I was trying to get your attention and I succeeded.
The problem is that even deacons don’t know the difference between a nun and a sister. In fact, most diocesan priests don’t know the difference. Remember, these men are not religious. They are secular, just like you. They are not formed in the theology and laws of the religious life. They call any woman in vows “a nun”.
Nuns and monnks live an enclosed life of silence, solitude, prayer and community. The highlight of their life is the LOTH, which is the crown around the mass.
What do they do the rest of the day?
Very little. They are usually quite wealthy. Nuns and monks do not have private or personal property, but they have communal property, be it land, factories on their grounds, monastery schools or monastery colleges. These provide enough income for them to live.
They usually engage in some form of work three or four hours a day and that’s it. This can be anything from making vestments to making videos for EWTN. The rest of their day, when they’re not in chapel for adoration or the LOTH, they play tennis, golf, walk, write, read, do private prayer, engage in hobbies.
The focus of their life is Christ. They are not very interested in what happens out here. That’s not to say that they don’t care about us. Actually, they give up their entire life for their salvation and that of the world.
However, they are not interested in knowing every detail about the world outside of the monastery. For example, when the sexual abuse scandal broke, most of them thought it was a horrible thing. They prayed over it and talked about it for 20 minutes and moved on.
When people talk and worry about abuses in the liturgy, they just look at each other and say, “It’s not our problem.” Even this discussion about habits, to them it’s a joke. Some cloistered communities of men or women wear them and some don’t. Some wear then part of the time. This has nothing to do with them or their Church. Their Church is the Church of heaven.
To us, this sounds very strange to us. But they have been called to the highest form of religious life. They have been called to do two things.
a. To die a slow death on a cross, by submitting themselves to total and unquestioning obedience of the abbot or abbess.
b. To live like the angels and saints, in constant praise of God
Most monks and nuns never receive visitors and they never leave their houses. There are some who do: Benedictines, Visitandines and Poor Clares. Even these folks, leave their houses to do very specific tasks and then return.
Don’t misunderstand, nuns thoroughly enjoy themselves when they do go outside of the monastery. I remember Mother Angelica enjoying a good meal at a restaurant and enjoying sight-seeing when she was going around trying to raise funds for EWTN. I other words, they don’t hate the world or consider the world to be corrupt and sinful. Just the opposite. They love the world and they enjoy their encounters with the world, because they don’t pay attention to the negatives.
As you can see, the don’t engage in apostolic work. Their apostolate is to become saints.
Fraternally,
Br. JR, OSF