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Annunciata
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I have never heard it in a homily nor even a mention of contraception in any way in my parish…the only thing we ever hear about is tolerance towards the Gays…and we never hear about the evil of abortion either.
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chevalier
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Apart from being knocked on the head with Matthew, people need to be shown the alternative. What are we going to achieve storming into people’s lives and telling them what’s wrong? What they need to know is why contraception sucks, why out of wedlock shagging sucks and why they are better off chaste than sorry. This way, even people who aren’t ever going to become Catholic will get something out of it. Catholics need first of all be shown how their sinning hurts God before they are told about the warm place in hell. Preaching this is sin, that is sin and all sort of natural lawyering has never worked for me like telling people about the loving God.
If contraception goes, they don’t need to be told that the way to hell is paved with RU-486 pills. They already know that, but they don’t care. What they need to be told that love is about total self-giving. Mother Church knows better and she doesn’t want them to end up in mutually exploitative arrangements but she has that ideal love they have always wanted since childhood for them and they only need to reach for it. When Mother Church tells them not to shag like bunnies, she doesn’t want them to end up having memories of losing virginity on dope or being gang-banged by half the football team at a drinking party. Mother Church doesn’t want them to collect scars from relationships which pretend to be marriage in everything but name, but in fact aren’t, either. Mother Church doesn’t want them to slave themselves away to the sex-obssessed mindless shagging culture of the modern day but she wants them to be free of that and enjoy as much of the real love as they can get and gain as little scars as possible. Putting up with **** along the way is not the way to get the big thing.
Once they have the big thing, they will know what safe sex really means. Safe from abuse, exploitation and treating like furniture and all other things they have hated in their premarital relations. They don’t need any barriers and don’t need to mess with the natural functions of their bodies. They don’t need to take away from the union by making it infertile, they don’t need any risk of killing already conceived babies and they don’t need any rubber getting in the way of their happiness.
If contraception goes, they don’t need to be told that the way to hell is paved with RU-486 pills. They already know that, but they don’t care. What they need to be told that love is about total self-giving. Mother Church knows better and she doesn’t want them to end up in mutually exploitative arrangements but she has that ideal love they have always wanted since childhood for them and they only need to reach for it. When Mother Church tells them not to shag like bunnies, she doesn’t want them to end up having memories of losing virginity on dope or being gang-banged by half the football team at a drinking party. Mother Church doesn’t want them to collect scars from relationships which pretend to be marriage in everything but name, but in fact aren’t, either. Mother Church doesn’t want them to slave themselves away to the sex-obssessed mindless shagging culture of the modern day but she wants them to be free of that and enjoy as much of the real love as they can get and gain as little scars as possible. Putting up with **** along the way is not the way to get the big thing.
Once they have the big thing, they will know what safe sex really means. Safe from abuse, exploitation and treating like furniture and all other things they have hated in their premarital relations. They don’t need any barriers and don’t need to mess with the natural functions of their bodies. They don’t need to take away from the union by making it infertile, they don’t need any risk of killing already conceived babies and they don’t need any rubber getting in the way of their happiness.
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MonicaPA
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Our priest just gave a sermon last Sunday about the evils of abortion, contraception, remarriage without annulment process, and many other issues.
I guess our parish is blessed…it is sad to see so many who have never heard a homily about this!:crying:
Perhaps mentioning that you would love to hear your priest talk about these issues might help.
Peace of Christ,
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I guess our parish is blessed…it is sad to see so many who have never heard a homily about this!:crying:
Perhaps mentioning that you would love to hear your priest talk about these issues might help.
Peace of Christ,
M
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SWTHRT
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Yes, ususally about once a year, our priest gives a BIG homily against contraception, abortion, and euthanasia. It isn’t something I hear on a regular basis throughout the year during the homily.
Karen
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netmilsmom
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How old are you friend? This is not a personal question, just a younger or older will do.
I pray you are young so you can lead the little ones with your wisdom. I am very impressed with your post and being the mother of two young girls I hope this is a wave of intelligence starting in the young people. God knows, this many brains are not evident in the 30ish or 40ish of my generation.
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alterserver_07
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The priest that use to be at our parish said it more than once a year that it is wrong and the priest here now does it probably once a year. I am lucky to have priest like this at my parish. Especially two in a row.
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Kielbasi
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No, and I hope I never do. Sex is an inappropriate topic for the children in attendance, and irrelevant for those in middle age or older.
Perhaps at a homily during a marriage retreat it would be appropriate, but not at Sunday mass.
Perhaps at a homily during a marriage retreat it would be appropriate, but not at Sunday mass.
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CARose
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I disagree that it would be inappropriate. Is not the priest supposed to teach from the pulpit? Certainly this is the most crucial lesson our parishoners need to learn and heed.
CARose
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Lucania
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My former parish USED to have a Deacon and his wife was director of childrens religious education. I have a family member that still goes there and she told me that the Deacon is no longer there because he made people feel uncomfortable with his homilies. I understand what went “over the top” was his homily on contraception/NFP. The last time I heard him speak at Mass he was talking about the proper way to approach the Eucharist. I was happy to hear that let me tell you. He had a very loud and commanding voice too. Anyway, quite a few people complained about him and now he’s gone. The new director of religious ed is very on fire for the faith but not very traditional. My Godson had his 1st Holy Communion last Sunday. The Church (a very large one) was packed. The music for this special occasion was a young Hispanic group called Huellas. The music was very comtemporary and had a “up with people” feel to it in my opinion. While I thought as a Christian group they were good, I didn’t feel it was appropriate to have them playing at Mass and at the 1st Holy Communion Mass at that. They should have been playing at a concert for the teens, NOT AT MASS.
The director asked that everyone take out their keys and shake them at certain parts of THE GLORIA! :bigyikes: OY VEY! It was all VERY PROTESTANT. There was hand clapping during The Gloria too.
The director asked that everyone take out their keys and shake them at certain parts of THE GLORIA! :bigyikes: OY VEY! It was all VERY PROTESTANT. There was hand clapping during The Gloria too.
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ames61
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We had a homily like that this weekend. Our priest is big into TOTB, and speaks very clearly and directly about the kind of love we should be waiting for.
I would disagree with that because the people who most need to hear the message against contraception are the ones least likely to attend a marriage retreat. You need to meet people where they are. Hopefully the priest does it in a way that respects his audience. It can be done. I’ve heard a homily that was oblique enough to not offend little ears, yet plain enough to generate several letters to the bishop, complaining about this priest who would dare to tell them what to do in the bedroom. Teaching the Catholic faith . . . What horrors!!!
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ames61
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We’re singing that Gloria during Easter and I hate it. I hate changing the words to the prayer. Its supposed to be for children’s masses, but my kids hate it too. A friend says it sounds like a cereal jingle. :yup:
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Kay_Cee
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I think the reason they don’t preach about contraception is that they’re afraid of emptying the pews.
Last year, during confession, I asked my priest if a certain sexual action was a sin. I had been trying to find the official church teaching in this matter, but had not been able to. Another priest had told me the action was all right, but it just didn’t seem right to me.
Anyway, the priest I was confessing to got very uncomfortable, but not because we were discussing sex. He said, “Because you are asking me this in the confessional, I am bound to tell you the truth.” Then he fell silent. I was thinking, “Shouldn’t he tell me the truth even outside the confessional?” I kept waiting for an answer but then realized with a shock that he didn’t want to tell me–he was actually waiting for me to say “Never mind!”
Well, I insisted upon an answer. I actually had to tell him I wanted to be obedient to the church! And sure enough, what he eventually told me was the exact opposite of what the other priest had told me.
So, if we’re not getting homilies about contraception, it’s probably because they’re scared people will leave the faith.
Last year, during confession, I asked my priest if a certain sexual action was a sin. I had been trying to find the official church teaching in this matter, but had not been able to. Another priest had told me the action was all right, but it just didn’t seem right to me.
Anyway, the priest I was confessing to got very uncomfortable, but not because we were discussing sex. He said, “Because you are asking me this in the confessional, I am bound to tell you the truth.” Then he fell silent. I was thinking, “Shouldn’t he tell me the truth even outside the confessional?” I kept waiting for an answer but then realized with a shock that he didn’t want to tell me–he was actually waiting for me to say “Never mind!”
Well, I insisted upon an answer. I actually had to tell him I wanted to be obedient to the church! And sure enough, what he eventually told me was the exact opposite of what the other priest had told me.
So, if we’re not getting homilies about contraception, it’s probably because they’re scared people will leave the faith.
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sconea
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At our parish (fairly conservative) an assistant priest gave a homily on contraception. Many people got up and walked out. The priest was called down to talk to the bishop…he never spoke on the topic again.
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Kay_Cee
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You mean he got called on the carpet for telling the truth? That’s sick–and coming from a bishop no less. Sounds like Jesus being hauled before the Sanhedrin.
Maybe priests should make it clear that fidelity to the church’s teachings is fidelity to Christ, then, eventually, ease into the topic of contraception.
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contemplative
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Never, never…
and I have heard quite a few in my time.
and I have heard quite a few in my time.
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CatholicCid
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I have heard a few, so I guess I am lucky…
One of the more memorable ones was at a school mass and was definately called for… The myth that our school would expell someone for having an abortion began flying around and was put to rest by our Priest. He then gave a great homily on responsibility, contraceptions, ect… When he gets into a homily, he really gets into it
One of the more memorable ones was at a school mass and was definately called for… The myth that our school would expell someone for having an abortion began flying around and was put to rest by our Priest. He then gave a great homily on responsibility, contraceptions, ect… When he gets into a homily, he really gets into it
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deaconswife
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Why is it that only the priest is mentioned as preaching about contraception? Yes, I have heard someone speak about contraception - my husband who is a deacon. For every negative comment that he received, he got far more positive comments from people who are married and trying to live out the Church’s teachings.
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David_B
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space ghost:
I remember reading awhile back that the late Bishop of Saginaw, Ken Untener was a major proponent of having 4 minute snippets after communion where the priest might bring up a point of doctrine. I know he was a controversial fellow but if properly implemented this could still allow the homily to be about the readings but also provide some time for catechesis as well.
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OutinChgoburbs
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Our diocese not only has priests willing to discuss the issue, they offer monthly inserts in the bulletin that cover a variety of pro-life topics, all well within the bounds of the Truth. No hedging. No skirting around the edges. 
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FdeS2
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Yes, I have. It is especially wonderful when the priest or deacon makes the message vague for children but crystal clear for adults and teenagers. Every teenager needs to know about the sacred nature of love and why sex exists. They also need to know that contraception interferes with the plan for life that God has and has instituted in sexual intercourse within marriage. So many of my peers are confused or simply don’t care about these issues. They have been “conditioned” by the media and the popular culture. Please, everyone, encourage religious leaders to tell all people (esp. pre-teens and teenagers) about the evils of abortion & contraception and about the beauty of true love in marriage.
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