Hair, Jewellery and Make Up

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When I was younger, I use to wear make up a lot. And in the past, when all the coloured earrings and matching necklaces first came out, I would by a set to match a lot of my outfits. And when blue nail polish came back in the 90s ! Woo Hoo I had a nice collection.

However, these past few years, I really couldn’t be bothered with all that stuff. My hair was always thin and unmanegeable and now that I am 46 I am growing out the colour to see what I look like. I am probably 50% grey and I actually am looking forward to see what it looks like

As for jewellery and make up, I just don’t feel it is worth the time in the morning. I wear a cross around my neck and a watch. I always have a nice dress or skirt and blouse, but no bells and whistles.

I see other women with nice jewellery, alse eyelashes, manicures and nice makeup. I think they look great. I go home and put on makeup and as much as it looks nice, it really doesn’t feel like it is worth the 4 minutes it took:p

Today I bought a blue dress. I was looking at the blue earrings and necklaces (on sale) and it just did not seem worth it to drop $15 (which is not much) on something that would just sit in a drawer because after 2 wearings, I know I would not bother anymore.

So, I am wondering ‘do all women tone done on these things when they get older?’ I doubt it because my mom who lives in a seniors home wears a very nice necklace every day. Or, is becoming closer to God making me less materialistic?

how do other women around my age or older feel about this?

Angie
 
Anglewannabe said:
When I was younger, I use to wear make up a lot. And in the past, when all the coloured earrings and matching necklaces first came out, I would by a set to match a lot of my outfits. And when blue nail polish came back in the 90s ! Woo Hoo I had a nice collection.

However, these past few years, I really couldn’t be bothered with all that stuff. My hair was always thin and unmanegeable and now that I am 46 I am growing out the colour to see what I look like. I am probably 50% grey and I actually am looking forward to see what it looks like

As for jewellery and make up, I just don’t feel it is worth the time in the morning. I wear a cross around my neck and a watch. I always have a nice dress or skirt and blouse, but no bells and whistles.

I see other women with nice jewellery, alse eyelashes, manicures and nice makeup. I think they look great. I go home and put on makeup and as much as it looks nice, it really doesn’t feel like it is worth the 4 minutes it took:p

Today I bought a blue dress. I was looking at the blue earrings and necklaces (on sale) and it just did not seem worth it to drop $15 (which is not much) on something that would just sit in a drawer because after 2 wearings, I know I would not bother anymore.

So, I am wondering ‘do all women tone done on these things when they get older?’ I doubt it because my mom who lives in a seniors home wears a very nice necklace every day. Or**, is becoming closer to God making me less materialistic?**

how do other women around my age or older feel about this?

Angie
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The bolded is a possibility, but I want to point out two cautions: be careful about the Devil using this as an avenue for you to be prideful or make judgments about people who are particular about appearance, and consider that not taking care of yourself can be a sign of depression.
 
On a more fun note, I love “capsule wardrobes,” which is basically putting together a small number of items that are all compatible to create many different outfit possibilities. If I can’t wear it with almost everything, I don’t buy it. 😉
 
I don’t think that not wearing makeup and jewellery is not taking care of oneself. In fact, as for makeup, some people do not wear makeup because that’s how they chose to take care of themselves after being aware of the ingredients in the products that are absorbed through the skin and pass to the bloodstream.

Jewellery isn’t a necessity , it’s a luxury.

It might be that you are becoming unattached to worldly things of this world, and that’s good!
 
pensmama87 said:
The bolded is a possibility, but I want to point out two cautions: be careful about the Devil using this as an avenue for you to be prideful or make judgments about people who are particular about appearance, and consider that not taking care of yourself can be a sign of depression.
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Oh, I am not being prideful at all. I often comment about how I just love their jewellery, nails, etc and ask where they get it. I remember asking a cashier who wasn’t busy to tell me how she did her make up. When I see on other women, I am envious and would love to wear those things. When it comes to actually wearing it, I just don’t like it on me anymore
 
pensmama87 said:
On a more fun note, I love “capsule wardrobes,” which is basically putting together a small number of items that are all compatible to create many different outfit possibilities. If I can’t wear it with almost everything, I don’t buy it. 😉
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I rarely have luck with that. I can’t count how many times I got really cheap nice clothes at the salvation army. Eg once I got a really nice pair of beige cords. And then I would spend a fortune in regular stores to find something to wear with it
 
I’d just say to be a little careful when you become aware that you don’t want to exert an effort on behalf of your own grooming that you once did. If you start to get depressed, you can quit making the efforts, then you see yourself in the mirror looking dumpy and your home not looking as cared-for and you don’t get that little pick-up from things looking nice, and it gets to be a self-reinforcing spiral in the wrong direction. You do need to look like you care, and in fact you do need to care and take the time to put some effort into your own care.

Once your hair becomes grey, you need to be more particular about your grooming, if anything. Un-kept young and healthy hair can look carefree, whereas un-kept and unhealthy grey hair just looks old and aging fast. Older hands with ratty nails look quite different than young hands with ratty nails. Notice I didn’t say you need elaborate make-up or jewelry. I said groomed, not done up. Too much make-up or extreme make-up coloring also looks quite different on an older woman than on a younger one. No, I only mean that it is in your own interest to keep making the effort to look to yourself as if you are keeping yourself up. A “dialed down” look is fine, and many women do that as they get older without looking at all as if they “let themselves go.”
 
I think it’s something we learn from our mothers or other significant women in our life. My own mum wore no make-up, didn’t colour her grey hair, didn’t wear jewellery apart from her wedding ring and a watch. She wore homely clothes and flat shoes. My gran was the same.

I’m the same, with the addition of little earrings, mum’s wedding ring and a couple of bits of simple jewellery, which I never take off. I’m simply not interested in all that extra stuff, I feel it detracts from “me”.

My mum-in-law, on the other hand is very concerned about her appearance, hair and clothes, even aged 80. She tells me her mother taught her to be that way. She still paints her nails and sometimes has her toenails painted!
 
I’m in my 30s but I wanted to answer because I think it’s individual.
I did not wear much make up when young but my face drooped and eyes misshaped and I aged rapidly from stress etc so now I wear pretty heavy eye makeup and occasionally foundation etc but not often because I like to let my skin breath.
That’s my personal choice and I wear it mainly because of insecurity.
Some women wear make up because of insecurity, some do it because they find joy in looking nice, and other due to trying to mold to social norms/social expectations.
I think the last one the worst reason to wear make up because it promotes a society where women are encouraged to care excessively about what others think of them.

I dont think you need to “look like you care” to others un less you are going for a job interview or something where they may presume(rightly or wrongly) that if your not polished in your appearance that you will also be “careless” about your job.

All that is important is that you make sure your motivation is not from depression and then if it isn’t it’s your personal choice whether you want to wear make up or not.

I think women naturally have different personalities with some preferring glamour and others being more “natural hippy like” or sporty etc.
So wearing or not wearing make up depends on those personality factors too.

I think wearing make up has rarely to do with materialism but at the same time maybe some people highly focused on spiritual things naturally have less interest in makeup and expensive clothes etc (like nuns).

My opinion is that everyone should just be themselves and not judge whether someone wears make up or doesn’t wear make up or whether they have cosmetic surgery or don’t have cosmetic surgery etc.

I don’t think that a woman should wear make up (or not wear make up) to please a social expectation and if a “granny” wants to wear bold lipstick or rainbow eyeshadow should that really be an issue?😉
 
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I don’t think that not wearing makeup and jewellery is not taking care of oneself. In fact, as for makeup, some people do not wear makeup because that’s how they chose to take care of themselves after being aware of the ingredients in the products that are absorbed through the skin and pass to the bloodstream.

Jewellery isn’t a necessity , it’s a luxury.

It might be that you are becoming unattached to worldly things of this world, and that’s good!
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I think that this is a nice post. 🙂

I have very sensitive facial skin, and it has a tendency to also be allergic, so I don’t wear much make-up anymore for that reason.

I do like to wear fragrance though, so I normally will wear some type of light fragrance.

My hair is long so I do like to wear it in different ways, or put various hair accessories in it.
 
No I don’t think all women who are over a certain age stop caring about thier appearance or put less effort into it.

I have seen much younger women stop caring too.

As for me and one particular friend, both of us over 46 take very good care of our appearance, including hair makeup weight and so on… but we have been wired this way.

I don’t equate this to any lack of spirituality. Everyone runs thier own race kwim?
 
OK; Iam well over 70 now and stopped bothering with make up and hairdos decades ago.

I live and lived in remote places where the weather was harsh,and self sufficiency means being out in all weathers…The goat and chickens do nor care about how you look as long as you have their food… Oh I live and am alone too. And almost no social life. First I let my hair grow long and cared for it, then started to cover for ease and comfort.

Surely all of this does depend on your situation ? I am among people less than once a week and make sure then I am neat and clean etc. Nails trimmed etc! Love warm pretty nightwear which now all comes from charity shops…
 
My daughters are both in the Beauty industry, as Estheticians and Makeup artists…so we get a lot of samples and followers on their blogs and YouTube channels.
So…yeah. We do it up.
But I have minimalized my routine to what works for me. I do look forward to “no makeup days”.
But I never ever wear costume jewelry…only the real deal for me.
The girls are going to cash in big when I die…LOL
 
Rosebud77 said:
OK; Iam well over 70 now and stopped bothering with make up and hairdos decades ago.

I live and lived in remote places where the weather was harsh,and self sufficiency means being out in all weathers…The goat and chickens do nor care about how you look as long as you have their food… Oh I live and am alone too. And almost no social life. First I let my hair grow long and cared for it, then started to cover for ease and comfort.

Surely all of this does depend on your situation ? I am among people less than once a week and make sure then I am neat and clean etc. Nails trimmed etc! Love warm pretty nightwear which now all comes from charity shops…
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I’m with you! I wear old clothes at home - neither husband or animals care. I’m not good at putting colors & styles together, so when I get a blouse/skirt combo figured out, that’s the way I always wear it. I used to wear makeup, but stopped years ago. You’re the first person I’ve “met” who also covers for convenience - I don’t have to worry about how sloppy my bun is. 🙂
 
I’ll be 47.

I’m a stay at home mom.

Some days its ponytail and sweats.

Some days as my sister puts it, “time to look fierce”. So that means hair styled, make up and accessories.

I don’t look fierce frequently.

If I worked out of the home, I’d probably wear make up more frequently.
 
I’m an elementary teacher and in the building where I work, we keep things pretty casual. Very few of our staff come in heavily made up. I think most use some foundation or whatever you call it and maybe some eyeliner, but many of them don’t wear anything except for parent teacher conferences or something like that. Hair-do’s tend to depend on the age of the teacher and range from elaborate, braided, asymmetrical displays, to simple bobcuts, to ponytails. I remember when I was a kid, you could smell my mom down the hall from all the stuff she put on her face to go to work in the kitchen of a retirement home! In her mind, all that stuff made her professional. Nowadays, she wears a much more natural look to work and she has ditched the heals due to plantar fasciitis. I think there’s a general trend toward a more natural look, although over-the-top accessories seem to be in. A lot of my coworkers LOVE Charming Charlie. I tend to go in there like the OP and buy stuff that looks adorable and never remember to wear it. Anyway, my kids would use it to strangle me. They both grab at jewelry.
 
I work at home (writing and housework), so I only wear make-up when I go out, but I never go out without it because I don’t want people looking at my facial flaws, I want them to see me. After all, that’s what make-up and jewelry are for–to enhance appearance, not to radically change it.

I once heard that one should dress, do make-up and jewelry in such a way that it draws attention to one’s eyes, because our eyes are our main mode of silent communication, and say more about who we are than anything else. So, that’s what I try to do. I don’t know how successful I’ve been, but people tend to look first into my eyes rather than at what I’m wearing, so I think I may have cracked it. 😉
 
Della said:
I once heard that one should dress, do make-up and jewelry in such a way that it draws attention to one’s eyes, because our eyes are our main mode of silent communication, and say more about who we are than anything else.
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When I was able to wear contacts people noticed my eyes - not so much with glasses. 😉
 
I wear makeup only if my husband and I are going out somewhere nice. Since wearing no makeup is my normal state, I just tend to look ‘extra nice’ when I wear it (or so I’m told), as opposed to looking tired/sickly without it.

I never wear jewelry.

I’m pretty sure I’ve got a fair amount of gray hair by now, but I never see it since I get my hair done every 4-5 weeks. If my hair is covered, it is almost always between week 4 and 5, since my roots are absolutely awful by that point. :o
 
Anglewannabe said:
When I was younger, I use to wear make up a lot. And in the past, when all the coloured earrings and matching necklaces first came out, I would by a set to match a lot of my outfits. And when blue nail polish came back in the 90s ! Woo Hoo I had a nice collection.

However, these past few years, I really couldn’t be bothered with all that stuff. My hair was always thin and unmanegeable and now that I am 46 I am growing out the colour to see what I look like. I am probably 50% grey and I actually am looking forward to see what it looks like

As for jewellery and make up, I just don’t feel it is worth the time in the morning. I wear a cross around my neck and a watch. I always have a nice dress or skirt and blouse, but no bells and whistles.

I see other women with nice jewellery, alse eyelashes, manicures and nice makeup. I think they look great. I go home and put on makeup and as much as it looks nice, it really doesn’t feel like it is worth the 4 minutes it took:p

Today I bought a blue dress. I was looking at the blue earrings and necklaces (on sale) and it just did not seem worth it to drop $15 (which is not much) on something that would just sit in a drawer because after 2 wearings, I know I would not bother anymore.

So, I am wondering ‘do all women tone done on these things when they get older?’ I doubt it because my mom who lives in a seniors home wears a very nice necklace every day. Or, is becoming closer to God making me less materialistic?

how do other women around my age or older feel about this?

Angie
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I can see stream-lining one’s beauty routine for convenience and cost purposes.

However, if I were single, I would not streamline too much. Not sure if you are single, but if so, I would keep coloring my hair and wearing make-up. Jewelry not necessary.
 
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