Have you ever corrected any one during mass?

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I have a wicked laser beam stare that I send my boys while they are on the altar as servers. I just know they can feel it burning through them when I notice them slumping.

Of course I think the moms probably notice the bad things more than anyone else does.

The absolute worst they have ever behaved was turning absolutely purple while trying to stifle laughter. The priest was somewhat reared back listening to the deacon in the homily and he evidently cut the cheese. He does have a flatulence problem, (I have also been a victim in the confessional.) But I wanted to go up and lay them out.
Maybe we should correct Padre to lay off the beans and cabbage.
 
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PJR:
I have a wicked laser beam stare that I send my boys while they are on the altar as servers. I just know they can feel it burning through them when I notice them slumping.

Of course I think the moms probably notice the bad things more than anyone else does.

The absolute worst they have ever behaved was turning absolutely purple while trying to stifle laughter. The priest was somewhat reared back listening to the deacon in the homily and he evidently cut the cheese. He does have a flatulence problem, (I have also been a victim in the confessional.) But I wanted to go up and lay them out.
Maybe we should correct Padre to lay off the beans and cabbage.
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This is too funny! I remember busting at the seams when I was a kid. Nothing in the world could stop the torrent of laughter in my body sometimes. It was actually my brother who always got me going.

My kids always refered to my correctional stare as the pop-eyes not laser beam.
 
As we were waiting for Christmas Eve mass to begin, the woman behind me pulled out her CELL PHONE and actually placed a call!!

I couldn’t believe it.

A bunch of us turned around and gave her a ‘look’…
 
I have corrected my own children numerous times for talking too loudly, slouching, etc. It is not easy to be at mass with children, and it is an effort each week. On this particular Sunday, however, I was in the cry room with my 17 mo. old while my husband was with our 3 other children in the church. I understand babies and noisy 2 & 3 year olds and even 4 & 5 year olds being in this room. The cry room had many parents and children that day. There were 3 or 4 children (about 7-10 years old- too old for the cry room, I think) who continually played on the rocking chair, giggling loudly, and running back and forth. It was time for the consecration, and I just couldn’t hold back. I leaned over and told them that their behavior was not ok in Mass and that they were very distracting. I don’t know if the parents even heard me (we were in the back of the room, and the parents were sitting elsewhere) but the children instantly stopped what they were doing. I believe that even though this is a room for noisy babies, etc., the Mass & priest & those around you should still be respected .
 
Asked a total stranger to stop chewing gum before he went up to receive Our Lord.
 
I voted No. But I wanted to. I was visiting a Church that I had never been to. I walked in, (I had come early) and I entered a pew and proceeded to kneel and pray. I noticed right off that there were quite a few people quietly praying on their knees. A few of them were nuns. Toward the front and to my left was where the Choir sat. There were about 4 or 5 people sitting there and their attention was on this man who was very loudly telling a joke. When he finally finished everyone laughed out loud. I felt like saying a loud SSHHHHH! with fingers to my lips. About that time the man got up and walked across the front of the pews and turned towards the congregation and I almost choked because the man telling jokes was the Parish Priest! I felt like leaving before Mass started but I didn’t. And I will never visit that Church again.:tsktsk: :nope: THE END:D
 
On Holy Thursday this year- at a pontifical Mass at our Cathedral, a child was running up and down the pews, and the woman with her (I doubt it was her mother- maybe a grandmother) knew what was going on, but didn’t get the kid to calm down. I stared her down, and would have said more, but the people I was with were irritated at me for making a big deal over it.

One time, a man broke off a piece of the host, and gave it to his daughter (who was 2 or 3). I stared him down, and waited for the opportunity to see him after Mass, to talk to him about it, but that opportunity didn’t come. I think I scared him.

Another time, two ladies were making sarcastic remarks in response to everything the priest said in his homily, and I stared them down for a long time. They left.
 
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As we were waiting for Christmas Eve mass to begin, the woman behind me pulled out her CELL PHONE and actually placed a call!!

I couldn’t believe it.

A bunch of us turned around and gave her a ‘look’…
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:whacky: That one tops the list of obnoxious people. I’ve seen people rudely answer a call but to actually take it out and make a call. This one takes the prize:bounce:
 
The pastor at the parish where my son went to parochial school took every opportunity, and I mean every, to fundraise. Just before one of the Christmas masses began, he got up in the pulpit and began what sounded like a pitch for money. My husband groaned and said audibly, “Oh geeze, what’s he hawking NOW?” I elbowed him. :twocents:
 
I have never been in a situation yet where the above options were necessary.
 
I’ve not corrected any one at mass. One time few years back now, year 2000. I made my way back to church, after a 25 year absence. We were a little apprehensive. My boys even recieved the eucharist without baptism, unbeknown to anyone. It was a certain way my eldest boy was conducting or not conducting himself walking to communion. All of 10 years old. This parishioner, a long timer, and oldhand at attending mass, lectured my son on his conduct. We felt verbally assaulted and not very warmly welcomed. I said to this man, give him a go, this is our first time at mass. His response, "Well all the more reason to conduct yourself, more reverently.

What my son did wrong in this mans eye was, walk the wrong way back to his seat.
Parishioners need to be more forgiving of peoples innocent ignorance.

I felt bad about this for quiet some time, and I forgave this man, without his knowledge.

Talk about driving newcomerws away, if I werent so strongwilled, and my family werent in the catholic program, I would have taken for the hills.

shae
 
I’m glad you hung in there, Shae, and continued to attend church.

I often have trouble hearing over the loud crying and talking of children in the congregation, but when my children were little they were awful – I had to take them out almost every mass. So I try to relax and ignore it.
Once during a crowded Spanish mass, several teenagers standing along the side were talking loudly in English. For some reason, people seem to assume that if they can’t understand what’s going on, nothing is really going on. Anyway I said politely, I can’t hear the priest, would you mind going outside to talk. The boy I spoke to looked angry at first, then I smiled at him and he and his friends did go away. I don’t usually speak up but we were the only non-Hispanic people there and I was embarrassed by their behavior.
 
This is a very difficult situation. I don’t think I would have asked them to “go outside to talk”, I would have asked them to please be quiet during Mass.

I often wressel with that one–But I do think it is better to have them at Mass than not, even though they are talking. They did come to Mass, which is better than not.
 
I answered “no, but really wanted to.”

I try to arrive at mass about 30 minutes early so I can sit quietly and pray or read the readings for the day. There are several older women who arrive around the same time and sit in church and talk (loudly) about their lives, common friends, current events, etc. I’ve never had the nerve to ask them to stop, or lower their voices, or give them “the stare”; I’ve never even had the nerve to move to another pew. But it’s incredibly distracting when it happens. I sometimes I sit there and the only thing I can pray is : “please Lord, make them stop talking!”
 
I once told the teenaged boy in front of me in the first pew to remove his baseball cap which he wore in and still had on as Mass was beginning. He did but his mother chided me for correcting her son. For the sake of peace I apologized to her at the sign of peace.

I bit my tongue clear through the day a preteen sat beside her mother all during Mass and read a book about witches except for communion time when she went up to receive Jesus and came right back to sit with her book again.

I’m not sure if I did right or wrong in either of these cases.
 
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Evan:
Illicit … probably.

Invalid … NOT. The eastern church has never used unlevened bread. The western church (roman rite) did not start using it until the 6th century (It may have been earlier, 4th century?) But in any case, there is no problem using levened bread so long as it is made of wheat.
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i think you’re mistaken about this, evan:

newadvent.org/cathen/01349d.htm
 
Carolyn SFO:
I once told the teenaged boy in front of me in the first pew to remove his baseball cap which he wore in and still had on as Mass was beginning. He did but his mother chided me for correcting her son. For the sake of peace I apologized to her at the sign of peace.
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It is always good to strive for peace, and we usually second guess ourselves. Perhaps you could have said you were sorry she was upset, rather than apologizing for doing the right thing?
I bit my tongue clear through the day a preteen sat beside her mother all during Mass and read a book about witches except for communion time when she went up to receive Jesus and came right back to sit with her book again.
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This would be less of a common distraction, so perhaps it was better to remain quiet. I may or may not have said something quitely to the mom, but I think I would have changed my seat, so as not to be distracted by seeing this through the entire Mass.
 
If you mean in as far as correcting someone who is doing something wrong either liturgically or theologically …

No.

There is a time and place for everything, and during the Mass is not the time for such behavior.

*But after Mass, now that’s an altogether different story … *

LOL

frank
 
Kids I correct as a matter of routine, especially my own and the others I am escorting.

I only corrected an adult once. She had brought a bible and a workbook, and spent the entire mass flipping back and forth through it while scribbling notes for a bible study class!!!

During the consecration prayer I couldn’t stand it any more, and whispered to her that her attention should be focused on the altar instead. She said something rude to me, but she did put the books away.

At the sign of peace I apologized for speaking “harshly” to her. She apparently thought I was apologizing for daring to correct her, but I let it go.
 
I don’t go to church to be a Pharisee judging other people; I’m a Publican hanging my head and concentrating on God and my own failings.
 
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