Hah. Sure. You know the best what she wanted from you. I thought perhaps it was some kind of a not so very smart comment about your position. Guess I just wanted to try and defend the stranger. Certainly wouldn’t like to be dug for money, though I can imagine someone saying that kind of thing as a compliment or some expression of awe, especially if she was poor.
The only reason I was given to justify a woman evaluating a man’s income was for a woman to evaluate if the man could support the family while she would be a stay-at-home-mom. I guess that would be an interesting conversation starter to really cut to the chase:
But didn’t you know from reading the posts here - we are not supposed to do anything, we have no say in it - if it is meant to be, a spouse will be sent our way and dropped in our laps!
Not sure if I’m able to get my point across, but let’s say:
I’ve tried things, but not that kind.
Generally, if I make a public pro-life comment, I’m set for ever after in a given environment.I think that might be a better approach than you might realize. If you have a particular idea of what you want, you should probably be very up front about it. Especially if what you want is not what “most” people want.
That’s interesting–I also worry about the types of young ladies that are out there now, for my son. My son being the shy type, I wonder if he’ll be the one to approach. My daughter being very outgoing…has always ridden bikes with boys in the neighborhoods we’ve lived and are living in–I wonder if she’ll be forward enough to ask a boy out.
I never asked a boy out, and I think that there’s something old fashioned about a boy making that first move…however, I teach my kids to be friends first…hang out in groups–that might make things easier, when they decide to date some day. 
I kinda agree with that. I think that if as the woman, you are making the first move, many (not all) guys will expect you to make ‘their’ decisions for him. I have a close girlfriend, who asked her husband to marry her once upon a time, and she wonders why he is not good at making decisions, doesn’t do anything without her say so, and relies on her to do everything. I think that it sets a tone in a relationship. To each’s own. I’m sure there are many cases where it works, but I always believed (and still do) that the guy should make the first move. I think that if a guy is interested, he’ll ask. Just my thoughts.
I’ll tend to agree, on second thought, even though I intended to say something different when I clicked “post reply”. I don’t actually like an all-passive reaction without feedback, but if I’m interested enough, I’ll sooner or later make the move. If I don’t make the move, means I wasn’t interested enough. However, in many cases I won’t pursue an acquaintance any further because of zero reaction. From the point of view of compatibility, this is probably better anyway.
