Has anyone here ever prayed to be with someone?

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I don’t mean “Please send me a nice person”, but “Please let me be (back) together with (specific person).”

I have been doing so for a long time, really fervently. I feel a bit selfish and childish for doing so, because I am sapping all my “prayer resources” away from other people, and focusing only towards myself…

Anyway, I asked God to either let us be together (my ex-girlfriend, who is not Catholic) or to let me forget her completely. I just want resolution. I’m wary of the fact that we should not be pursuing the lusts of our eyes or our hearts, which is why I asked Him to make me forget, if we cannot be together…

So because of the fact I have not been able to forget her, thinking about her every single day (without fail !!) for almost 3 years now, I took that as a sign that God will allow us to be together.

However, from an objective standpoint, the cards are really stacked against me. She is still really angry…

So has anyone ever done this? Asked God to be with a specific person?

I met an extremely devout guy who was much like me. Never really thought much about God as an adult. Drank and partied and caroused with as many women as he could get. But he changed, as have I. So he told me a story of seeing one girl when visiting his home, praying to meet her, and now they are married. His story lifted me up a bit (I say a bit, since I don’t really get too down over this), so I know it happens…but apparently she was also a very faithful girl and praying for God to send her someone as well. This may be the big difference in our situations…

Anyway, for several reasons I had been through a pretty rough time right when we broke up, and after breaking up, I realized two things (some of you may remember me saying this before): a) I realized that my feelings over losing her - anger, jealousy, sadness - were the product of my deep love for her; and b) I realized that this is how God might feel when we turn away from Him (this feeling is probably deeper for those with kids when their kids turn on them, but this is the closest I have come, anyway).

So in the end, my rationale is that this girl helped bring me closer to God, so it would be nice to help her do the same, which would happen if we were together… 🙂
 
I wanted to let you know I identified with part of your post but wanted to offer you a suggestion. Instead of praying that you get back together, you might want to try praying for God`s will to be done, and for what is best for both of you to happen. It might also be helpful to ask God to help you heal your heart and move forward. We never know what the future holds, but sometimes what we want, and what God wants is different. I know you love your ex-girlfriend, but God may have someone much more amazing picked out for you. Plus, you want her to be happy, and as hard as it is to accept, getting back together, might not be what is best for her, or ultimately for you.

I will keep you in my prayers.

Sincerely,
Maria1212
 
I concur with maria1212’s suggestions. Reflect and ask yourself, am I doing God’s will? Am I praying for God’s will to be done or my own?

I am glad you want to help your ex-girlfriend find the faith. Perhaps pray for her instead.

I often ask for things in prayer, but I always try to add “if it be Your will.” Also, don’t forget to pray in thanksgiving for the blessings God has already given you.

God bless,
Bryan
 
I agree with the other two posts.
Pray God’s will be done.

Lot of times, circumstances reveal God’s will.
After 3 years, your ex-girl friend is still angry and you are still breaking up, does not the circumstance tell something?

For your friend’s case, obviously God used the circumstance to confirm His will.

Move forward! God bless!
 
I agree with the others… pray that God’s will be done…

When I was young, my mom taught me to pray for my future husband… whoever he was, wherever he was, whatever he was doing… one day he would be MINE… so he deserved my prayers because everyone has difficulties in life that need prayers…

So pray for your future spouse… whoever she is, whatever she is doing… and pray that God leads her to you soon…

God bless!
 
Thank you for your posts, your blessings, and your prayers…

Of course, it’s always a caveat that whatever we ask for, that it be in accordance with God’s will.

This is why I asked for the alternative – to be able to forget. God could make me forget in a second, as He has made me able to forget all of the women I can find on the Internet every night, if you know what I mean.

Actually, I have oh-so-cheekily requested to be back together with her, not if it’s in God’s will, but if it is not against God’s will. 🙂

This is what I’ve requested…
 
InLight247 said:
I agree with the other two posts.
Pray God’s will be done.

Lot of times, circumstances reveal God’s will.
After 3 years, your ex-girl friend is still angry and you are still breaking up, does not the circumstance tell something?

For your friend’s case, obviously God used the circumstance to confirm His will.

Move forward! God bless!
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It has been said that love is like two sides of the same coin – love and hate. Like I said above, all those negative emotions I felt for her came out of my deep love for her. So after 3 years, the fact that she can still harbor such deep emotions against me tells me…well, it’s better than her being “lukewarm”…

If circumstances revealed God’s will, then there would be no hope, no miracles. I am truly optimistic when I say “Sacred Heart of Jesus, I trust in you”. But other times, there are pangs of doubt…

Anyway, I just wanted to hear if anyone else has ever asked for something like this, and succeeded…
 
bscastro said:
I concur with maria1212’s suggestions. Reflect and ask yourself, am I doing God’s will? Am I praying for God’s will to be done or my own?

I am glad you want to help your ex-girlfriend find the faith. Perhaps pray for her instead.

I often ask for things in prayer, but I always try to add “if it be Your will.” Also, don’t forget to pray in thanksgiving for the blessings God has already given you.

God bless,
Bryan
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Good point, I try not to forget…
 
Maria1212 said:
I wanted to let you know I identified with part of your post but wanted to offer you a suggestion. Instead of praying that you get back together, you might want to try praying for God`s will to be done, and for what is best for both of you to happen. It might also be helpful to ask God to help you heal your heart and move forward. We never know what the future holds, but sometimes what we want, and what God wants is different. I know you love your ex-girlfriend, but God may have someone much more amazing picked out for you. Plus, you want her to be happy, and as hard as it is to accept, getting back together, might not be what is best for her, or ultimately for you.

I will keep you in my prayers.
Sincerely,
Maria1212
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Please do so, because once this is resolved, I can devote my “prayer resources” to more worthy causes… 🙂
 
Has anyone here ever prayed to be with someone?
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I am right now, actually… And its not like God wouldn’t want for it to happen (not that He does). So,
May God give you peace.

God love you,
tony
 
Em_in_FL said:
I agree with the others… pray that God’s will be done…

When I was young, my mom taught me to pray for my future husband… whoever he was, wherever he was, whatever he was doing… one day he would be MINE… so he deserved my prayers because everyone has difficulties in life that need prayers…

So pray for your future spouse… whoever she is, whatever she is doing… and pray that God leads her to you soon…

God bless!
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Well, “forgetting” can either be finding someone else spectacular, like I never could have expected, or becoming a priest, seriously. This is how I feel. So there are three alternatives. Two of them preferable, but I…am reluctant…regarding the third…
 
CSN said:
Please do so, because once this is resolved, I can devote my “prayer resources” to more worthy causes… 🙂
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You don’t have to wait until this is resolved then devote your prayer resources to more worthy causes.

Of course, we should earnestly pray for our own need. But I believe God likes to hear us pray for other worthy causes while we ourselves are in great need. The more Christ-centered and other-centered we are, the more blessings we may receive.
Intercede for others, and you will be blessed also.
Give, and it will be given to you. I am not saying you have not been doing so already, just a point to express.

God bless!
 
Yes, and it was a disaster. A definite case of be careful what you pray for!

I had much better results with praying for God to pick the right person for me, some who would be a good father, like St Jospeph. But I bet it would have been better to pray for God to lead me to doing his will in my life and in matters matrimonial as well.
 
havemercy said:
I am right now, actually… And its not like God wouldn’t want for it to happen (not that He does). So,
May God give you peace.

God love you,
tony
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Maybe God wants you to meet someone else, or to become a priest…
 
shirleytowers said:
Yes, and it was a disaster. A definite case of be careful what you pray for!

I had much better results with praying for God to pick the right person for me, some who would be a good father, like St Jospeph. But I bet it would have been better to pray for God to lead me to doing his will in my life and in matters matrimonial as well.
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I also have added a caveat for that contingency. E.g., “if she can be the one…”

Otherwise, you know all those magic genie jokes…
 
When I was in high school, I used to pray like that a lot. Now I thank God that he said no to some of those prayers. They would’ve been disastrous, even though I thought they were perfect at the time. Somewhere along the line I modified the prayer to “If this is the person you have in mind for me, please let me know it. If not, please let me know that as well.” It was frightening how quickly things would come up. When my husband and I got together, I knew he was the one and he knew the same about me. The funny thing is, I met him after the great prayer switch and thought he was the one, yet we never dated until a few years later. When we did get together the time was right and we were both ready for marriage. That was 28 years ago.

Looking back, I can see in my earlier prayers I was trying to impose my will on God (like I knew better than he did). Thankfully, he is smarter than I am and wanted what was best for me. Thankfully, too, I was consulting him about what he wanted, otherwise I shudder to think where and with whom I might have ended up.
 
crmcfl said:
When I was in high school, I used to pray like that a lot. Now I thank God that he said no to some of those prayers. They would’ve been disastrous, even though I thought they were perfect at the time. Somewhere along the line I modified the prayer to “If this is the person you have in mind for me, please let me know it. If not, please let me know that as well.” It was frightening how quickly things would come up. When my husband and I got together, I knew he was the one and he knew the same about me. The funny thing is, I met him after the great prayer switch and thought he was the one, yet we never dated until a few years later. When we did get together the time was right and we were both ready for marriage. That was 28 years ago.

Looking back, I can see in my earlier prayers I was trying to impose my will on God (like I knew better than he did). Thankfully, he is smarter than I am and wanted what was best for me. Thankfully, too, I was consulting him about what he wanted, otherwise I shudder to think where and with whom I might have ended up.
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Are you saying that when you prayed, you asked “Please let me be with xxx”, without any caveat or alternative? If so, then that is quite a bit different from what I’m doing. I think…
 
When I was a teenager I prayed for “anybody” because I was so lonely. That prayer was answered for a short time, to get me through my crisis, I think.

Thinking back on my own experience, when someone would break up with me, I would desire them even more. I think that is pretty common. I would start to imagine the person as something they actually weren’t. After 3 years, you may have fashioned this person into the perfect person that got away. Try to remember the things about her that annoyed you, etc., to get back to reality.

As far as prayer, you could pray for all single people to find their vocations in accordance with the will of God. This of course includes yourself, but you don’t have to feel guilty about only praying for yourself.

Peace.
 
Remember, love is a choice. You chose to be in love with this person, now you need to use your free will to choose not to be in love with this person. If it is an uncontrollable emotion, that is not real love -

Take the emotions you still have, these feelings, give them to God and leave them with Him. Don’t drag them back out and coddle them, or moon over them. Leave them 100% in God’s hands. When she comes to mind, remind your self that she is in God’s hands.

Imagine Jesus saying to you “I wanted to take care of this for you, but, you kept taking it back from Me!”

God has an amazing way of taking care of things, when we don’t try be His backseat driver!
 
Not to be too cheesy, but Garth Brooks’ song “Unanswered Prayers” comes to mind for this thread.
 
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