Hallowe’en (I prefer the older spelling) is a great, fun holiday. Our parochial school always celebrated it (mixed with El Dia de Los Muertos traditions, as I grew up in a largely Mexican-American neighborhood), and the priests had no problem with it and enjoyed it even as we kids did. It is a great way for children to learn to handle fears - of death, the unknown, the other (i.e., monsters) - in a safe way. We can treat it with a certain disdain and even mockery, as we know it’s not an end, just a beginning (a good one, we hope).
This is, I think, a good thing. We’re Catholics, we shouldn’t be afraid of death. This is the Capuchin Crypt you can visit beneath the Church of the Immaculate Conception on Via Veneto. The monks’ bones were assembled into tableaus to represent their disdain for the secular idea of death as the end. (Cappucino coffee is named after the color of the monk’s robes, by the way):
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We save bones as relics of saints, we talk about their bloody and spectacular martyrdoms (the dates we celebrate as their feast days, instead of their birthdays), we live partly in this world and partly in the next. We care enough about our dead that we still consider them part of our Church, whether the Church Suffering or the Church Triumphant, and include them in our prayers and devotions. Some of the greatest works of Catholic artists (Dante, Hieronymus Bosch) are devoted to death, hell, purgatory, and the afterlife. There are traditions that we, as Catholics, celebrate in association with death, and Hallowe’en can be one of them. There are modern parts (vandalism, inappropriate costumes, Reformation Day celebrations) that I don’t like, but it’s a good holiday at it’s core. Talk to your kids about All Saints’ Day, All Souls’ Day, and why it’s a part of our culture.
Plus, candy corn!