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Liberanosamalo
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You have received some very beautiful and gentle answers here. Now I’m going to be harsh. Because this is VERY serious business here. You MUST give the fact that this man is a priest in confession. Not that you have committed physical adultery yet, but if you did, with a priest it would be sacrilege. And from your comments, your head and heart are already with this man to the exclusion of your husband. It would only be a matter of time before the rest of you followed. And you would end up rationalizing it the same way you are rationalizing your emotional adultery.
I have seen this play out to the point of horrible scandal in one parish. It made the papers. Counseling turned into “friendship” which turned into adultery and an affair that became notorious. Other priests were dragged into it, causing them to get in trouble. The woman, who had children, eventually got pregnant by the priest. He left the church and she followed, and a father lost his children. And it caused him to have serious health issues with the strain of the divorce case and loss of child custody.
I’m sure she didn’t intend at the beginning of the “friendship” to do this. And her children probably lost their innocence and faith in this. Think of how Satan is trying to use this priest to cause your husband to always mistrust the church and never convert.
What are you getting here, by the way? A man who is charming but to whom a vow made prostrate on the altar of God means little? Even if you got this “prize” how could you trust him? And how would he trust you? Because you have revealed yourself to be a woman who can be lured from her vows by the right amount of conversation and emotional attraction.
Go to confession. Immediately. And go to marriage counseling. And ask yourself how you would feel if your husband were conducting an internet affair with a woman who he felt he had more in common with emotionally than yourself? How would you feel if you were with him and his thoughts were far away, comparing you unfavorably with someone he felt so close to in his mind and heart?
If this is the first time you have stepped over the line in life, then Satan really had to come up with a good one to get you to trip, didn’t he? Are you gonna let him win this round? Is this his knockout punch? And now he’s made you afraid to confess it. He takes away the shame to make you flirt and confess your deepest thoughts and desires with a priest of God. And he gives it back so you are afraid to confess your deepest thoughts and desires to another priest of God. The irony here is beautiful. Satan loves irony.
Not only your soul, but your children’s, your husband’s, and the many parishioner’s who would be affected by this lie in the balance.
Stop keeping a calendar about how long it’s been since you’ve had contact. Change your email address. Tell your kids Father moved and they won’t see him anymore. Trust me. They won’t miss him that much. They would miss their own father more.
And stay away from young and attractive priests from now on. YOU are being HIS near occasion of sin. How does that feel? Cut the flowery language away and what we really have here is this little emotional affair has made your life exciting. Someone is attracted to you. Oh, the drama and the long goodbyes and the ache in the heart! C’mon. Snap out of it. For all you know, he may be busy starting a new “friendship” with some starry-eyed woman at his new parish. I’ve seen that happen also. If he was the married guy with a mortgage and kids in the cubicle next to you at work would it be so pure and wonderful?
Sorry to be harsh. I’ve seen how this kind of thing can destroy families, parishes and vocations. And the woman usually is the one who is flattering herself that because it’s this wonderful “platonic” friendship, that she is doing no wrong. The priest was probably warned about this thing repeatedly during his seminary training. And he is now completely ignoring everything he was advised by older and wiser priests and instructors. If this was a doctor or lawyer taking advantage of a professional relationship, he’d be thrown out!
I have seen this play out to the point of horrible scandal in one parish. It made the papers. Counseling turned into “friendship” which turned into adultery and an affair that became notorious. Other priests were dragged into it, causing them to get in trouble. The woman, who had children, eventually got pregnant by the priest. He left the church and she followed, and a father lost his children. And it caused him to have serious health issues with the strain of the divorce case and loss of child custody.
I’m sure she didn’t intend at the beginning of the “friendship” to do this. And her children probably lost their innocence and faith in this. Think of how Satan is trying to use this priest to cause your husband to always mistrust the church and never convert.
What are you getting here, by the way? A man who is charming but to whom a vow made prostrate on the altar of God means little? Even if you got this “prize” how could you trust him? And how would he trust you? Because you have revealed yourself to be a woman who can be lured from her vows by the right amount of conversation and emotional attraction.
Go to confession. Immediately. And go to marriage counseling. And ask yourself how you would feel if your husband were conducting an internet affair with a woman who he felt he had more in common with emotionally than yourself? How would you feel if you were with him and his thoughts were far away, comparing you unfavorably with someone he felt so close to in his mind and heart?
If this is the first time you have stepped over the line in life, then Satan really had to come up with a good one to get you to trip, didn’t he? Are you gonna let him win this round? Is this his knockout punch? And now he’s made you afraid to confess it. He takes away the shame to make you flirt and confess your deepest thoughts and desires with a priest of God. And he gives it back so you are afraid to confess your deepest thoughts and desires to another priest of God. The irony here is beautiful. Satan loves irony.
Not only your soul, but your children’s, your husband’s, and the many parishioner’s who would be affected by this lie in the balance.
Stop keeping a calendar about how long it’s been since you’ve had contact. Change your email address. Tell your kids Father moved and they won’t see him anymore. Trust me. They won’t miss him that much. They would miss their own father more.
And stay away from young and attractive priests from now on. YOU are being HIS near occasion of sin. How does that feel? Cut the flowery language away and what we really have here is this little emotional affair has made your life exciting. Someone is attracted to you. Oh, the drama and the long goodbyes and the ache in the heart! C’mon. Snap out of it. For all you know, he may be busy starting a new “friendship” with some starry-eyed woman at his new parish. I’ve seen that happen also. If he was the married guy with a mortgage and kids in the cubicle next to you at work would it be so pure and wonderful?
Sorry to be harsh. I’ve seen how this kind of thing can destroy families, parishes and vocations. And the woman usually is the one who is flattering herself that because it’s this wonderful “platonic” friendship, that she is doing no wrong. The priest was probably warned about this thing repeatedly during his seminary training. And he is now completely ignoring everything he was advised by older and wiser priests and instructors. If this was a doctor or lawyer taking advantage of a professional relationship, he’d be thrown out!
God bless