Going on a catholic retreat tomorrow!

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You’re welcome 🙂 It’s a great place. I learned about it from my mother’s spiritual director, an Irish priest living in California. He spent a whole month on retreat there 😮 🙏 💷 💷 💷 💸
 
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I’d expect nothing less from a spiritual director 😇

Seriously though a month! Wow.
I think you’re right about silent retreats, I find it hard to imagine being silent for too long but I realise that not all of them require that.

This probably sounds like a silly question but what happens on a guided retreat as opposed to an unguided one?
 
Not silly at all.

During an individually guided retreat (IGR), you will meet with a spiritual guide (director) on a regular basis, usually once a day, to discuss your retreat experience and perhaps obtain suggestions for the following day(s). These sessions can vary in length; at St. Beuno’s they last up to a half hour and take place daily, although adjustments can be made according to need. The first time I was there, my guide understood pretty quickly that I might require two sessions for at least a few days, as well as the involvement of a priest. While neither ended up being necessary, it was nice to know that such accommodations were possible.

Group retreats are led by one or more people around a central topic. The times between group sessions may be passed individually or as a group, silent or not. There might be individual or group work pertaining to the theme of the retreat to accomplish between sessions, or there may not.

Unguided retreats provide no spiritual accompaniment. You decide how to use your time. The place I normally go for my unguided silent retreats does, however, make someone available to me in case something comes up in my prayers and meditations that I’d like to bounce off another person.
 
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One does not have to up stakes, hack through thick jungle vegetation for twelve hours and cut oneself off from civilization to go on retreat.
That does sound like fun though! 😃
For someone who is going on retreat for the first time, I would caution against biting off more than you can reasonably chew, especially if the retreat is silent. Remaining silent for several days in a row is not easy for many people. More is not always better.
Thank you for the caution. Of course, you are right. That’s why I’m nervous about my silent weekend next year. It’s very easy for me to go an entire day without speaking, but it is difficult for me to do so without listening to something or doing something with my hands.

I have a very noisy interior as well. That’s one of the main reasons why I feel like I need at least a weekend to actually quiet my thoughts so that I can more clearly hear God.

I do have a few one day retreats scheduled before I do the weekend. I hope to work my way up to a 30 day Ignatian retreat before I die.
 
Okay, suggestion number 85: Don’t be nervous. There is no exam at the end of a retreat. You cannot fail a retreat. Breathe, and be at peace.

Many people have trouble letting go of noise and/or activity. I tend to spend the first two days of individual retreats sleeping all day because my “normal” life is so hectic, noisy and exhausting. You may be surprised to find that you actually like “doing nothing” and don’t need aural or visual distractions. These stimuli are, for me, obstacles to my spiritual progress. They may not be for you. Nevertheless, if you’ve set aside time to connect with the Lord you probably want to direct all your energy towards that goal. There will be plenty of time to listen to something or do something with your hands when you get home. 🙂

Note also that some retreats, even silent IGRs, can involve listening to something or doing something with your hands.

My mom’s SD’s month-long retreat was a full Ignatian spiritual exercises endeavor. I’m not sure that I’ll ever be ready for that. 😊
 
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Thank you.

Yes, I want to have the full 30 day examen experience. I am many many years away from being able to do that. I have small children. I can’t leave them for that long.
 
I go on a retreat at least once a year if not twice. I belong to a group who does a retreat every year and often there are other retreats going on in the surrounding area that I can choose one or two more if I can fit it in my schedule. I also write retreats for youth.

Retreats are so beneficial to our spiritual life. If it is a weekend retreat or over several days, it is a chance to leave the worries and cares of the world behind and take the time to sit in the presence of God. To interact with others without the pressure of home, work, family at that very moment.

I’ve done all types of retreats, some excellent and some I wouldn’t do again. I love doing silent retreats, after the first couple of hours your brain slows to the point where you can really focus on listening to God. It is best to have no electronics at all as those tend to ramp the brain up again.
 
I just got back from it and even though this is my third retreat with my local campus Newman center, it feels like I grew a lot more in my faith and prayer life than before.
 
Glad to hear it, and thanks for coming back to let us know how it went. Continued prayers for you 🙏

And you too, @(name removed by moderator) 🙂 You will be fine, I just know it.
It is best to have no electronics at all as those tend to ramp the brain up again.
I second this. During my last retreat I was strongly encouraged (I don’t want to say “ordered” but it wasn’t far off from that) not to use any electronics for the duration. Having clung to my smartphone on previous retreats, the difference was truly amazing.
 
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Ease into the retreat a couple of days before you leave your house by limiting “noise” and stop being so “busy”. Make a list a head of time of what you need to bring and put those items and your clothes to the side so there is no emergency laundry that needs to be done or hunts for X or Y. By planning ahead you are mentally preparing for the retreat. Sort out your walking gear one evening and clothes another. Maybe bring some drawing/painting material if you enjoy that? Bring paper and pens so that you can write down what moves you, how you feel and how God is responding to your prayer.

It usually takes about a day before both the body and brain settle down. Go for long walks. Sit outdoors and look at the scenery or birds etc. Take a nap if you need to. It is very common to be tired on the first day or so.
 
If you don’t mind my asking, is the retreat you’re going on individual or a group thing, guided or unguided or lectured on a particular theme?
 
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Sort out your walking gear one evening and clothes another. Maybe bring some drawing/painting material if you enjoy that?
It’s a good idea to check with the retreat organizers and/or the staff at retreat center to find out what would be appropriate to bring. Not all retreats allow time for walks, art, or personal projects. A couple of mine forbade anything unrelated to the objectives of the retreat.
 
. St. Beuno’s in Wales is an example.
I wonder if that is the St Beuno’s near Holywell and which used to be a college .

About 1960 I went on a day trip from college to Holywell and then on to St Beuno’s College where we were given refreshments .
 
Might be the Rock Chapel. Was it about a 15-20 minute walk from the main building, or farther afield?

This is the Rock Chapel.
 
I have found so much of God’s healing grace in attending retreats. I have attended a Church retreat and a few Ignatian Silent retreats at the Montserrat. I loved the Silent retreat…be still and know that I am God ~ Psalm 46:10 they have amazing Priests trained to provide Spiritual Direction while on retreat too. God bless!
 
Might be the Rock Chapel. Was it about a 15-20 minute walk from the main building, or farther afield?

This is the Rock Chapel.
It took about 15 minutes to get from the chapel on the hill to the college .

The chapel held about half a dozen people .

This one you show could well be the one , and if so I’m amazed it’s still standing .
 
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