One more question; if birth control is a mortal sin because it is used to not get pregnant then why wouldn’t abstinence be a mortal sin too?
Thank you for asking this question because I believe many people think this same thing. There is a HUGE difference between birth control and abstinence or periodic abstinence!
First of all, in scripture, it tells us that we will know the tree by the fruits it has produced. The fruit that has come from the tree of birth control is not good. Since birth control has been widely available, we have:
—4000 abortions each and every day in the United States! That is a HUGE number! Obviously, these birth controls are not working well.
—Another thing that most people have not put together is the fact that 1 in 4 adults walk around with VD! Now- remember- this is 1in 4 adults who have VD- WITH the availability of condoms! You know why?? Because condoms don’t always protect you! Something they did not share with us when they were saying, “Safe Sex!” 1 in 4 is a huge number, and teens are right there, too!!! So sad!
—Another thing that is not readily shared is the fact that birth control pill are actually NOT 99% effective in keeping conception from occurring! The percentage is much much lower. In order to keep that 99% without a bunch of negative side effects, the makers of these drugs have added an ingredient that makes the woman’s uterus not be able to hold a fertilized egg. So- the woman’s body aborts her tiny baby!
God creates things perfectly! We have seasons of the year, and our bodies have seasons! There is a season of fertility, and a season of infertility! Now- I mentioned my story above- so I won’t repeat it- but one might assume my pregnancies were back to back! They were not! My oldest- the one conceived on the birth control pill - will soon be 16! My youngest is 3. I have been off the birth control pill for 16 years! My other pregnancies ONLY occurred when we were together in the fertile times! We have NEVER had a “woops” on NFP! When used properly, it is 99% effective without all of the bad side effects and without putting chemicals in your body, and without making one think they are safe in certain areas when they are not!
I know someone who has 11 brothers and sisters. The mother had 4 miscarriages, so that means she was pregnant pretty much her whole life until she was old enough to not be able to, naturally.
These kids took care of each other, none of them lived a normal life because mom was overwhelmed with home and trying to take care of too many kids. Most of these kids, specially the ones born later, did not get the one on one with mom that the older kids got.
Something that I forgot to mention, maybe I didn’t want to mention this because it’s a touchy subject but my mother didn’t have any patients with me, she had my brother and ten years later she had me.
My brother did everything for me. Help me get ready for school, took me to school and picked me up. I remember like it was yesterday, my brother braiding my hair.
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Okay- this gets SO sensitive, so I will try to be delicate! I have MANY friends with MANY children!!! One of my friends with- 6 or 7 herself- adopted 2 brother and sister teams from Russia! For a total of 4 adopted! She homeschools and drives a bus! These kids do SO many things! Everyone is happy and well adjusted!
I could go on and on about all of the fabulous large families! No doubt there are some that are having issues! But- I need to point out that your mother only had two that you mentioned, and she had some difficulties!
What I wish to say is that this life is hard! No getting around that. Someone close to me decided to not have children. Anyway- they went on this way for many years, and then they changed their minds! They tried and tried to get pregnant! And then it seemed all hell broke loose! One had a self owned business and was sued! Lost SO much! One ended up bipolar and was hospitalized. The other one lost their job. The mother-in-law got cancer and had to move in with them. They were an absolute MESS! Now- they won’t even go around family because it breaks the woman’s heart to see all the kiddos running around laughing and happy! And TRUE happiness comes from watching OTHERS be happy- so their parents- even though they have much less monitarily, are MILLIONAIRES of happiness! This couple has lost SO much of the monitary things they had- and now are alone and miserable!
This life will NEVER be perfect! That is for the next life! And sometimes when we attempt to make our lives perfect by keeping out things that might make it more difficult- children for instance- we might be signing ourselves up for other - more unwelcomed- challenges!
I’ll end here for I tend to be too wordy! Sorry for that! I would ask one thing. Please continue praying to Our Lady. She is very gentle! I also HIGHLY recommend Adoration of the Blessed Sacrament. Please try to listen with an open heart, though! If you close it, they cannot speak.
Some of the people (young and old) in the same nursing facility as my mother never have anyone to visit and if they had family to help them with daily chores would not need to be in an institution if only they had minimal help.