guilt trip

[JLCecilia]

Feeling like an aweful brat over an incident at the sitter yesterday . . .I was in a rush after work yesterday: I get off @ 4:30, get the kids, had to gas up b/c I was on ‘e’, and get home for a guest we were having @ 5!!!

When I pull up to the sitter, an older woman in a body cast is struggling to get up the steps (I’m exaggerating, but her back brace was quite a contraption). In my haste I’m thinking, great, just what I need. So I follow her in, staying off her heals and she’s kind of crowding the entry way, so I couldn’t just grab the kids and run.

Once I have the baby in his carseat, I hustle my older one telling him ‘we’re in a rush, let’s go,’ kind of making my statement. Well, my sitter (who doesn’t get around so well herself) is trying to help this lady get her screaming granddaughter to the end of the porch and down the stairs. I myself have the carseat in the crook of my elbow and my toddler’s hand on the other arm. Now I’m on everyone’s heals. I should have made my escape thru the side door.

I get the kids in the carseat w/ my sitter in the background telling this lady ‘you don’t need to be lifting her into the car.’ After I get the kids situated I walk over to her car to help her, but she’s got everything in order.

Ugh! I feel aweful!!! I should have just helped her along w/ her granddaughter and then went back in for my own kids.

Just needed to vent. Thanks for listening.

 

[whatevergirl]

Feeling like an aweful brat over an incident at the sitter yesterday . . .I was in a rush after work yesterday: I get off @ 4:30, get the kids, had to gas up b/c I was on ‘e’, and get home for a guest we were having @ 5!!!

When I pull up to the sitter, an older woman in a body cast is struggling to get up the steps (I’m exaggerating, but her back brace was quite a contraption). In my haste I’m thinking, great, just what I need. So I follow her in, staying off her heals and she’s kind of crowding the entry way, so I couldn’t just grab the kids and run.

Once I have the baby in his carseat, I hustle my older one telling him ‘we’re in a rush, let’s go,’ kind of making my statement. Well, my sitter (who doesn’t get around so well herself) is trying to help this lady get her screaming granddaughter to the end of the porch and down the stairs. I myself have the carseat in the crook of my elbow and my toddler’s hand on the other arm. Now I’m on everyone’s heals. I should have made my escape thru the side door.

I get the kids in the carseat w/ my sitter in the background telling this lady ‘you don’t need to be lifting her into the car.’ After I get the kids situated I walk over to her car to help her, but she’s got everything in order.

Ugh! I feel aweful!!! I should have just helped her along w/ her granddaughter and then went back in for my own kids.

Just needed to vent. Thanks for listening.

Well, hindsight is always 20/20…lol I think we can all relate to times when we wished we had reacted/acted differently, but don’t feel guilty about it. It happened, but the next time, if faced with something similiar, offer up the help, and see if it’s needed. All things in this life are opportunities to reflect on ourselves, change if need be, and move forward learning something that we can use in the future to help others. You learned something yesterday, and you can take that experience to help someone else, who you might find in a similiar circumstance. But, don’t beat yourself up. Yesterday is over…tomorrow is not yet here. Just focus on how you can help others–today.

 

[JLCecilia]

Well, I guess I can reconcile my guilt . . .Gramma and granddaughter were coming off a stomach bug from the week before and ds and I got it Thursday. I am still recovering today - so I’ll take this as my penance. Can’t say I’ve learned my lesson, selflessness and generosity/service are not qualities I grew up w/, so I guess this is one I’ll keep revisiting like the people in Egypt who wandered around for 40 yrs! May never get this right this side of heaven!!!

 

[Brenda_V]

I’ll keep revisiting like the people in Egypt who wandered around for 40 yrs! May never get this right this side of heaven!!!

But your not going to give up either are you .

Remember a Saint is only someone like one of us who just picked themselves up from sin, brushed themselves off, asked for forgiveness and moved on to try to do better (and then repeat).

Brenda V.