Guilt, daughter's birth place

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Dear brothers and sisters in Christ,

I please ask you to pray for me, because I carry a great guilt I can’t let go, even when i know our Lord has already forgiven me.

I feel guilty that my daughter wasn’t born in the U.S. I was a permanent resident, and my wife was a Mexican visa, we were living in Tijuana at the time. We decided not take from the US government, so we didn’t apply for Medicaid to pay for my daughter’s birth. Also, we didn’t want this to affect my wife’s immigration process later. Since I couldn’t afford to pay out of pocket, we decided that our daughter was going to be born in Tijuana, and later I was going to petition my daughter as a permanent resident.

Well, she’s now seven. She and my wife got their tourist visas cancelled in March, and now they have to wait around two years for their permanent resident cards in tijuana. i feel very bad, bcause I can’t believe that my daughter can’t even come to San Diego, where I live part of the week. She loves San Diego. She speaks both English and Spanish. I’m on my way to citizenship, but it will take me about 3 and half more years to become a citizen. Meanwhile, i feel guilt that I didn’t pay for her to be born in the US. I carry this guilt, and I can’t let it go.

I pray a lot, so that I can stop feeling like this. Please pray for me, too.
I ask for your intersession so that my wife’s and daughter’s immigration process goes smoothly, and that my daughter can get a tourist visa, too, this year.

I pray this in the name of our Lord, Jesus Christ,
Amen.
 
Pablo,
Thank you. Thank you for obeying the laws of this nation. Thank you for owning up to your mistakes. Thank you for turning to God for forgiveness.

Thank you for fathering a beautiful child, and being a working, prayerful example to her. Thank you for joining with a woman in the sacriment of marriage, and giving your daughter the example of what a man and wife can do for each other, and for their children. Thank you for providing her and all of us an example of what can be accomplished when people are patient, steadfast and willing to work for what they believe in. I will, and am already proud to welcome your family into our National family.

God of our fathers,
Be with Pablo and his family on this journey.
As they grow closer to their citizenship here,
May they grow closer to each other
and closer to You.

Amen.
 
An Ameican saying is hindsight is 20/20. After you have done something, you know more about it so you can see what went wrong. You made a difficult decision with the information you had *at the time. *There is nothing wrong with that decision; it was tye best one you could make with te information you had at the time and te situation you saw at the time.

Sometimes we make good decisions that don’t turn out well, and then we, esp as parents!, fell bad about the outcome. But the outcome is not in our control. We can only do what we can do, and sometimes life is just plain difficult.

You seem to be looking at the difficult results of your decision and comparing them with an imaginary perfect resolution of your other option. Suppose that you had taken the other option and gotten in trouble for it, or it had messed up your immigration? There could have been a bad resolution to that option too.

God wants us to work with what we have at the time. He wants us to be faithful to Him. But we have to understand that what matters to Him is our decision: did we make a holy decision? And then we have to leave the outcome to Him.

I find praying the Sorrowful Mysteries helps me at times like this. It must have seemed to the Apostles that Christ made some bad decisions: after all, He ended up crucified! They could not see the good that would come of that.
 
Please release your guilt. You have nothing to feel guilty about! God loves you and your family so much. I know He is watching over your family while you are not with them
 
Remembering you and your family in my daily prayers. God bless!
 
I pray for your intentions :crossrc:

O my Jesus
Forgive us our sins,
save us from the fires of Hell
lead all souls to Heaven
especially those most in need of thy mercy.
AMEN
 
Mother Mary, I commend Pablo to you. Please help him to carry his cross courageously, patiently and lovingly. May he soon be ruinited with his family and be granted citizenship. Help this family to cope with their separation and guide them in all their ways. Amen.
 
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