Having a wedding in the Catholic church

[Calliope]

Yes, even the local country club gives “dibs” to members over nonmembers, VFW hall etc, same deal. Many protestant churches in the area require proof that the couple went to premarital counseling with a local pastor before allowing a marriage to take place in their locale. It’s nice to see priority being given to the actual marriage rather than the ceremony.

I understand that many people have lovely ideas about their dream wedding, but I also hope, as I found to be true in my own life, that the wedding day was not the most important or best day of my life, things got better and better during the marriage itself. It was the start of a great adventure

 

[Joe_5859]

I’m kind of interested to know what the OP has to say about all of the feedback he has received…

 

[EnglishTeacher]

Many protestant churches in the area require proof that the couple went to premarital counseling with a local pastor before allowing a marriage to take place in their locale.

Yes, in my experience, this is usually the rationale of protestant/non-denom churches–to their credit.

 

[TheLittleLady]

Not to mention that there are ONLY 51 Saturdays available each year (no weddings on Holy Saturday).

There are also going to be First Communions,
Quinceañeras, parish festivals, etc.

For an in demand tourist town parish, there will be no way to accommodate every couple unless we do group weddings!

 

[Tis_Bearself]

I really wish you two could find another more welcoming Catholic church.

 

[rondirect]

So my daughter is getting married next year - just got engaged.

Sorry, Kenny, that you are going through all this. If it is not possible for them to get married in the church they are members of (assuming they are registered members), I wonder why they cannot speak to the pastor of the church that is more centrally located and get a letter from their home parish that they are in good standing with them. I know our staff does this. Check that out.

Also, not pertaining to this situation, a couple who lives in our city and is not registered, is asked to register. I believe the fee for the church is different, but not quite sure. It’s done in the hope that we will gain 2 new parishioners for helping and doing the right thing.

 

[His_helpmeet]

I don’t think canon law prohibits celebrating weddings during those times (apart from Good Friday and Holy Saturday - no sacraments apart from Penance, Anointing of the Sick, and emergency Baptism can be celebrated on these days). It is suggested, though, (especially during Lent) that the couple consider the penitential nature of these seasons and don’t have a very extravagant wedding.

 

[TC3033]

Thanks!

We’ve only got two to choose from (one in town and the country one) without having to drive to the next city down, so for now it is what it is.

My wife has talked about going back out to the country as some of that leadership has changed, but they also didn’t view me as a member there either when “we” were registered there. We did just get a letter from them, for some reason, about working their parish festival and for the first time from that parish my asterisk was removed…so who knows.

 

[Irishmom2]

Sorry, I have irritated you so much with an opinion about trying to make it easier for people to get married in the Church.
Perhaps the Catholic Church could operate better if it accommodated others better.
I understand that some people are leaving the Church.
I believe that we must do whatever is necessary to keep that from happening. If that means, trying to help others, it would seem sensible to try to do that.
Irishmom2, this is a forum. You know, discuss stuff. More than one point of view.
But I know it is irritating to some of you folks.
I will pray for you.

It seems to me that you are the one that is irritated, not me. Yes, it’s a forum, we are discussing things. But it is you that are irritated because you don’t like what people are saying.