Veronica Anne, again, here.
Neglected to say… I really MISS using that “old” style of confessional. It just always felt so SAFE somehow.
Not like my sins can’t stand the light of day, and all that. Still, it just feels somewhat way too informal and even scarier to sit in a chair in front of a priest looking at his face when I confess my sins.
Not scary that I won’t be forgiven and absolved. Just that there is NO WAY that I can feel “anonymous” when I confess any more.
Not that people don’t tell me that my voice is clearly identifiable as “me” when I’m on the phone.
Also, the confessional room at our parish has TWO doors to use to get into it. One of them gets you to a kneeler with a wood, tight latticed screen hanging from the ceiling between you and the priest on the other side.
The other door gets you into the side of that room where there’s a chair for you to sit in directly across from the priest who sits in the same chair he’s sitting in if you come in the door on the screened/latticed side of the room.
NEITHER side has a red/green light on the door outside. You just have to wait for someone to come out so that you know it’s your turn to come in.
One time, I sat on a pew in the church outside the confessional waiting for 20 minutes by myself (I would be next, of course) for someone to come out of the confessional. When the hour provided for confession was finished, I heard a door open and shut in the narthex behind me, turned my head and saw a priest walk briskly through the narthex to the door out to the parking lot.
But… but!!! I hadn’t been to confession yet and I’d been sitting out there all that time!! I got up, scurried out to the narthex, and called out “Father! will you hear my confession!”
He turned around, came back, and heard my confession. Afterward, I told him what had happened and why. He explained that he had been waiting for the last 40 minutes of the hour provided each week at our parish for confessions for someone to come in.
“silly me…” I didn’t realize that in this new church there were TWO doors to the SAME confessional room!
There still isn’t any lights – red or green – or signs outside either door to that one confessional to give us a clue about whether we can go in.
Yikes!