Going to easter Mass alone

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Thank you for your empathy. This is our first Easter together as a married couple. And times have been really hard for me lately. This situation has been solved though.

For those questioning my reaction to going to mass alone, I am unemployed and agoraphobic (and despite that I do go to mass alone since he works every weekend). It is an incredibly heavy cross to bear since, If I leave the house, I basically feel like Im going to get mugged if I don’t have my husband with me. I contacted some therapists but none have worked out yet. Im waiting for another to reply. Please keep me in your prayers. Im really lonely during the day and this situation was just about to break my heart. It kills me that Im unwell like I am. Ive prayed all my life for God to heal me, but I guess not yet. I’m tired of people labeling me as “crazy” instead of my true identity as a daughter of God. Im not looking for people here to solve my problems. But some general kindness would be better than insensitivity. 😊
I’m sorry you are suffering. I almost always attend mass alone, but it sounds like you have a heavier cross to bear. I also struggle with mental health issues

If you are lonely during the day, I am too. Feel free to PM me, I do have kids so I’m busier but I am quite lonely for adult conversation almost all the time.
 
It looks like I will be going to easter mass without my husband, and since I live far away from any relatives I don’t have anyone to go with. I feel like crying right now. My husband’s work just asked him today to work until 8:30pm on Saturday and all day Easter. I’m so upset. I mean, he works in a spa but they cant give him time off. Doesn’t family and faith come first? 😦
Sorry that you are hurt over this situation. I know you want to be with your husband. I get that. It is a shame that he has to work on Easter, so does my girlfriend. Sometimes businesses just do not care about Faith and Family as much as profit and sometimes people really cannot afford to miss a day of work even on a religious holiday. I have been their too.

I know part of the reason you are upset has to be because it is a sudden change and you may not want to hear this but I think you would do well to look on the bright side of things; The fact that you have a husband coming home to you and you can at least go to Mass with him next Sunday. There are so many people who have nobody. I have gone to Mass alone 99% of the time I have been going to Mass since I have been Catholic. Lots of people are forced to go to Mass alone all the time, not just once in awhile. What you have is a luxurious problem, not a real problem. Not that it does not suck, it does, but take comfort in that at least you are not one of the many lonely people who will be going to Mass alone for years even though they do not want to. And it hurts. I have been single 99% of my adult life and it use to make me want to cry to go to Mass and see all the couples my age together and there I was alone. Every Sunday, for years. Think about that, that is not as uncommon as you may think. Be thankful you have someone period. God bless and enjoy the vigil tonight. God bless 🙂
 
OP, how are you doing today?

Hope you’re having a happy Easter, and that Mass went better than you had hoped. If not, though, hang in there. We’re thinking of you; you’re not alone! :hug1:
 
For those questioning my reaction to going to mass alone, I am unemployed and agoraphobic (and despite that I do go to mass alone since he works every weekend). It is an incredibly heavy cross to bear since, If I leave the house, I basically feel like Im going to get mugged if I don’t have my husband with me. I contacted some therapists but none have worked out yet. Im waiting for another to reply. Please keep me in your prayers. Im really lonely during the day and this situation was just about to break my heart. It kills me that Im unwell like I am. Ive prayed all my life for God to heal me, but I guess not yet. I’m tired of people labeling me as “crazy” instead of my true identity as a daughter of God. Im not looking for people here to solve my problems. But some general kindness would be better than insensitivity. 😊
This is very different than your first post. In the first post it did seem kind of trivial that you would have to go to mass alone. This makes more sense. I understand needing compassion, but if you don’t tell everyone the whole story, we have no way of knowing you are agrophobic and how hard this really is for you

Peace
 
This is very different than your first post. In the first post it did seem kind of trivial that you would have to go to mass alone. This makes more sense. I understand needing compassion, but if you don’t tell everyone the whole story, we have no way of knowing you are agrophobic and how hard this really is for you

Peace
I do not consider the matter trivial even outside these circumstances. Even for me, who does not have the same issues as the OP, it is my desire, as a person considering marriage, to worship with my family at the same liturgy insomuch as possible, for the family is the “domestic church”.
 
Wait! Regular Mass on Holy Saturday?? There’s no “usual Mass” on Holy Saturday, there is just the Easter Vigil which is supposed to start after dark.
There were at those 2 parishes at least. I only checked a few. Maybe the bishop granted approval for the added Masses and the earlier start times. I doubt either were doing anything illegal.
 
There were at those 2 parishes at least. I only checked a few. Maybe the bishop granted approval for the added Masses and the earlier start times. I doubt either were doing anything illegal.
I have a friend in a different rite who was going to Mass on Holy Saturday morning, although it did not count for the Sunday obligation. He said they only have a prohibition on Good Friday. Apparently not all rites look at this the same way. 🤷
 
I have a friend in a different rite who was going to Mass on Holy Saturday morning, although it did not count for the Sunday obligation. He said they only have a prohibition on Good Friday. Apparently not all rites look at this the same way. 🤷
I only checked Roman rites. Could it be the parishes received a dispensation from the bishop to offer the 4p and 530 Masses as usual, due to crowd numbers and the pre-sundown times for the Great Solemn Vigil due to perhaps elderly parishoners or those with young children not having the desire to be out well into the night? Both parishes are rather large I think, typically having 6 or 7 Masses on weekends. And with Easter, perhaps greater numbers of people attending?
 
It looks like I will be going to easter mass without my husband, and since I live far away from any relatives I don’t have anyone to go with. I feel like crying right now. My husband’s work just asked him today to work until 8:30pm on Saturday and all day Easter. I’m so upset. I mean, he works in a spa but they cant give him time off. Doesn’t family and faith come first? 😦
Don’t be upset. You get to go. You get to go celebrate our Risen Lord and receive Him in the Eucharist.

I didn’t get to go. I was sick. I’ve been sick with pneumonia since December. Rare is the day I feel well enough to go to Mass. 😦
 
I have a friend in a different rite who was going to Mass on Holy Saturday morning, although it did not count for the Sunday obligation. He said they only have a prohibition on Good Friday. Apparently not all rites look at this the same way. 🤷
If your friend was going to a Divine LIturgy in the Byzantine Rite, what he attended would have been Vespers combined with the Divine Liturgy of St. Basil the Great. For some reason that I have never quite understood, this service is often done on Holy Saturday morning instead of in the evening, as one would expect Vespers to be. Something about the world being turned upside down with Jesus in the grave. At any rate, it is actually the first service of Easter because the feast begins when Vespers is prayed. The Divine liturgy is beautiful. The tone is subdued, but definitely includes elements of the festive Paschal liturgy. The theme is Christ’s victory over death.

An Orthodox website describes it in this way:
On Holy Saturday itself, Vespers are served with the Divine Liturgy of Saint Basil the Great. This service already belongs to the Passover Sunday. It begins in the normal way with the evening psalm, the litany, the hymns following the evening Psalm 141 and the entrance with the singing of the vesperal hymn, Gladsome Light. The celebrant stands at the tomb in which lies the winding-sheet with the image of the Savior in the sleep of death.

Following the evening entrance which is made with the Book of the Gospels, fifteen readings from the Old Testament scriptures are read, all of which relate to God’s work of creation and salvation which has been summed up and fulfilled in the coming of the predicted Messiah. Besides the readings in Genesis about creation, and the *passover-exodus of the Israelites in the days of Moses in Exodus, there are selections from the prophecies of Isaiah, Ezekiel, Jeremiah, Daniel, Zephaniah, and Jonah as well as from Joshua and the Books of Kings, the Canticles of Moses, and of the Three Youths found in Daniel are chanted as well.

After the Old Testament readings the celebrant intones the normal liturgical exclamation for the singing of the Thrice-Holy Hymn, but in its place the baptismal verse from Galatians is sung: As many as have been baptized into Christ have put on Christ. Alleluia (Gal 3.27).

As usual in the Divine Liturgy the epistle reading follows at this point. It is the normal baptismal selection of the Orthodox Church (Rom 6.3–11). “If we have been united with him in a death like his we shall certainly be united with him in a resurrection like his” (Rom 6.5).
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At this time the royal gates are closed, and the celebrants and altar servers change their robes from the dark vestments of the passion into the bright vestments of Christ’s victory over death.** At this time all vestings of the church appointments are also changed into the color signifying Christ’s triumph over sin, the devil and death. This revesting takes place while the people sing the verses of Psalm 82: “Arise O Lord and judge the earth, for to Thee belong all the nations.”

After the solemn chanting of the psalm verses, to which are often added the hymn glorifying Christ as the New Passover, the Living Sacrifice who is slain, the Lamb of God who takes away the sins of the world; the celebrants emerge from the altar to announce over the tomb of Christ the glad tidings of his victorious triumph over death and his command to the apostles: “Make disciples of all nations baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded . . .” (Mt 28.1.20). This Gospel text is also the reading of the baptismal ceremony of the Orthodox Church.

The Divine Liturgy then continues in the brilliance of Christ’s destruction of death. The following song replaces the Cherubic Hymn of the offertory:

Let all mortal flesh keep silent and in fear and trembling stand, pondering nothing earthly-minded. For the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords comes to be slain, to give himself as food to the faithful.

Before him go the ranks of angels: all the principalities and powers, the many-eyed cherubim and the six-winged seraphim, covering their faces, singing the hymn: Alleluia! Alleluia! Alleluia!

In place of the Hymn to the Theotokos, the ninth ode of the matinal canon is sung once again: “Lament not for Me, Mother . . . for I will arise” (see above). The communion hymn is the line of the psalm: “The Lord awoke as one asleep, and arose saving us” (Ps 78.65).

The Divine Liturgy is fulfilled in the communion with him who lies dead in his human body, and yet is enthroned eternally with God the Father; the one who, as the Creator and Life of the World, destroys death by his life-creating death. His tomb—which still stands in the center of the church—is shown to be, as the Liturgy calls it: the fountain of our resurrection.

**Originally this Liturgy was the Easter baptismal liturgy of Christians. **It remains today as the annual experience for every Christian of his own dying and rising with the Lord.

But if we have died with Christ, we believe that we shall also live with Him. For we know that Christ being raised from the dead will never die again; death no longer has dominion over Him (Rom 6.8–9).

Christ lies dead, yet he is alive. He is in the tomb, but already he is “trampling down death by death, and upon those in the tombs bestowing life.” There is nothing more to do now but to live through the evening of the Blessed Sabbath on which Christ sleeps, awaiting the midnight hour when the Day of our Lord will begin to dawn upon us, and the night full of light will come when we will proclaim with the angel: “He is risen, he is not here; see the tomb where they laid him” (Mk 16.6).
 
I have to attend mass alone pretty much all the time and it is pretty lonely. I hope it was ok.
 
I feel for you but try living your entire life alone. One Easter mass is not a big deal. Be happy and appreciate you have a husband and someone that cares enough to take care of the family. Just say some of us will never have more then a life of going to mass alone. 🤷
 
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