Has anyone here done a fast from dating?

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If so how did it go and why did you decide to fast from dating?

I’m not dating because I’m focusing on my health and career. And it’s helping my spiritual life too
 
When I was in my early 20’s I had a bad relationship with an emotionally abusive man.

After it ended, I made it a point to not date anyone until I felt confident enough to realize how I deserved to be treated.

So I guess about 2 years or so passed where I didn’t date anyone at all, at my decision.
 
I’ve done it. I sort of had to in the beginning. A guy with SSA can get into more than a few hangups when he’s also trying to follow the Church on all things principled.

And when I got to a point where I could accept dating women? I’ve been off and on with that too. I think it can help in some cases, but you really need to have some decent reasons too. Right now my switch is clearly in the off position.

But I also know one girl who fasted from dating for over 10 years due to health and wanting to discern her call. I think in the end she just grew inward instead of outward. And not in a good way. She stagnated and later when she tried to reach out she realized her issues had only multiplied instead of easing off. Instead of getting clarity in the end she found she’d just muddied the water to the point where dating was too far outside her comfort zone to follow up with later.

So I just caution you to do it for reasons that makes sense? But also to just not hold onto that for too far long if your end goal isn’t to be single.

Peace LC. Good luck with it.
 
I stopped dating when I was about 25 and didn’t date again until my mid 30s.
 
I did speed dating once back in 2003. Fun, but it didn’t lead me to the Catholic wife I wanted and now have.

Wait, you asked about an fast FROM dating? Nvmd…
 
You don’t need a lot of dates to fast from something that has control over you

Jesus had perfect control and was not a glutton but even He fasted
 
I did around age 20. I had been in a couple really toxic relationships, and I felt I was in a rut because I wasn’t really ready to be dating. I had low self-esteem and lacked confidence. All the wrong sorts of men were attracted to the vulnerable person I was. So, I stopped dating for a year and focused on my faith and my self-image. It was the best thing I could have done.

At the end of that year, I met the man who would become my husband.
 
My husband and I started to date. I knew him as a friend for a few years by then.
 
The point is that its probably not really an issue if you think about it. If a relationship ends there should be a natural break. Not “thank you next” there are many on the forums who cant seem to find a date but you sound like its feast or famine to you. The term fast here is interesting and I think wrong.
 
I’m deliberately abstaining from pursuing dates or relationships. I see it as a fast.
 
Well that seems an odd terminoligy. But it begs the question don Juan, what if a woman who would be your wife or match wanted a date during this “fast” you would tell her no? No wonder there’s thread after thread of people who struggle with dating!
 
Yeah I would say no because I’m not ready right now. I have other things I need to accomplish and fix in my life first.
 
That can be hurtful to others. I find the whole idea silly. Take a break, sure. Date less because you are more discerning and serious and understanding of your goal with dating, fine. But offering it as a “fast” seems odd.
 
Don’t see how it’s hurtful to anyone. It’s my life. Right now I’m intentionally giving it up to focus on other stuff.
 
That sounds wise and smart when you take the “fasting” word out.
 
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