Grave matter?

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Hi, I have a little bit of a problem with scrupulosity, and I was wondering if anyone could tell me whether this consititues grave matter. I’m only 16, and the other night, I went up to say goodnight to my mom at my “bedtime”, but then went back downstair and stayed up for another hour or so. I confessed to her the next day, and she seemed to think it was no big deal, but I’m still a little worried. Any thoughts? God bless
 
Honestly, I think this is a matter of scruples, but if it is truly bothering you, schedule a confession with your priest.
 
No, you have not committed mortal sin…to help you define “grave matter” or what could constitute mortal sin - and as a previous poster has said, if it continues to worry you speak to Father in Confession about it. It is quite ok to say to Father in Confession “Father I have done “…”, can you tell me please if it is mortal or venial sin?” or something similar. It is quite ok to ask Father questions in Confession/discuss some matter of concern.

Can you provide me with a list of possible mortal sins?

These are only POSSIBLE mortal sins because they constitute grave matter. For a sin to be mortal, two other conditions along with grave matter must be present at one and the same time - to know something is mortal, and to do so anyway in sufficient freedom. “sufficient freedom” is another big and often complex issue.
From the Catholic Catechism:

[1859](javascript:openWindow(‘cr/1859.htm’)😉 Mortal sin requires full knowledge and complete consent. It presupposes knowledge of the sinful character of the act, of its opposition to God’s law.*** It also implies a consent sufficiently deliberate to be a personal choice.*** Feigned ignorance and hardness of heart133 do not diminish, but rather increase, the voluntary character of a sin. [1860](javascript:openWindow(‘cr/1860.htm’)😉 Unintentional ignorance can diminish or even remove the imputability of a grave offense. But no one is deemed to be ignorant of the principles of the moral law, which are written in the conscience of every man. The promptings of feelings and passions can also diminish the voluntary and free character of the offense, as can external pressures or pathological disorders. Sin committed through malice, by deliberate choice of evil, is the gravest.

The Catholic Catechism too may be of assistance to you re mortal sin:

ccc.scborromeo.org.master.com/texis/master/search/?sufs=0&q=mortal+sin&xsubmit=Search&s=SS
 
I’m sorry, what sin are you afraid of committing? :confused: From your post, I don’t discern any wrongdoing. What possible sin are you having scruples about?
 
“I’m sorry, what sin are you afraid of committing? From your post, I don’t discern any wrongdoing. What possible sin are you having scruples about?”

IMHO, it may be lying, though it is debatable. The OP did not specifically say to the mother “Now I am going to sleep. If you want to find me go to my bedroom.” All was said is good night, which may not necessarily mean “This is a notice to you that I am going to sleep RIGHT NOW”. So yes, the OP was being scrupulous.
 
Hi, I have a little bit of a problem with scrupulosity, and I was wondering if anyone could tell me whether this consititues grave matter. I’m only 16, and the other night, I went up to say goodnight to my mom at my “bedtime”, but then went back downstair and stayed up for another hour or so. I confessed to her the next day, and she seemed to think it was no big deal, but I’m still a little worried. Any thoughts? God bless
doesn’t sound like a big deal. maybe talk to your mom about the bedtime thing and see if she cares. it really does sound like scruples. i had a friend once who had scruples (and denied it) so bad that no one, not even his confessor could bring him out of it. finally, he got to talk with the bishop. the bishop told him that since he was the bishop and the bishop says he had scruples, then it would be a sin to disobey in a matter of faith and morals, therefore he must stop being scrupulous. this catch 22 was the road for healing. smart bishop
 
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