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As someone who has been discerning for a couple of years, my main reason for preferring habits is entirely pragmatic: they’re just about impossible to miss! If I spot a woman in a habit (after Mass, in a Catholic bookshop or wherever), I immediately go over and say hello, mention that I’m discerning, ask about her Order and perhaps how she came to be called to religious life, and find out if they have a website where I can learn more. Often they’re from nursing Orders, which isn’t really me, but it’s always worth looking - and they’re invariably lovely people. (I had a lot of fun on World Youth Day this year doing the same thing. It became something of a running joke for me that I couldn’t even make it to the sheds to fill my water-bottle without meeting a Sister and collecting another swag of vocations brochures en route.)
On the other hand, I think unless you already know a non-habited woman is a Sister, she’s much easier to miss, so you lose that opportunity. Once or twice, I’ve seen women leaving churches while I’ve been engaged in conversation or occupied with something, and someone will call out, “Bye, Sister,” leaving me thinking she’s a Religious? Oh rats, I missed her! If I’d known in advance that she was a Sister, I’d have been able to clear some time to talk to her. (And then I wonder how many Sisters attended the same Mass as I did without my knowing - if they’re sitting in front of you, you don’t see the lapel pins.) Of course, on the occasions when I meet Sisters who don’t wear the habit, they’re also invariably kind and delighted to talk about their vocations, but it’s just a bit harder to find them in the first place!
On the other hand, I think unless you already know a non-habited woman is a Sister, she’s much easier to miss, so you lose that opportunity. Once or twice, I’ve seen women leaving churches while I’ve been engaged in conversation or occupied with something, and someone will call out, “Bye, Sister,” leaving me thinking she’s a Religious? Oh rats, I missed her! If I’d known in advance that she was a Sister, I’d have been able to clear some time to talk to her. (And then I wonder how many Sisters attended the same Mass as I did without my knowing - if they’re sitting in front of you, you don’t see the lapel pins.) Of course, on the occasions when I meet Sisters who don’t wear the habit, they’re also invariably kind and delighted to talk about their vocations, but it’s just a bit harder to find them in the first place!
