Grieving over divorce

  • Thread starter Thread starter lynnehelen
  • Start date Start date
Status
Not open for further replies.
L

lynnehelen

Guest
“I live a good life, I love a great wife. Our kids are beautiful, we have friends down the street.” (Song from Catholic radio.) this is just like us, except, the marriage was a living hell for me and for my son, we’re suing our friends down the street and two of our children are in Heaven with Jesus.

I am looking to my mother with blame, as usual, please help me find God’s will in how my life went and why things have worked out the way they did, and pray for me as I continue to make plans to relocate north, currently staying in a motel waiting for husband to sign off on Marriage Settlement Agreement.
 
Praying hard for you to find happiness and peace of mind.
 
Praying for you to find peace in your new life. God bless you.
 
Mother Mary, I commend Lynnehelen to you. Please intercede for her and ask Our Lord to bless her with many actual graces. May she cooperate with these graces and keep growing in faith. Please help her to cope with problems; help her to hand them over to you with confidence in your maternal mediation. Amen.
 
O Sacred Heart of Jesus, bless this family.

Hail Mary, full of grace.
Our Lord is with you.
Blessed are you among women,
and blessed is the fruit of your womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God,
pray for us sinners,
now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.
 
Jesus who forgave your friends for deserting You, and Your enemies for plotting against You, torturing You, killing You, please help our sister to forgive a woman who also had influences on her childhood and life that may have damaged her.
Please give Lynne the strength and compassion to forgive. The person that her blame most injures is herself as she has to live with it and the damage it exacerbates.

Even if a marriage is unhappy, Lord, divorce still brings pain and regrets to many.
Please bring all things to good for this man, this woman, this son.
Lord please surround them and their parents with Your healing light and love.
 
I found out through the support group I am going to last night that my mother has suffered undiagnosed epilepsy–absence seizures, and maybe some other symptoms–all her life, and I so totally forgive her. It is difficult to know what to do for her at 73, and still difficult to cope with the mechanisms she learned to use to help herself (lying, “using” my psych diagnosis of record–I probably have a form of epilepsy too–to seek assistance for herself, et cetera.) She abused thyroid medication in place of anti-depressants–she now has a piece of the calcified gland they removed threatening to press against her lungs and they would have to break her chest open to remove it.

This all makes me sad, but somehow there’s a funniness to suddenly completely understanding overnight what has baffled me and the most important and reknowned doctors for thirty years, and my “super-intelligent” Dad–all my life really.

At the same time I suddenly realized the day before that my dad is 80. And I got so sad. One thing about my mother is that she has kept things down to the minute all these years, it’s all one long day. It has to stop.

I feel resentful–you must understand–on her behalf toward all the Americans who wouldn’t give a young English mother with two little ones,and a terrible problem, the time of day.

But that was 50 years ago. What happens now?

I am working on “cooperating with Mother Mary’s maternal graces” which were prayed for for me and am finding great peace.

Thank you for your prayers.

🙂
 
May God ease your pain and suffering… May He grant you peace and the ability to truly forgive those who have wronged you…
 
Status
Not open for further replies.
Back
Top