’s one of the difficult things in life.

I would suggest that you seek out a priest and have a good talk with him, and ask for him to hear your confession.

Mean while, you’re in my prayers.

God Bless
Jim

 

[_isuru]

Keep in mind that we all have free-will and God will not violate that, even for a girl you pray to have love you.

God answers prayers, but often our prayers are self-centered and not seeking his will, but our own, and we have lot’s of agendas.

It’s difficult to discern God’s will in our life, but often we just have to let go and let God.

In my experience, when it’s God’s will, the doors fly open, when it’s not, there are dead ends all along the way, even when I try to manipulate the events.

It’s one of the difficult things in life.

I would suggest that you seek out a priest and have a good talk with him, and ask for him to hear your confession.

Mean while, you’re in my prayers.

God Bless
Jim

Thank you!
I think I should not look after me anymore. I think I must stop praying for my needs. What do you think? Isn’t it right? Every problem occurs because I put myself before God. If I let go of me, I will build more inner peace.

 

[littlechicken]

It is okay to pray for your own needs, to take care of yourself is the only way you can help others.
The problem is, we get so tangled up in our wants, that we think they are needs. There is a big difference.

Two halves do not make a whole. Even the Bible tells us “the two shall become one”. To me that means two wholes, two individual complete persons, make one.
If you feel you need this person to complete you, to make you whole, perhaps you are looking at it incorrectly.

That is not to say that people do not need each other, simply that interdependence is so much healthier in the long run, than co-dependence.

I hope this makes sense.
God Bless you in your journey.

 

[Delaine75]

I don’t believe that God has forgotten about you or left you behind, nor do I believe He is angry with you. Sometimes the answer to our prayers is “no” or perhaps “not yet” because God has something even BETTER planned for us. My suggestion for you is to pray that God’s will be done in your life and that He give you the patience to wait and the knowledge to know that whatever God chooses for your life is better than anything you could ask for.

I will pray for you!

 

[Kontrak]

Thank you!
I think I should not look after me anymore. I think I must stop praying for my needs. What do you think? Isn’t it right? Every problem occurs because I put myself before God. If I let go of me, I will build more inner peace.

isuru. That is beautiful. I am on a very similar road that you are walking on. I have shame of what I perceive people think of me and before God I have shame that I have shame. :whacky: I concern myself so much what they think and not on what the Lord thinks (HE LOVE you and will never stop LOVING you). I at times also project those bad feelings on to the Lord!

If God means you to be married things will fall into place but probably not the way you imagine. God’s will is what is best for you. I can’t help but feel some of what you asked for ultimately would not be good for you. Keep praying His will be done. Also do you know today’s second reading? I think it applies to your situation.

Reading 2, James 3:16–4:3

16 Wherever there are jealousy and ambition, there are also disharmony and wickedness of every kind;

17 whereas the wisdom that comes down from above is essentially something pure; it is also peaceable, kindly and considerate; it is full of mercy and shows itself by doing good; nor is there any trace of partiality or hypocrisy in it.

18 The peace sown by peacemakers brings a harvest of justice.

1 Where do these wars and battles between yourselves first start? Is it not precisely in the desires fighting inside your own selves?

2 You want something and you lack it; so you kill. You have an ambition that you cannot satisfy; so you fight to get your way by force. It is because you do not pray that you do not receive;

3 when you do pray and do not receive, it is because you prayed wrongly, wanting to indulge your passions.

 

[JimR-OCDS]

Thank you!
I think I should not look after me anymore. I think I must stop praying for my needs. What do you think? Isn’t it right? Every problem occurs because I put myself before God. If I let go of me, I will build more inner peace.

Not at all!

Praying for your needs and accepting God’s will, fulfills your needs whether you realize it or not.

Our desire is to align our will with God’s will, which is perfect.

Jim

 

[Ruthie_again]

Isuru, not three weeks ago, I was having my own “dark night of the soul;” I had begun thinking that God did not care about me at all, because He would not relieve my depression and physical pain. I was even jealous of Jesus, because His physical pain only lasted 3 days, and mine has lasted around 25 years. I hadn’t been to Mass in about a year.

Through one thing and another, I wound up going to Confession, and Mass, and jumping back into Church life.

What I learned is that Jesus, on the Cross, did not suffer in a generic way. He didn’t just atone for the non-specific sins of a non-specific bunch of people - and the same thing goes for the pain He felt.

On the Cross, He suffered for my particular sins, Ruthie’s sins that I have committed and have yet to commit. And yours; and those of my little nieces and nephews; and of each and every human being that is, has been, and will be on this earth, until He comes again.

Not only that, but among all the pain He felt is/was the pain I awoke with this morning, every twinge and ache. And your broken heart and spirit. He doesn’t just “know” our pain. He felt it on the Cross.

I knew, when I converted, that I should “offer it up,” and tried to before, but it was hard. Now it is much easier, because I am offering up pain that I share with Him.

I hope that this helps.

If not, there’s this old saying: There are three answers to prayer - Yes, No, and Wait.

Praying for you,

 

[fred_conty]

I have so many questions and doubts about my life and others. I was browsing this catholic forum to choose right category, but I post my questions here. Please forgive me if, I’m being childish.

1. Why doesn’t God reply to my prayers? Or why I don’t get reply for my questions?

Does anyone know how to converse with God, at least with a messenger of God. I think conversation is exchanging ideas or thoughts, if I am the only one telling things, I don’t think there is a real conversation, but if my thoughts or ideas or wrong God must interrupt me, right? He must not keep silent, isn’t it?

Seven years ago I loved a girl, and wanted to be a doctor, but now I’m nowhere, two years ago, she left me, and I was financially poor to enter to the medical college entry program. I’ve grown long beard to cover my face, so my friends won’t recognize me. I set my face downwards, so I do not make eye contacts with anyone, so I do not answer their questions on my work or life. People see me as a failure, the only phone calls I get is from my mobile service provider.

And the crazy thing is I haven’t talk with a girl for 2 years. Please don’t judge me, but help me find the right path.

Is it possible to ask God of her(girl I loved so much) hand? I really love this girl. The only obstacle is I am poor and third-class, she is rich and first class. Can God make me rich and by some way make me powerful? So far, I didn’t get any reply from God.

I know in this forum, there are so many saint like god’s children. Yes, I am talking about you. Please can you take a minute and ask God what should I do? Please direct me to right path. Can you ask God, am I left behind, don’t you look after me any more? Why God do not answer me? Why he is so angry with me? I tried confessing, praying, reading the Holy Bible, listened to preaches and sermons, Holy mass. But am I poor to you too, my Lord???

Please Help Me!
May God Bless You!

It is very easy to do what comes naturally, and that is, give up, or quit.

Frustration, lack of someone’s caring, the overwhelming dificulty, just makes us want to throw our hands in the air in exasperation.

Visualize Jesus on the cross. He did that for you. His love can make up the difference.

After this ask him for strength to deal with anything and anything that may come your way.

This is what Jesus did in the Garden, he prayed for strength.

Just a thought, there is a difference between our needs and our wants.