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hergratefulchild
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Hi, Please help me to work through the vice of lust. I had a dream a month or so ago and the memory stayed with me, it was very clear that I would last not even a day in heaven unless I can get my mind off looking for a sexual partner. Now to be clear, This isn’t about any action of sin. It is the heart that betrays me and this dream has informed me that I need to change my heart on this, if I am to get to heaven.
The questions I have, from my heart which is what needs convincing is this.
The desire and act of sexual intamacy is not a sin, within a marriage and for the purposes of having children and a conjugal relationship. As we don’t live in a world of arranged marriages, we are left to compete for a desired partner and this leaves single men and woman with an eye out for a partner the whole time they are single and wishing for these good and natural things. We must either decide to not compete and accept a chaste life or be under the power of lust with any potential husband/wife. Again this is not thinking or acting out on the lust. It is this desire of the heart which can cause a person to be open to attracion. My dream is clear that the desire is sufficient in heaven to cause scandal and expulsion. I feel my attraction to others is part of my identity, can I remove part of myself as St Paul declares "it is better for you to enter heaven wounded than not at all?
I already am confident of the answer, which is yes. I want to know how really?
The questions I have, from my heart which is what needs convincing is this.
The desire and act of sexual intamacy is not a sin, within a marriage and for the purposes of having children and a conjugal relationship. As we don’t live in a world of arranged marriages, we are left to compete for a desired partner and this leaves single men and woman with an eye out for a partner the whole time they are single and wishing for these good and natural things. We must either decide to not compete and accept a chaste life or be under the power of lust with any potential husband/wife. Again this is not thinking or acting out on the lust. It is this desire of the heart which can cause a person to be open to attracion. My dream is clear that the desire is sufficient in heaven to cause scandal and expulsion. I feel my attraction to others is part of my identity, can I remove part of myself as St Paul declares "it is better for you to enter heaven wounded than not at all?
I already am confident of the answer, which is yes. I want to know how really?