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Hi to every one who read and answered my post A true story, The meeting between Sue and her son went better than every thought, Her girls are so pleased at long last to meet their brother Sues family are meeting her sons family Today, They have talked on the phone and they are all having a meal out together, From what has been said Sue sons parents want to meet their adopted sons sisiters and family, Thank you once again for all your replys and help, I will let you all know how the meeting between the familys go yours michael
 
These are Sues words after getting to see her son and him going to be part of the family, Part of my heart that was missing has come home
 
Hi every one, This is the latest news about Sues Son, First the girls have taken their brothers photo to school to show every one their brother, Second the meeting between both familys went very well, From what has been said hes a very caring lad, And as they only live 35 mins away from each other there are going to be lots of visits, As for the other problems they are going to sort them out in time, thank you all for reading and replying yours michael
 
The only thing I would advise is for Sue to not “push/force” a relationship. Let it progress naturally. That was the advice my biological aunt gave my biological mother (my biological aunt was also adopted and met her biological parents and they pushed her to the point where she didn’t enjoy being around them and avoided them a lot). I understand Sue’s desire to make up for lost time and to gain her son back, but she also has to remember that he has his family (no matter how unjustly he was taken away from Sue) and his loyalty will be to his own parents first before Sue. There can always be a good solid relationship between them all, but pushing will ensure that that does not happen. My mom and my biological mother get along fine (when we see her, that is). However, my mom and I both feel really connected to my biological aunt, her children and my biological grandma and biological great aunts.
 
I just found this thread and backtracked to read the whole story.

I hope all turns out well. I am a birthmom who was reunited with her birthson 4 yrs ago. He searched for me; was 27 yo at the time. It has turned out v well. I thank Our Lady for interceding on our behalf. He used a mediator from the adoption agency (all this in the US). We first corresponded via email and all went through the mediator, so my identity was Very well protected. Then we went to writing letters, then phone calls, all this over 6 months and secret from my sons, 2 of whom were still living at home at the time.

What a great blessing it has been to know my birhson was alive and well. His adoptive parents do not want anything to do with me, but I do hope his mom changes her mind as she has a serious form of cancer, but is doing okay for the time being.
Enough about me…

My advice also is to go SLOWLY… one’s emotions can really run wild. It is so exciting and you want to just jump in and be with that long lost child all day every day. God-willing, they will become close and will be able to enjoy this new addition to the family.

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gmarie21 and Mimi, Thank you both very much for your advice, It has been taken on board, The girls cannot get over they have a brother, Sue is taking it slowly, And W adoptive parents want whats the best for him, And from what they have said his new sisters are very welcome at their home, Once again thank you all for replying or reading, I will keep you up todate a very pleased michael
 
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