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I feel awful about this now
I needed a email account to email my homework home. My parents wouldnt let get a gmail ,and they couldn’t give me there password. So, i made a secret one. now i am worried and guilty. I already confessed, but keep having to use it more and more. also when i get one it bugs moms homepage, and i cant fix it. if you know how to fix igoogle, tell me please!:confused:😦 also some people i know want to have a joint email account so i might need to make another if i cant get out of it!::::
 
If you need an email account to email homework too…your parents won’t let you get it?

I’m a bit confused. If it’s for school tell them this. They set it up, they know the password, they have access to it 24/7-what’s the issue?
 
Rascalking said:
If you need an email account to email homework too…your parents won’t let you get it?

I’m a bit confused. If it’s for school tell them this. They set it up, they know the password, they have access to it 24/7-what’s the issue?
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i agree…just get your parents to set you up an email account…let them have access to all passwords etc, and then everybody is happy…have they said why they are against it?
maybe you could get a teacher or a friends mother to talk with them?
 
I said that a while ago, and they didn’t care or listen.
 
Trust is hard to establish, and easy to destroy.

You need to tell your parents about the e-mail account and provide them the passwords.

Then you need to show them some documentation from the school about needing to send homework home via e-mail. A letter from your teacher, the assignment sheet indicating it’s necessary etc.

Now, your parents may insist that the homework is e-mailed to their account and they then copy it to a folder on the computer for you. That’s their perogative. They may insist you delete/end your e-mail account. Again, their perogative. But by telling them, and then abiding by their decisions on how to get your homework via e-mail- theirs or yours- you will start to re-establish trust that will be hurt by the fact you already did something you know they didn’t want you to do.

Do you want them monitoring all your time on the computer? Installing spy software? (keyloggers etc.?) Will they be able to trust you when you tell them where you’re going? By doing what you’ve done, you’ve given them a reason to start lose confidence in their ability to trust you. Believe me, you don’t want that.
 
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Then get your teacher involved and have them tell your parents you need the email address.
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I agree with getting the teacher involved, but I don’t think it’s ok to direct the teacher on what the parents must do. That’s worse than trying to be your parents’ boss. It’s going to an external authority to come between you and your parents, severing trust perhaps for many years to come, so you can tell THEM what THEY must do.

I know you don’t feel that way, but that’s the way it comes across to most parents, I’d guess. I have 6 wonderful children of my own age 14-24 and I have seen a few tricks here and there.

Anyway, I promise I’m not cutting you down. Please forgive me if I come across that way, I am guilty of the sin of trying to “fix” people. :o

Anyway, try being honest with everybody. Shut down the email account, talk to your confessor or priest for advice on whether you need to tell Mom and Dad … then again it also depends on whether they have any way … any way at all that they might find out. You don’t want to take a chance at trust. Like one boss told me, “it takes vast numbers of ‘attaboys’ to make up for one ‘oops’.”

Then go to your teacher, and if your teacher doesn’t listen, to your principal or counselor or whomever it is, not to get the teacher into trouble, but to ask advice. “Ma’am, I have a problem and I wish you could help guide me about how I should proceed. My teacher says that I am required to get emailings, but my parents will not allow me to get an email account, even after several times I’ve talked about it with them. Can you suggest what I might do?” If the teacher, just say, “My parents will not allow me to have email sent to me from anywhere, and they are adamant about it. Is there any other way I could receive the assignments”

Apologies if this was already in the thread, but another thing to do might be to ask your parents if your teacher can send you required emails to THEIR account, and then your parents could print it out for you?

Alan
 
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