Hard to embrace NFP

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There are very happy marriages where people, because of distance, deployments, disease, disability, must abstain. The people I have met in those situations are very deeply in love, one has to be to make such a sacrifice.
 
TheLittleLady said:
There are very happy marriages where people, because of distance, deployments, disease, disability, must abstain. The people I have met in those situations are very deeply in love, one has to be to make such a sacrifice.
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Of course – no one here is claiming differently. But this is not the natural state a marriage is called to by God and the Church.
 
You might want to rephrase that “no happily married person” would support years of abstinence. I would very much support any one to that chastity if they found themselves in need of it. I was happily married until last August.
 
TheLittleLady said:
You might want to rephrase that “no happily married person” would support years of abstinence. I would very much support any one to that chastity if they found themselves in need of it. I was happily married until last August.
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I said no happily married person would suggest years of abstinence.
 
This comment is not helpful. Even if it is true for you in practice, sex is incredibly important theologically speaking. Calling it overrated without specifying how attacks and devalues that.
 
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Le_Crouton said:
I’m not married and I’ll concede that maybe it’s different when you are in a sacramentally valid marriage where someone truly loves you and is in love with you but in my experience it feels good on a basal, purely pleasurable level.
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Holy cow, yes!!! You should be celibate now. But there is something totally different that awaits you should you ever marry.
 
OP, NFP does work. It’s not 💯 though, so your only guarantee to never get pregnant again is abstinence. I am married to a non Catholic who never wanted to do NFP but went along with it for my sake. After baby is born is going to be interesting. I’m not young young but a waaaay off menopause yet. He is quite prepared to be abstinent, as another child isn’t really an option to us either. Plus to be totally honest altho he is open to it he really doesn’t want another one - didn’t ‘want’ this one although now he is really on board and looking forward. You will need to really be united on this one and if possible talk to a pastor. Even harder if you both not catholic I just got very Very lucky with my tolerant and understanding husband - if the shoe were on the other foot I would not be willing to give ground the same way he has for me.
 
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Mary19 said:
Remember I am sinner and new to this teaching.
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Others can give you good Catholic advice, I just want to say be careful with this. Saying we are sinners doesn’t really remove the responsibility to not sin. I’ve heard that a few times outside an abortion mill. Yes I am a sinner but Jesus loves me and understands my situation so…

Praying for you.
 
To add to that tho, it’s still possible to have sex with someone you’re in love with and it be a sin if you’re not married and again, that causes spiritual damage you will eventually become aware of
 
However, Philip Rivers might be a good NFL NFP contact. He’s an outspoken, practicing Catholic.
 
However, the providential method does not make one a better Catholic than those who use moral means to avoid pregnancy.
 
TheLittleLady said:
However, the providential method does not make one a better Catholic than those who use moral means to avoid pregnancy.
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I doubt if Rivers has a method called the Providential method.
I think he is probably acknowledging the primacy of God’s grace in his married life, rather than espousing a careless un-planned marital relations. He may be using NFP while acknowledging God’s grace. I don’t know him so…
 
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