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This is a bit complicated.
We have a grandson who is almost 4. He’s been living with his other grandma & his mother all his life, until about a year ago his mom left to go live with her boyfriend. He was left with the grandma who keeps him in diapers, doesn’t really believe in school, and doesn’t speak much English. His speech is delayed; last year his MD recommended he get remedial speech therapy, but no one followed up.
His dad lives with my husband and I. He wants the child to come live with us, so we made plans for that, he’s enrolled in a great nursery school & swimming lessons starting this month.
Now mom says she’s leaving the boyfriend, who was her drug dealer, & would like to come live with us also. She says she’s no longer using. She just lost her job but is looking for another.
I don’t want her to live with us, because my son and her are not married, though they have plans maybe to marry once they can afford it, and because she’s a difficult person-- sometimes rude, doesn’t help around the house. But I feel bad continuing to separate mother and child.
I think she should move back with her mother, and have the child with her on weekends, so he can go to school and swimming lessons during the week. He is used to only seeing her a couple of times a week. Once she finds work, the other grandma would be watching him anyway.
None of the solutions are ideal but I’m trying to figure out the best for the child.
Thoughts?
We have a grandson who is almost 4. He’s been living with his other grandma & his mother all his life, until about a year ago his mom left to go live with her boyfriend. He was left with the grandma who keeps him in diapers, doesn’t really believe in school, and doesn’t speak much English. His speech is delayed; last year his MD recommended he get remedial speech therapy, but no one followed up.
His dad lives with my husband and I. He wants the child to come live with us, so we made plans for that, he’s enrolled in a great nursery school & swimming lessons starting this month.
Now mom says she’s leaving the boyfriend, who was her drug dealer, & would like to come live with us also. She says she’s no longer using. She just lost her job but is looking for another.
I don’t want her to live with us, because my son and her are not married, though they have plans maybe to marry once they can afford it, and because she’s a difficult person-- sometimes rude, doesn’t help around the house. But I feel bad continuing to separate mother and child.
I think she should move back with her mother, and have the child with her on weekends, so he can go to school and swimming lessons during the week. He is used to only seeing her a couple of times a week. Once she finds work, the other grandma would be watching him anyway.
None of the solutions are ideal but I’m trying to figure out the best for the child.
Thoughts?