God's will . . . free will?

[BlazingBolt]

So I take it he is no longer living with you. How long has it been since he moved out? Is he involved with another woman? Has he mentioned divorce? If so, is he acting on it?

If everytime you communicate with him you make things worse, you need to learn how to change this. The key I think is to avoid making judgemental statements or demands and resist the urge to fight. It always takes 2 to fight. You should be as understanding and as sympathetic to his feelings as you can.

This article is a good place to start.

marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3620_state.html

God Bless

 

[mariam1976]

yes… he is no longer living with me. We have filed for divorce which will be final in April next year as neither of us is contesting it. He moved out April of this year.
I dont know if there is another woman and this was all just an excuse to get me out of the way, though I find that hard to believe.
He does not talk to me anymore at all and stopped taking my calls after he moved out.
After he stopped taking my calls, an elder from my church was talking to him for me, but I dont know if she made matters worse. The one time I did get to talk to him I told him I would be willing to do anything to make this marriage work but he did not want to reconcile and had already made up his mind.
His issue is that now that everyone knows all the problems - especially my family and all his friends, he would not be able to get the respect that he had and that is not acceptable, although I never lied about anything. Also, he was the one who insisted on dragging my family into this by calling them first about it. He is a good communicator and probably thought that he could convince my family and he did for a while, but when he started contradicting his own statements, they realised that he was lying about a lot of the key issues.

 

[BlazingBolt]

So I take it he is no longer living with you. How long has it been since he moved out? Is he involved with another woman? Has he mentioned divorce? If so, is he acting on it?

If everytime you communicate with him you make things worse, you need to learn how to change this. The key I think is to avoid making judgemental statements or demands and resist the urge to fight. It always takes 2 to fight. You should be as understanding and as sympathetic to his feelings as you can.

This article is a good place to start.

marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3620_state.html

God Bless

 

[mariam1976]

another problem that I have been having right now is that… as I was saying the chaplet of divine mercy today I was really thinking about the Passion and then felt this hurt inside of me… I wanted to forgive my husband for everything and started to ask God to not hold anything against him… but immediately I felt like a total hypocrite…as all the things that I had done came to mind and I couldnt pray for my husband… the parable of the splinter and the log came to mind…
why are you looking at the splinter in your husband’s eyes when there is a log in your own???