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just_me_1
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I hear you!
I just got married this past summer. we agreed to use NFP. guess what? I think I am pregnant. I have been putting off taking a test… I am so scared. we can’t afford to have a baby, money is so tight, and I can’t afford to not work, how am I supposed to pay for daycare?! we have no family close to us to help out. and besides, I know everyone will think we “should have waited.” I am dreading telling them.
I don’t know what to tell you other than the idea that “I should have been more careful” keeps coming to mind. especially since NFP was basically my choice. my husband, who’s more of a cafeteria catholic, would have been fine with the pill or whatever. but then, of course, I feel insanely guilty for not appreciating God’s gift to us. and so many couples want a child so badly and can’t conceive! I feel so guilty and selfish. I pray and ask for forgiveness but I can’t help but consider using something after the baby is born… (we won’t, it’s just a nagging thing in the back of my mind) we want kids, we both love kids, we’re just (like everyone) in a financial mess and wanted to have our feet under us first!
it’s even worse in our culture today. career first, then kids, right? or contraception being so mainstream. and my girlfriends (like your doctors) looked at me like I had 3 heads when I told them we were using NFP… now they can say I told you so.
I dunno what to tell ya girl, but I hear you exactly. It’s hard today, not like we’re all housewives anymore. and diapers and formula and daycare isn’t getting any cheaper!
I just got married this past summer. we agreed to use NFP. guess what? I think I am pregnant. I have been putting off taking a test… I am so scared. we can’t afford to have a baby, money is so tight, and I can’t afford to not work, how am I supposed to pay for daycare?! we have no family close to us to help out. and besides, I know everyone will think we “should have waited.” I am dreading telling them.
I don’t know what to tell you other than the idea that “I should have been more careful” keeps coming to mind. especially since NFP was basically my choice. my husband, who’s more of a cafeteria catholic, would have been fine with the pill or whatever. but then, of course, I feel insanely guilty for not appreciating God’s gift to us. and so many couples want a child so badly and can’t conceive! I feel so guilty and selfish. I pray and ask for forgiveness but I can’t help but consider using something after the baby is born… (we won’t, it’s just a nagging thing in the back of my mind) we want kids, we both love kids, we’re just (like everyone) in a financial mess and wanted to have our feet under us first!
it’s even worse in our culture today. career first, then kids, right? or contraception being so mainstream. and my girlfriends (like your doctors) looked at me like I had 3 heads when I told them we were using NFP… now they can say I told you so.
I dunno what to tell ya girl, but I hear you exactly. It’s hard today, not like we’re all housewives anymore. and diapers and formula and daycare isn’t getting any cheaper!