Going to a parish that's not geographically yours. . .thoughts

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The parishes are taxed by the Diocese based on their membership numbers.
Seems like from a financial/mathematical standpoint, the fewer the (reported) numbers of registered members, the better for the parish.

However, I’m not too sure the bishop would be pleased with that though.

Just sayin…
 
Seems like from a financial/mathematical standpoint, the fewer the (reported) numbers of registered members, the better for the parish.

However, I’m not too sure the bishop would be pleased with that though.

Just sayin…
Not exactly… advisors at the chancery also look at the median income for your zip code. We have some million dollar homes in our zip code. Maybe 1% of those home are Catholic households. But the Diocese seems to think we should be raking in much more dough. Because on paper, it’s an affluent area. In actuality, many of our families are from the low income zip code up the street. They compare that higher figure to the percentage per registered families and they are quick to point out that we’re not cutting it.
If you get taxed, and your people don’t cover it in the annual appeal, it gets taken from your collection. And then a pastor has less $$ to pay bills, hire staff, offer programs.
Priests hate to talk about money, but the Chancery has no problems discussing at length. :o
 
My family goes to a church about 15 minutes away, instead of the one that’s practically across the street, because it has a school where all of my siblings went, my youngest sibling is still attending, and my mother teaches at. The closer church doesn’t have a school.
 
Not exactly… advisors at the chancery also look at the median income for your zip code. We have some million dollar homes in our zip code. Maybe 1% of those home are Catholic households. But the Diocese seems to think we should be raking in much more dough. Because on paper, it’s an affluent area. In actuality, many of our families are from the low income zip code up the street. They compare that higher figure to the percentage per registered families and they are quick to point out that we’re not cutting it.
If you get taxed, and your people don’t cover it in the annual appeal, it gets taken from your collection. And then a pastor has less $$ to pay bills, hire staff, offer programs.
Priests hate to talk about money, but the Chancery has no problems discussing at length. :o
Exactly because raking in the money is much more important than saving souls! Especially when people are leaving the parish to go to others who are more traditional. I know lets introduce liturgical dance, sappy early 80s remakes of hymns and clown mass! Oh wait! :eek: Kidding
 
Exactly because raking in the money is much more important than saving souls! Especially when people are leaving the parish to go to others who are more traditional. I know lets introduce liturgical dance, sappy early 80s remakes of hymns and clown mass! Oh wait! :eek: Kidding
Well, yeah, money and the need for it is a huge problem.
But seriously, reports of clown Masses, sappy music and liturgical dance are greatly over-exaggerated. It adds nothing to the dialog to keep mentioning it.
People do like more traditional Masses. That’s cool. Register at that parish and support it financially. 🤷
 
I have never registered at one of the parishes closest to me (I’m on borderline between two almost equally distant parishes). Instead, I am registered at an ethnic parish which I attend regularly. There is a definite difference in liturgical practices between the parish I attend and the others, although the close by parishes are not as outrageous as they were in the past. (yep, there was the time one of the pastors had a toilet placed before the altar to illustrate his homily of wasting money - going down the drain so to speak.)
 
Yes and yes. I am a member of a parish that is not my ‘home’ parish, in fact I have a totally different bishop and rite 🙂 and therefore completely different liturgy. I agree with the idea of going where you are fed, where you have access to a priest. I am not on hold anymore, and can actively and fully participate in the life of the church.
Color me dubious. :twocents:

I understand that pastors and parishes may treat membership with much more fluidity than Canon Law does, but I would be very surprised to learn that bishops do so (at least when it counts).

You can fulfill your obligations to assist at Mass at the celebration of any Catholic rite. You can attend outside your rite habitually, if you so choose. For all I know, a parish outside your rite will “let you” “register”.

But you don’t get *a totally different bishop and rite *just by frequenting them. :twocents:

tee
Not A Canon Lawyer
Probably Should Not Have Poked His Nose In Here, But Would Rather Educate Than Confuse People
 
I went to the closest parish for a year, before I was baptized. When I decided to join RCIA, this particular parish wasn’t focusing on teaching, but feel good stuff. So, I went to a parish 30 minutes away to attend RCIA. I alternated for a while, going to Mass at one or the other, but finally settled into “my parish”, the one 30 minutes away, and have been going there for over 8 years now.

What I like about it is, little hand holding, Latin Credo, Gloria and Sanctus. Pews that are lined up on a flat floor. The other parish is stadium style, with a sloped floor. I always feel like I’m falling forward! And the music. The other parish isn’t too bad, but does have some issues there. By that I mean, songs that are sung in “God’s voice”, such as, “I am the bread of life.” No, I am not. Lord, you are the Bread of Life. It just bugs me to sing in “God’s voice”. 🙂

And, there was no sense of community for me at the parish that is closer. The ministries seem to all run during the day when I am at work. The parishioners all seem to be retired or families of the children that go to the school there.

Maybe when I retire I’ll go back to the closer parish, but for now, I haven’t determined that I should. The travel time makes it difficult to participate as much as I would like, but with a 70 mile round trip for my work commute, and working full time, putting in a lot of time at any parish has that limiter.
 
I went to the closest parish for a year, before I was baptized. When I decided to join RCIA, this particular parish wasn’t focusing on teaching, but feel good stuff. So, I went to a parish 30 minutes away to attend RCIA. I alternated for a while, going to Mass at one or the other, but finally settled into “my parish”, the one 30 minutes away, and have been going there for over 8 years now.

What I like about it is, little hand holding, Latin Credo, Gloria and Sanctus. Pews that are lined up on a flat floor. The other parish is stadium style, with a sloped floor. I always feel like I’m falling forward! And the music. The other parish isn’t too bad, but does have some issues there. By that I mean, songs that are sung in “God’s voice”, such as, “I am the bread of life.” No, I am not. Lord, you are the Bread of Life. It just bugs me to sing in “God’s voice”. 🙂

And, there was no sense of community for me at the parish that is closer. The ministries seem to all run during the day when I am at work. The parishioners all seem to be retired or families of the children that go to the school there.

Maybe when I retire I’ll go back to the closer parish, but for now, I haven’t determined that I should. The travel time makes it difficult to participate as much as I would like, but with a 70 mile round trip for my work commute, and working full time, putting in a lot of time at any parish has that limiter.
So…we can’t ever sing songs that quote Scripture? :confused: I guess that would eliminate all the psalms. 🤷 Which are supposed to be sung.
 
So…we can’t ever sing songs that quote Scripture? :confused: I guess that would eliminate all the psalms. 🤷 Which are supposed to be sung.
I think Rebecca might be referring to singing in the first person as if one really were God-thus the note about being uncomfortable singing as if she really were the Bread of Life, rather than a soul in need of that Heavenly Food.
The Lord is my Shepherd would be an example of a psalm in which one acknowledges that the Lord is the Lord and the singer is not the Lord.
Thank you for the information about registering in the parish one attends-it’s helpful to have that insider’s knowledge. 🙂
 
Your right***]**, but I did canonically transfer because my spouse entered through that rite.
Well there you go, then. 🙂 I can’t tell you if you are attending “outside” your home parish, but I can tell you that since you have canonically transferred, whatever Latin rite parish you may live within geographically is not your home parish.

I cannot tell you about parishes, but I myself do live in a Latin rite diocese and also in a (co-located) Byzantine rite archeparchy. But that does not make me subject to his eminence the archbishop. 😉

(* I think you mean “You’re rite”? 😛 :rotfl:)

tee
 
I think Rebecca might be referring to singing in the first person as if one really were God-thus the note about being uncomfortable singing as if she really were the Bread of Life, rather than a soul in need of that Heavenly Food.
The Lord is my Shepherd would be an example of a psalm in which one acknowledges that the Lord is the Lord and the singer is not the Lord.
Thank you for the information about registering in the parish one attends-it’s helpful to have that insider’s knowledge. 🙂
I realize what she meant…I was simply trying to point out that there are times when we quote Scripture in song and prayer…and it’s perfectly acceptable. That particular hymn goes on to say " Yes Lord, I believe that You are the Christ." Everything in context.
Peace.
 
So…we can’t ever sing songs that quote Scripture? :confused: I guess that would eliminate all the psalms. 🤷 Which are supposed to be sung.
The psalms praise God, and aren’t written in the first person.

But no, I never said who can sing what.
 
Ok, everyone is misinterpreting my meaning, so I’m out.
I hope I didn’t come across as being harsh. It is just a personal preference of mine. The parish I go to has an extraordinary choir, that sing classical hymns and chants. I’m a classical music kind of person, and the contemporary arrangements I find just ok. But that isn’t me condemning what other people enjoy.

I apologize if I offended you.
 
The psalms praise God, and aren’t written in the first person.
Many people sing Psalm 95 every day, to open their morning prayers. Listen to the last two strophes:
Come, let us sing to the Lord
and shout with joy to the Rock who saves us.
Let us approach him with praise and thanksgiving
and sing joyful songs to the Lord.

The Lord is God, the mighty God,
the great king over all the gods.
He holds in his hands the depths of the earth
and the highest mountains as well
He made the sea; it belongs to him,
the dry land, too, for it was formed by his hands.

Come, then, let us bow down and worship,
bending the knee before the Lord, our maker,
For he is our God and we are his people,
the flock he shepherds.

Today, listen to the voice of the Lord:
Do not grow stubborn, as your fathers did in the wilderness,
when at Meriba and Massah they challenged me and provoked me,
Although they had seen all of my works.

Forty years I endured that generation.
I said, “They are a people whose hearts go astray
and they do not know my ways.
So I swore in my anger,
“They shall not enter into my rest.”

As an example from the top of my head. I’m just sayin’.

tee
 
Many people sing Psalm 95 every day, to open their morning prayers. Listen to the last two strophes:
Come, let us sing to the Lord
and shout with joy to the Rock who saves us.
Let us approach him with praise and thanksgiving
and sing joyful songs to the Lord.

The Lord is God, the mighty God,
the great king over all the gods.
He holds in his hands the depths of the earth
and the highest mountains as well
He made the sea; it belongs to him,
the dry land, too, for it was formed by his hands.

Come, then, let us bow down and worship,
bending the knee before the Lord, our maker,
For he is our God and we are his people,
the flock he shepherds.

Today, listen to the voice of the Lord:
Do not grow stubborn, as your fathers did in the wilderness,
when at Meriba and Massah they challenged me and provoked me,
Although they had seen all of my works.

Forty years I endured that generation.
I said, “They are a people whose hearts go astray
and they do not know my ways.
So I swore in my anger,
“They shall not enter into my rest.”

As an example from the top of my head. I’m just sayin’.

tee
🤷 I find a difference between indicating, “listen to the voice of the Lord”, followed by what the Lord has said, to just starting out, everyone singing as we walk up to receive communion:

I am the bread of life
He who comes to me shall not hunger
He who believes in me shall not thirst
No one can come to me
Unless the father beckons
And I will raise you up(3)
On the last day.
The bread that I will give
Is my flesh for the life of the world
And if you eat of this bread
You shall live forever(2)
Unless you eat
Of the flesh of the Son of Man
And drink of his blood,
And drink of his blood,
You shall not have life within you.
I am the resurrection, I am the life
If you believe in me
Even though you die
You shall live forever.

I and me are none of these things.

As I said, it strikes me as odd to sing in “God’s voice” as I walk up to receive communion, but I get that others are OK with it.

But let’s sing Ave Verum Corpus, and my soul is stricken.
 
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