Goofed up First Communion Policy

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SursumCor:
My Parrish has recently been taken over by a liturgical nazi, who calls himself the Pastor.

He has decided there will no longer be a first communion mass for children, but some Sunday in May the child can make his/her first communion with their family at any mass of their choice. In other words its nothing special, just another breakfast.
every Mass, every celebration of the Eucharist is special, there is no such thing as “more special”, special cannot be qualified. No Mass is “just another breakfast”. If that is the understanding of the Mass on the part of parents in your first communion class it sounds as if the pastor is doing some much needed education on the theology of Mass and the Eucharist. More power to him.
 
Deacon Ed:
Well, your pastor is following the current trend in the Church. There is no documentation that specifies how first communion is to be done. There is also no such thing as the RCIC – there’s only the Rite of Christian Initiation for Adults (RCIA). In the Church there are infants (those under 7) and adults (those seven and older). Those over seven are considered minors if they are below the legal age of the community in which they reside (for the United States this is 18).

You might want to read this article on First Communion. I think you are fighting a losing battle.

Deacon Ed
This sort of thing is JUST what the modernists are doing to us.
These days are SPECIAL. If they want the children to receive with the parents, fine! But let them come up together as a class. Most of my children’s contemporaries WHO ATTENDED CATHOLIC SCHOOL have drifted away, INCLUDING MY OWN. I attribute this to the insipid instruction they received, and instruction they DID NOT receive. I am old enough to have had the unique experience of First Communion and Confirmation on the same day. They did that as the Bishop came alternate years. It was quite a day full of vivid memories. Now, there is no PAX TECUM (sorry, Peace be with you) cuff on the cheek of each Confirmand. Heck, no. They bunch all the kids, including CCD, in a municipal auditorium. It is a group Confirmation. The bishop does not get NEAR the children.
It is meaningless to them. We have leeched out all that is special. We may as well be Baptists and dunk them when they are older. I kid you not. Those who still bother to go to church gravitate to the fundies because, while urged to give money, they are made to feel special, and “they teach us the bible.”
I am a grandmother. I was therefore a mother.Before that, I was a child,a teen, and a religious for fourteen years. I am a teacher and a registered nurse. I am a Catholic clinging to the Faith in a desert of mediocrity.
 
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SursumCor:
My Parrish has recently been taken over by a liturgical nazi, who calls himself the Pastor.

He has decided there will no longer be a first communion mass for children, but some Sunday in May the child can make his/her first communion with their family at any mass of their choice. In other words its nothing special, just another breakfast. This somehow in his mind promotes community. However eveyone to this date has had a special day when they made theor first communion so by eliminating first communion he is effectively forcing a seperation in that these children will have a totally different experience of first communion which is completely different from the community.

I am going to become a complete pain in the *** on this matter but to do that I need to gather my ammo. So to the issue, what does the documents (RCIC or what ever is the controlling document) regarding the reception of first communion say about the sacramental celebration for children?

I tried to search this online but have had no success finding the document.

Thanks
I could not agree with you more! Try anyway. See my response to Deacon Ed.
 
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Deacon2006:
These priests and liturgical committees that want to do away with a special mass for first communion betray their motives. Think about it, you get a special mass for just about everything in your spiritual life except for the day when you are initiated into the source and summit of your catholic faith. What these spiritual vandals are peddling is a crock
Is it ever possible that legitimate authority can be abused? If yes, then you can resist the abuse or succome to it. If you succome to it, the abuser will go to the next stage…human nature.

Just read the signature…there is the long range purpose.

Traditions are never to be preserved, but replaced. The bishops as a group can no longer even defend their eucharist against public purveyers of PB abortion. Why give any special honor to your 1st communicant?
 
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TNT:
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Deacon2006:
These priests and liturgical committees that want to do away with a special mass for first communion betray their motives. Think about it, you get a special mass for just about everything in your spiritual life except for the day when you are initiated into the source and summit of your catholic faith. What these spiritual vandals are peddling is a crock
Is it ever possible that legitimate authority can be abused? If yes, then you can resist the abuse or succome to it. If you succome to it, the abuser will go to the next stage…human nature.

Just read the signature…there is the long range purpose.

Traditions are never to be preserved, but replaced. The bishops as a group can no longer even defend their eucharist against public purveyers of PB abortion. Why give any special honor to your 1st communicant?
This is not a Tradition (with a capital T). Traditions of the Church are its Teachings. I wouldn’t even call this a tradition (small t). Its more of a local custom.

As has been noted, the way that this pastor wants to go is the way we do it in the Byzantine Churches.

As this is the way it is done in the Roman Diocese I live in, at least in the parishes I have visited and/or been a member of.

I think you all are making much out of nothing.
 
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ByzCath:
As Father Deacon Ed has pointed out, the Byzantine (Ruthenian)n Catholic Church in America does call itself the Byzantine Catholic Church.

That said, I usually use the short hand of Byzantine Church ( or Byzantine Catholic Church) to cover the two that I added, the Byzantine (Ruthenian) Catholic Church and the Melkite Greek Catholic Church.

But I must disagee with Father Deacon, it is not imprecise for two reasons. 1) Our Church uses this name and 2) there is only one Church in the USA that uses “Byzantine Catholic Church”.

The Melkites and the Ukranians use Melkite and Ukranian in their Church names as do the Romanians. I believe the Russian Catholics are under the jurisdictions of the local Latin Bishops.

Let me close with this to Franciscum…

Does my usage of “Byzantine Church” change the facts at all?
Your posts are often lacking the facts…
 
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lauriedbluw:
This sort of thing is JUST what the modernists are doing to us.
These days are SPECIAL. If they want the children to receive with the parents, fine! But let them come up together as a class. Most of my children’s contemporaries WHO ATTENDED CATHOLIC SCHOOL have drifted away, INCLUDING MY OWN. I attribute this to the insipid instruction they received, and instruction they DID NOT receive. I am old enough to have had the unique experience of First Communion and Confirmation on the same day. They did that as the Bishop came alternate years. It was quite a day full of vivid memories. Now, there is no PAX TECUM (sorry, Peace be with you) cuff on the cheek of each Confirmand. Heck, no. They bunch all the kids, including CCD, in a municipal auditorium. It is a group Confirmation. The bishop does not get NEAR the children.
It is meaningless to them. We have leeched out all that is special. We may as well be Baptists and dunk them when they are older. I kid you not. Those who still bother to go to church gravitate to the fundies because, while urged to give money, they are made to feel special, and “they teach us the bible.”
I am a grandmother. I was therefore a mother.Before that, I was a child,a teen, and a religious for fourteen years. I am a teacher and a registered nurse. I am a Catholic clinging to the Faith in a desert of mediocrity.
your memory of your first communion day is great, but it is not the only way to experience that day. I am still waiting for one person on this board to tell me why a child, properly catechised and prepared, approaching communion for the first time with his family during Sunday Mass, is not being welcomed by the community, is not having a special day, and where is the liturgical or canonical abuse? Answer - there is no abuse, the day is special because it is his first communion, he recieves Jesus in the Eucharist, NOT because of the clothes he is wearing, who he sits with, what kind of party he has, or how much money he rakes in from relatives, or whether grandma got it all on video.
 
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there is nothing in your lengthy quote about church law that is apropos from the orginal complaint posted on this thread, or that prohibits children from receiving their first holy communion from a lay minister of the Eucharist or a deacon,
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In:

CONGREGATION FOR DIVINE WORSHIP
AND THE DISCIPLINE OF THE SACRAMENT

INSTRUCTION


Redemptionis Sacramentum

On certain matters to be observed or to be avoided
regarding the Most Holy Eucharist


Paragraph 87 says:

Moreover First Communion should always be administered by a Priest and never outside the celebration of Mass***.

Notice that the quoted paragraph makes no mention of Deacons or extraordinary ministers of Holy Communion.

You should not therefore assume that these ministers are allowed to give the children their first communion.

The instruction I quoted from is not my own teaching. It is the Holy Father’s teaching:
Code:
This Instruction, prepared by the Congregation for Divine Worship and the  Discipline of the Sacraments **by mandate of the Supreme Pontiff John Paul II** in  collaboration with the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith, was approved  by the same Pontiff on the Solemnity of St. Joseph, 19 March 2004, and he  ordered it to be published and to be observed immediately by all concerned.
the pastor is in charge, he is the one who is commissioned by the bishop, who is the one with apostolic authority.
I agree with you and I condone only obedience to the pastor. Unity Unity Unity !!!

However as Catholic layity we are well within our rights to make suggestions like the quoted instruction above. The whole reason this instruction was issued is to promote unity. NOT DIS-UNITY. The Holy Father states in the same instruction that it is our duty to promote this unity he is calling for:

Complaints Regarding Abuses in Liturgical Matters [183.] In an altogether particular manner, let everyone do all that is in their power to ensure that the Most Holy Sacrament of the Eucharist will be protected from any and every irreverence or distortion and that all abuses be thoroughly corrected. This is a most serious duty incumbent upon each and every one, and all are bound to carry it out without any favouritism.
Code:
   [184.] Any Catholic,  whether Priest or Deacon or lay member of Christ’s faithful, has the right to  lodge a complaint regarding a liturgical abuse to the diocesan Bishop or the competent Ordinary equivalent to him in law, or to  the  Apostolic See on account of the  primacy of the Roman Pontiff.[[290]](http://www.vatican.va/roman_curia/congregations/ccdds/documents/rc_con_ccdds_doc_20040423_redemptionis-sacramentum_en.html#_ftn290)   It is fitting, however, insofar as possible, that the report or complaint be  submitted first to the diocesan Bishop. This is naturally to be done in truth  and charity.
Of course going to the bishop and then on to the Holy See is a bit extreme. We are family and we can work things out locally before going to these extremes.

SursumCor:

In the end I plead with you to show obedience to the pastor as Christ will give you countless blessings for your act of faith.🙂 Getting through this time of distress can be used to teach your children prudence and temperence. And make their 1st Holy Communion date a more memorable day to remember without any bitterness.

In Christ

tkvoice
 
2 cents:

This is easily, hands-down, the worst thread I have ever read here. I’m a convert to Catholicism, and my original background is a fundamental Protestantism - and the behavior of many people in this thread exhibits many of the negative Catholic stereotypes I grew up hearing. I’m personally very disappointed: I hadn’t ever come across this kind of petty bickering yet in the Church since converting. Takes me back to the old days of “church splits” and “elder boards.” Oh, goody.

Let’s run down the facts:
-Performing First Communion the way this priest wants to is
a) completely valid under Canon Law
b) a valid exercise of pastoral authority
-Performing First Communion the way Sersom, Deacon 6000, and Fransiscum desire:
a) is not required by any Church teaching
b) is a matter of preference
Yet, for choosing a valid way to celebrate First Communion not in line with your preference, this priest is called:
-a “liturgical nazi” (even though he is celebrating validly and licitly within the liturgy)
-a “spiritual vandal”
-one who might “destroy [a] child’s spiritual life”
-oh, and just to be charitable, “plain lazy”
Wow. If we could somehow harness the level of antipathy in here for industrial purposes, we could power Cleveland for a week (or, say, “end abortion”).

So, everyone complains that this is another example of the life-sucking modernist machine that destroys the faith of children. Certainly, this must be the problem, this must be why we lose so many to evangelical fundamentalism. Certainly, it has nothing to do with how easily Catholics may be perceived as focusing on form over substance. Don’t get me wrong - I’m in love with the Tridentine Mass, the more a parish the better, and I’m certainly no fan of any toying with the liturgy (ever!) - but this is not about the liturgy. IMHO, it seems this is about obstinate refusal to submit to proper authority.

Congrats, guys, you’ve already made “*****” out of yourselves.

(PS, if you feel the need to resort to profanity, how does “***” mitigate anything? Either say it or rephrase it)
 
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tkvoice:
In:

Redemptionis Sacramentum

On certain matters to be observed or to be avoided

regarding the Most Holy Eucharist


Paragraph 87 says:
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Moreover First Communion should always be administered by a Priest and never outside the celebration of Mass.

Notice that the quoted paragraph makes no mention of Deacons or extraordinary ministers of Holy Communion.
so what you people want is for 120 second graders to sit in the first 20 pews, their parents in the next 20 pews, and everybody else at 9:00 Mass on Sunday, May 2 to stand in the back (our church only seats 300) and all of them to receive communion (by intinction, since we cannot use deacons or EEMHCs). Shall I tell the people who come to the Spanish Mass at 10:30 to please wait outside for 45 minutes until the parking lot clears?
and somehow this will be more memorable, uplifting, reverent and “special” whatever the heck that means, than the alternative suggested by the pastor?
 
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GULaw:
2 cents:

Let’s run down the facts:
-Performing First Communion the way this priest wants to is
a) completely valid under Canon Law
b) a valid exercise of pastoral authority
-Performing First Communion the way Sersom, Deacon 6000, and Fransiscum desire:
a) is not required by any Church teaching
b) is a matter of preference
Yet, for choosing a valid way to celebrate First Communion not in line with your preference, this priest is called:
-a “liturgical nazi” (even though he is celebrating validly and licitly within the liturgy)
-a “spiritual vandal”
-one who might “destroy [a] child’s spiritual life”
-oh, and just to be charitable, “plain lazy”
To invoke canon law in this circumstance demonstrates you have not properly understood the sensitivity and significance of this discussion.

God Bless
 
It would seem to me that this pastor is sure violating the spirit of Church law, if not the letter.

That having been said, it is certainly his legal right to do this, and his parishioners have to comply with this until a higher authority intervenes.

I think First Communions are dumb, anyway. Just an excuse to dress a kid up and give him money. Very seldom is it a truly religious experience.

Personally, I don’t think an ychild above the age of reason should be made to be Confirmed or Communicated, as 99.99% of kids are. If they do receive these sacraments, it should be of their own initiative, not because mommy and daddy made them do it because of family tradition; the same mommy and daddy who won’t take them to Mass ever again until the gets have to go through the motions of being confirmed.

Do pardon my cynicism.
 
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Deacon2006:
To invoke canon law in this circumstance demonstrates you have not properly understood the sensitivity and significance of this discussion.
Well, this notwithstanding…
Br. Rich SFO:
The controlling document is essentially Canon Law. Which simply says that the preparation for and the opportunity for first reconciliation must preceed the reception of First Communion…
The only source quoted is Redemptionis Sacramentum - which also leaves room for the discretion of this pastor. *You *are among those who have a problem with a perfectly valid exercise of pastoral authority, so it seems to me that the burden is on you to provide a more evidence for your position than a simple claim that I’ve missed the point.

EDIT: I should also point out that I disagree with this pastor’s judgment as well - I prefer making it more of a special occassion. My point is that it doesn’t justify the vitriol in this thread; such behavior does far more harm to unity than good.
 
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puzzleannie:
so what you people want is for 120 second graders to sit in the first 20 pews, their parents in the next 20 pews, and everybody else at 9:00 Mass on Sunday, May 2 to stand in the back (our church only seats 300) and all of them to receive communion (by intinction, since we cannot use deacons or EEMHCs). Shall I tell the people who come to the Spanish Mass at 10:30 to please wait outside for 45 minutes until the parking lot clears?
and somehow this will be more memorable, uplifting, reverent and “special” whatever the heck that means, than the alternative suggested by the pastor?
Where does the Church mandate first communion be received under both species? It dosen’t…
 
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puzzleannie:
so what you people want is for 120 second graders to sit in the first 20 pews, their parents in the next 20 pews, and everybody else at 9:00 Mass on Sunday, May 2 to stand in the back (our church only seats 300) and all of them to receive communion (by intinction, since we cannot use deacons or EEMHCs). Shall I tell the people who come to the Spanish Mass at 10:30 to please wait outside for 45 minutes until the parking lot clears?
and somehow this will be more memorable, uplifting, reverent and “special” whatever the heck that means, than the alternative suggested by the pastor?
Personally I think you would have to be incompetent if you could not organise 120 children into 5 groups of about 25. These groups would then be scheduled into any of the 30 masses during the easter season. Since the primary participants members already attend this church and several other parishoners will decide to attend other masses out of courtesy then the real net effect on the parish is nill, nada, nothing. In our parish we have about 500 first communicants every year and a church that only seats about 700, yet every child can attend mass with their class and family at a regularly scheduled sunday mass. Any organised person can do it and preserve the hopes, traditions and cultural worship practices of our catholic church.

So many spirtual vandals want to replace everything that is not nailed down by canon law it makes me wonder what could be going through their minds if anything at all. The left over 70’s contempt and loathing that some have for the traditonal way children received first communion is really a disappointment.

God Bless
 
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GULaw:
Well, this notwithstanding…

The only source quoted is Redemptionis Sacramentum - which also leaves room for the discretion of this pastor. *You *are among those who have a problem with a perfectly valid exercise of pastoral authority, so it seems to me that the burden is on you to provide a more evidence for your position than a simple claim that I’ve missed the point.

EDIT: I should also point out that I disagree with this pastor’s judgment as well - I prefer making it more of a special occassion. My point is that it doesn’t justify the vitriol in this thread; such behavior does far more harm to unity than good.
I appreciate your personal thought and we both are agreed, but a valid exercise of pastoral authority is not the test of what a pastor should do in light of generations of tradition and spiritual culture.

I don’t question his rights I question his agenda and as my first post pointed out these men who reject traditons here frequently reject all kinds of other normative and enforceable rules too. I have never found an orthodox and faithful priest cancelling a first communion mass and I have never come across a lavender mob priest who couldn’t wait to surround himself with women pastoral assistants and start to cancel out these special masses. Priests orchestarte things amongst themselves and anyone who does these things know which priests in the deanery would approve and which ones don’t.

God Bless
 
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Deacon2006:
Personally I think you would have to be incompetent if you could not organise 120 children into 5 groups of about 25. These groups would then be scheduled into any of the 30 masses during the easter season. God Bless
well that would be and is my suggestion (see previous posts) but you have several people on this board who feel that because localized tradition, in some parts of the world, over the last 100 years is for the entire group to participate together at one “special” Mass, there is simply no alternative to consider. Have you read this entire thread? They are confusing Sacred Tradition, handed down by the apostles and preserved by the Magesterium, with local cultural and ethnic traditions particular to times and places. It they don’t know the difference, and if through no fault of their own they have not been catechised on the sacraments of initiation, particularly the Eucharist, the should not be making the vicious accusations of priestly authoritariasm and liturgical abuse that are being flung about here.

They allow no room for the “competent person”, either the pastor or someone assigned by him, to organize anything responsive to the pastoral needs of the parish and liturgical directives of the Church. Their only benchmark for “correctness” and “orthodoxy” is their own remembrance of what first communion was like when they were children, and assign validity only to that experience.
 
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Deacon2006:
I appreciate your personal thought and we both are agreed, but a valid exercise of pastoral authority is not the test of what a pastor should do in light of generations of tradition and spiritual culture.

I don’t question his rights I question his agenda and as my first post pointed out these men who reject traditons here frequently reject all kinds of other normative and enforceable rules too. I have never found an orthodox and faithful priest cancelling a first communion mass and I have never come across a lavender mob priest who couldn’t wait to surround himself with women pastoral assistants and start to cancel out these special masses. Priests orchestarte things amongst themselves and anyone who does these things know which priests in the deanery would approve and which ones don’t.

God Bless
the priest is the liturgist, not the DRE, not the parents, not the catechist, not the school principal, not the choir director. The assumption that because this pastor has made a change in how the children are to be presented for first communion he is a “liturgical nazi”, a “modernist”, or is “pushing an agenda” and is surrounded by a “lavender mob” is unwarranted by anything in the original post. To fling these miscellaneous accusations against a particular priest, without any evidence except our own prejudices and experiences in other settings, is irresponsible, divisive, disobedient and utterly unbecoming for anyone who participates in these forums with the intent of becoming apologists and evangelists.

the local tradition of this parish, which he is changing for pastoral reasons which he has not doubt tried to explain, but given up against the wall of bitterness he faces, has been changed. Sacred tradition of the church has not been touched. You need to know the difference, or you cannot appeal to tradition in your arguement.
 
the pastor is in charge, he is the one who is commissioned by the bishop, who is the one with apostolic authority. the DRE is not in charge, the deacon is not in charge, the parents are not in charge. For the orginial poster, and those who agreed with the sentiments stated, to use a non-issue like how many kids receive communion at the same time, as a tool to disobey the priest, and to urge others to do so, is shameful. Please line up with all the other dissenters, their organization is Call to Action and their website is cta-usa.org.
I hate to diagree with those I am allinned with, but HORSE HOCKEY.

The pastor made a proper move. But re-read the original post. he was not dictatorial. The decision was fully with the parents. Hwoever, to the original posters displeasure hardly any parents had any probelm with the pastor’s initiative.

I’m not denying the right of lay folks to have a say in this. But in this case they spoken and they agreed with the Pastor.
 
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